What floats your boat?

I chose warrior..I can't help it...I'm looking for Super Man!

I'm sorry, I must have a few all in one....is that cheating??? I want: extrovert, comedian, philosopher..and okay yes the caregiver....:) MOST IMPORTANT: the comedian I guess....:)

Can I choose "everything except ruler and innocent?"

All of the attributes seem attractive to me, but ruler to me smacks of closed-mindedness, and anyone who's innocent is faking it (in my jaded opinion!)

I agree on the combination thing

I know, we all want a combination! But which trait is MOST important/attractive to you? That's why I didn't give multiple answer options.....c'mon, you can do it!

;)

I did vote for most too.

By the way Misclee you forgot Wealth....lol

Ooh....so true:) You're a moderator..can you add it???

;)

I was kidding...lol

I know, but very funny;)

Okay, I guess my number one IS::::::

COMEDIAN....I mean we MUST laugh...and he must MAKE me laugh....:)

Comedian also. Everything else is empty if you can't laugh at life...

-- Tom

Yes, laughter is very nice....I like guys with "quick wits"....smooth sense of humor....someone that can just sprout off witty stuff with no problem....and it doesn't always have to be clean either...:)

A fast mind....I hate it when I know how every sentence will end!

LOL -- I have that same problem :) I hate to seem arrogant, but sometimes people just seem so... predictable!

Yes, and then when they speak slowly and you have to WAIT for them to finish saying what you already know they are going to say....torture!

Yes... It's frustrating to know in my heart of hearts that it's very arrogant to think you always will know what some people will do next. But then to be shown that you were right to begin with -- it's hard to remain patient and with even a semblence of humility.

We're ADD, not the "master race" -- but "Homo Linearus" is SUCH a frustrating species sometimes.

-- Tom

My preference ain't on the list - Honesty, I despise liars, cheats etc.
I consider myself a blunt in yer face person (though I try to show some compassion - honest ;) )

So I prefer someone who is honest with me and tells me the truth rather than what they think I want to hear.

I guess I agree with Paul somewhat here...which is why any of my past relationships which had any semblance of success to them.....(although few)....WERE SUCCESSFUL.....

For example as an ADD person, I had to be able to tell them on a date "hey I need to go away from you for about 15 minutes and be alone...because if I don't I will go nuts". Stuff like that.

The other thing I must remember is that it may be ME that is overly predictable to THEM...(if I'm ADD and they are not, they will become more and more intuned to my idiosyncracies). That thought alone will keep me humble. Tom brings up the word arrogance. I know the word arrogance and how it feels to be arrogant. YUCK. I can't STAND how it feels to have a big head. Because I know I'm having it and the other person KNOWS I know I'm having it. And crap starts. YUCK. :(

"homo linearus" ha ha ha :)

Very funny.

I don't think I am arrogant, but I can be self-righteous.....or....are they one and the same?

I don't mean to be, but I think it's just part of my stubbornness?

Misclee -- My grandfather was a very stubborn person! And not at all arrogant. I think stubborn implies they want their way and won't considere anyone else's way......whereas I think when one is arrogant, they think they know what's best for everyone, and what everyone will do, say, etc. they almost think they're "God".....

Self-righteous is close to arrogant but not as intense I guess. Self righteous people simply think think they're right all the time, ie. in their attitudes and the way they think...they tend to go on soap boxes a lot...

I mean of all the things you mention above, it's arrogance that scares me the most as far as not wanting to be that way....it's the one trait people readily identify in others and I identify in others...and plus as I said before, when I'm actually BEING arrogant, it feels like crap....

I don't mean to be. I think I've learned a lot over the years and the people I grew up with are still living in the past, so when I try to share some of what I know, they think I am being self-righteous. Maybe I am sometimes, because their ignorance and resistance to knowledge can be exasperating....they complain about their lives but don't want to learn to do things different. They expect the entire world to change around them, yet stay the same themselves. The answers are so clear to me sometimes, but they just don't see it.

Very deep, very insightful.....good points....

