View Full Version : Do you have poor impulse control when stressed?


Tamsin
04-23-11, 12:51 AM
Hi all! I have Asperger's Syndrome as well as ADD and find that at times when I become stressed I have very bad impulse control and don't always have a good idea of what is "dangerous" or not. Sometimes it takes me a few seconds to realize that something is dangerous and therefore not okay.

For example, one time I was very stressed out after my mother dropped me off at my bus stop. I realized I forgot a very important paper in her car and became so stressed and so focused on the paper (by this time I was also crying) that, without thinking, I ran out into the road, with other cars driving around, and tried to chase my mother's car down. It didn't occur to me that I could get hit. Actually, I didn't even notice the other cars that were driving past me.

I also have social anxiety. Although I don't mind kids I am not a good baby sitter for several reasons, one of them being that I have a delayed "danger" reaction. I am not sure if it is maybe social anxiety that is distracting me, but it takes me a few seconds to realize that I probably shouldn't be letting that 6 year old play with the stove, or I shouldn't let that toddler chew on that pen. It's not that I am stupid, but it just takes me longer to figure things like that out.

Although things like the former are rare events for me, things like the latter happen every time I am left alone to baby sit a child. It's not even just dangerous things. Sometimes it's things that are inappropriate, like letting a child repeatedly go to the sink, fill a glove full of water, bring it to bed, dump the water, and then repeat the process.

I can't explain why this happens, but it occured to me that maybe it is related to ADD or AS? Has anybody else experience anything like this?

Werl
04-25-11, 06:00 PM
The judgement problems with your babysitting seem AS related and ADD could cause a lapse in judgement. Altho I don't have these problems (except when I get angry and my actions aren't pre thought out), it sounds related.

Welcome to the forum and hopes that helps.

fracturedstory
04-25-11, 08:24 PM
First one sounds like a meltdown. You're under a lot of stress so aren't thinking clearly. I have beaten my fists against walls, kicked and screamed and just made quick highly emotive decisions.

The poor danger response could be that you're in a situation that has changed and appears more chaotic than what you are used to, so a few things slip your mind. It could be either AS or ADHD related.

I don't think I could babysit kids. I don't think I could be trusted with them.

tired1823
04-25-11, 08:33 PM
Sometimes I look back on things and see that I had a lapse in judgement. I think these things you're describing sound like they are treatable once you figure out why you do them. Do you see a specialist and are you receiving treatment? I would ask someone that could help you with coping techniques.

Rebelyell
04-25-11, 08:49 PM
Yeah i do usually when manic hyper or it involves powersports.

Tamsin
04-25-11, 11:59 PM
The poor danger response could be that you're in a situation that has changed and appears more chaotic than what you are used to, so a few things slip your mind. It could be either AS or ADHD related.

I don't think I could babysit kids. I don't think I could be trusted with them.

Yeah, I am sure it's just due to stress, but it is still very annoying and I don't trust myself to care for a child.