I was just wondering if any of you deal with teasing about your ADD traits from your spouses or partners and how do you handle that?

Not so much any more, but my husband liked to bring it into our fights as a way of turning the issues onto me......

Same here,

It is sometimes light-hearted humor, but sometimes it is a bit nasty. It can be very nasty and cutting during arguments.

depends on who I am with, some it's just a light laugh but most people are downright nasty.

My DH can be as sweet as he can be cruel. Sometimes I laugh with him, sometimes I get mad at him and many times I cry or feel like crying. He feels in the right to act as my teacher or father or some kind of guidance, so I guess when he is cruel he is just trying to "make me stronger".

I tell them that I feel pity for them...for having so much of low self esteem that they have to put down another person when they can not help who they are...

When My dad used to put me down i'd look him straight in the face..." That's right dad, I am a screw up...but You made me and raised me so I guess that makes you a bigger screw up." Hmmm he could not say much after that...

Truth is Fire that burns inside....IOW.Truth Hurts dont it!

idid from my wife until i was diagnosed. it hasnt been very long so well see bout that:)

i do get it from some of my co-workers who just dont understand .
it is good practice for my temper. if i react at all its usually to shake my head & walk on:mad: , trying very hard to not talk out loud to meself

I know exactly what ya mean......So may times I wanted to tell off my bosses abnd sometimes I couldn't bite my tounge...Co Workers I did not give A damn....They heard my mouth reguardless..

I refuse to be treated less than a human being or made to feel that way just cause I am different...And thank God For it cause ppl like that are shmucks!

Well, it is the teasing from my husband about various things in the house or he will say, "Now, don't blame it on your ADD". I can't win with him. I still love him for his other qualities just not his teasing. He doesn't understand the self-esteem part of the ADD. I am slowly trying to tell him how sensitive I am to it.

The Flat out approach works for me..Tell him straight up BACK OFF and their is soo many books out their about ADD tell him to pick on up....Or even better..send him here..education is a beautiful thing!

ohyeah-my my mother still gives me the your not add-just always been lazy.
she dont wanna change, i wont change her, oh well. thats just one reason why we live clear cross the country.
but lately at work ive noticed that a flat-out approach gets more attention & respect.
at least to my face.

Oh yeah, ppl dont wanna mess with ya if you start telling them where to get off...and the truth about themselves.....Tell Mommy that we are not lazy it's just that we get distracted by other things and just forget or dont think about them..Um guess where I came up with that fact.....A BOOK!!!!!!!!!!!! I used to think it was just me:D

last time we spoke i mentioned a coupla books to her. this site also.

shes old & set in her ways-her cross to bear.

sorry if i sound cold, but theres a history there.

Not cold at all....I had the same type of father....Never see my side of thing...Once he told me the same thing your mom said..."Why are U so lazy...Oh I know what what you are going to say....It must be the ADD." nice guy:rolleyes: he was the same as your mother..Old and set in his ways...they must have went to the same Normie Charm School.:p

..No sence holding a grudge against him now(Lord rest him) but trust me there is bad history there too.

There was once a child I taught, a good kid, who tended to obsess over little things. I taught him a phrase and a hand signal that has helped him infinitely.

"Let it go."

People take enough crap regularly that I think we all should just let it go, I know I deal with crap all the time, I just let it go, because really, not worth my energy.

In los of ways I have let things go....I know they are not going to change so I just dont give a ****

in my house it just seems like a joke. no one wants to think there is anything wrong with me. so i dont even discuss it with anyone. my mother doesnt understand it and doesnt know a lick about it and really doesnt seem interested in reading about it. sometime i feels like she thinks i am using it as an excuse and when i say something she says well i havent seen any changes (re: my meds). anyway my aunt said she (mother) just doesnt want to think anything is wrong with her children and i said shoot when my daughter was diagnosed i was elated. then i knew she had a problem and it wasnt me just being a bad mom. so i dont know about that one. who knows.

Maybe they say they do not want to read about anything cause it will be real to them and can't handle it...just the thoughts of a Tired ADD Doot

it makes sense...............i think she is in denial herself. not saying she has add but she has something.lol.

Cleopatra Queen of Denile Complex LOL!!!!!!

me and my brother always laugh at her and tell her she is in denial. on top of that i am always calling her a drama queen and anal. she hates it.....but tis soooo funny :D

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!! Truth hurts eh. Whether it is true or not ..poetic justice on the falsehoods passed to us;)

KMiller,
I just have to know what the hand signal was....NOT the 3rd finger, right?

or the whole hand flipped under the chin :D

Kmiller, doesn't it work nicely? :) thats how I deal with all the cr*p people give me, I either let it go BUT if they insist on going on a little raised voice hear and there always puts them in there place

I can can let somethings go but if they cant let it go then......hehe they will my mouth!