Introverts are the most interesting...!!! They're good listeners and when they learn to trust you, they are very loyal friends and boyfriends. My boyfriend was super shy... and I'm not. I talked about 90% of the time for the first year of our relationship... hee hee.. and no one else the other 10%. Ha ha...

But he's opened up, and we're best friends now, plus seriously dating for almost 5 years now.

I always find the tall, lanky, shy type to be the most interesting and adoarable...

~M

Okay, in the last few months, I've gotten some clarity about this....Here's what I like: funny, likeable, loveable, handsome, functionally ADD, sexy, charming, employed, educated, a little bit introverted, a little extroverted, willing to rescue me sometimes (yup willing to be dysfunctional SOMEtimes), smart, fun, inviting, giving, nurturing, generous, good listener, sensitive, playful, honest, trustworthy, monogamous.....there ya have it....:)

Originally posted by atomx
LOL -- I have that same problem :) I hate to seem arrogant, but sometimes people just seem so... predictable!

Funny... Somehow I *knew* you were going to say that! ;)

Originally posted by joanrdtobe
Okay, in the last few months, I've gotten some clarity about this....Here's what I like: funny, likeable, loveable, handsome, functionally ADD, sexy, charming, employed, educated, a little bit introverted, a little extroverted, willing to rescue me sometimes (yup willing to be dysfunctional SOMEtimes), smart, fun, inviting, giving, nurturing, generous, good listener, sensitive, playful, honest, trustworthy, monogamous.....there ya have it....:)

Sorry, Joan... I'm taken. ;)

That's quite a list Joan. I guess you need to shoot for the stars and you will get the moon :)

I think the best thing for me my wife. While she is very different than mean, she compiments me. When people say opposites attract I think that is so true. You see in someone qualities you don't have, but find desireable. Later those same qualities can at times be conflicts. But they help you grow. I am non-linear thinking, my wife is very linear, logically thinking. I can be impulisve, she is not. One instance is money. I rarely carry any cash on me becaus I know I will spend it. My wife on the otherhand will have the same 8 dollars of whatever, in her wallet for 2 weeks if she has not taken the kids to Burger King or something. Self Controlled versus impulsive. Granted, I am probably not as impulisive as I used to be because of my wife and vice versa for her, but those qualities can complement one another. We have learned to embrace and laugh at our differences instead of fighting over them. There are others as well. I see this so often in married people I know, opposites in multiple areas. I think God has a sense of humor in regards to this. :D

Eric: You are too funny....actually I've had a great long distance relationship in my life the last few months and he pretty much has all those qualities I mentioned.....but we're sort of ending things slowly.....and we're going to be just friends.....because of our religious differences....but having known him these last few months...has been a real gift.....and has given me a real awareness of what's possible.:)....He has ADD and therefore we have understood and complimented each other well because of it. He is a LOT less moody than I am....a lot more childlike and he can really get me out of my tendency to be too serious.....so I WILL continue to shoot for the stars James....:)

Ive made lists over the years. A good sense of humor was always on the list, but none of the other traits were ever on there. What about kind, attractive, Christian, intelligent.....oh, its been a long time since I made a list. Once I got what I asked for. Oh, for the gift of unanswered prayer. LOL
claudia

My list is BIG it's in my head. here it comes...
1.addiction free, any unhealthy substances other than the ocean, and even a constant coffee drinker doesn't qualify

2. easy going, spontaneous
3 honest, upfront able to speak feelings
4 lots of energy to run and play
5 intelligent
6 creative
7 open minded
8 musically open and invoved
9 will dance
10 will sing for fun with me, even though I dont sing well.
11 not jealous, insecure or needy on a constant or often basis
12 does not expect to be my everything
13 non-conventional.
14 able to occassionally wear costumes for no occassion in public
15 independant
This will make the men run!! Obviously I may stay alone, luckily I don't feel alone. So I guess I can be picky!

hi janine: nice list and number 11 does not describe most men, unfortunately.:( most of us are indeed insecure or needy or jealous somewhat often...your list wouldn't necessarily make us run, but it might make us wonder if we're good enough for you:)

Yes and #11 is the big one!
I had to throw my last 2 month relationship to the sharks over #11.
Yet another fellow as of last has now captured my heart, my walmart romance in the self checkout isle. Farthest thing from my mind. when he gave me his card.
So far the #11 is not a factor. and from our four meetings I'd say only 9 or 14 could present a problem. So far he is a keeper.
I hardly ever look for romance, thats why it finds me.

