View Full Version : Have APD & a lot of difficulty socializing?

11-06-11, 08:15 PM
I haven't been officially diagnosed with APD, but after a consultation with an APD specialist they said I was "at high risk" for having APD. Anyway, I've started to realize one of my biggest problems is missing what people have said and then be uncertain or have to keep saying "what". In group convos I can't always have things repeated and it gets embarrassing. As a result I essentially developed social phobia as language got more complex in junior high school and high school. It probably also didn't help that I have ADD-PI and mild OCD/obsessive/perfectionist personality. I'm still not certain whether it's APD or just my ADD-PI because I haven't found any treatment for my ADD that works. When I hear about people with social phobia they often have no rational reason for their fear, so treatment involves realizing that there isn't the danger they think. But when I try I still have this processing problem, I don't know what to do. My hearing is perfect and supposedly after my comprehensive ADD testing it showed that I learn best through auditory means. So confused. Is there anything I can do to help this? I've got health insurance and though not rich I can spend the money for getting the right treatment if it's likely to help. I haven't had a social life for atleast 7 years now.

PS: I noticed this recently even when my brother came to visit me when we were talking I often had to keep saying "what?" especially at the beginning of a conversation. I've of course known him my whole life so one might think I could pick up his speech pattern easily.

11-10-11, 02:56 AM
I am in the middle of being tested and APD might be one of my problems, or it could be poor auditory memory - I am not sure along with being dyslexic and maybe ADD - I don't know and thus all the testing. I also have very little social life. I belong to some student clubs and get along, but no close friends. I can get a first date, but my conversation skills are too poor for a second. Anyway, I don't have any answers as I'm still looking into the problem. I did come across this APD web site on a dyslexic forum: I haven't joined that forum so I don't know how helpful it is but the dyslexic forum recommended it. If I learn anything through my testing that would be helpful I will post it, but it won't be for at least a month before I'm finished.