OK, so I have had a few bad experiences in the whole dating area...I have also had some really good ones. I find I often feel attracted to women who initially seem very insecure (much like myself) and then I tend to help build them up and improve their self confidence...and then they leave...I think to certain degree my relationships have often been analogous to a relationship between a rechargeable battery and a battery recharger (me being the recharger!). once the battery is charged, things heat up and either you take the battery out and use it, or things could get messy (basically....I am extremely sensitive and caring and people need that...but once they get it for a while...they feel they no longer need it after a certain amount of time or they feel like they get too much of it and are overwhelmed...thus they must get out of that situation before things explode)!!!!!! Anyway, I have also never really had any relationships with other ADDers and I dont know what it would be like to be with someone similar to me in so many ways...What I like is someone who is looking to be a best friend first,....and the rest can develop hopefully...because once the honeymoon stage is gone, there has to be a strong friendship there to build on into the future...

Quite frankly Missing, I think a lot of women would appreciate what you have to offer....and you sound very aware of your pattern in relationships....Maybe next time, only recharge the battery half way inititally...(if that's possible)....and save the rest of the battery for later?? In other words, just recharge a little at at a time....so the rechargable battery doesn't get so overwhelmed all at once. Better yet, you might leave some of it recharged at all times..!! And let her recharge it herself....Yes I know, easier said than done:)

Hi all, I think for a partner my list would go as:

ADD, Intelligent, Good sense of humor, Patient, No Jeolosy or Envy, able to see the joy in life, Christian (Catholic would be better), Not a neat freak (I'm messy ;) ), likes children, likes to sing with me, Enjoys swimming and light exercising, can cook too, a low carber would be nice, likes to slow dance, taller or equal to 5'-8", likes to be touched, and communicates confidently. Oh and likes animals :)

There that's a mouthful

Joan!

I love your comment...>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

For example as an ADD person, I had to be able to tell them on a date "hey I need to go away from you for about 15 minutes and be alone...because if I don't I will go nuts". Stuff like that.


My boyfriend has done that from the beginning with me. He will wander off and be God knows where? If we are in a park, he could be up a tree....LOL>>> I have never questioned it or needed explanation. But others who have been around us have! The say...where did he go? I just say he is off again! LOL>>> Guess I have an unspoken understanding of ADD? To some it might seem strange..for me it is the norm...and I don't even have ADD.

Deb...that is an amazing level of understanding, and great to see that it works.

Sleepz

Yes it is - and thanks Deb for your continued empathy and compassion for us ADD'ers....

For example, I could go climb a tree and YOU would be okay with it:)...not feeling embarrassed if other people asked why...and not get defensive either.....because so much in our society is based on how our relationships "look" or "appear" to others....and it sounds like they don't matter to you so much....

The more personality of all kinds, the better, I say... :D in fact I want ALL of the above except possibly "Ruler".

Agree Paul.....and the woman who started this thread, Misclee, who thought of all of those personality traits -- was an absolute doll -- a delightful contributor....I was in touch with her for a long time...but she hasn't been back in awhile....too bad....

I think I will e-mail her and tell her how much people have enjoyed responding to her thread.....

Deb we definatly need more people like you !!!! Kudos to you and your understanding........ Wanna talk to my girlfriend for me?

just kidding

=P

Comedy is #1 all-time king. If you are PO'd for almost any reason even at him, with the exception of abuse, and he can make you have a good laugh out loud, well he's a keeper in my book.

For example, my DH was dealing with the bank's 1 800 number at 8pm on my behalf (I was near the point of throwing my cell phone through the window) and he wasn't getting anywhere with them either.

The conversation went like this:

DH: "May I have your name and the name and number of your supervisor please?"

BI*: "My name is Charles, sir. My supervisor is so-and-so at ###."

DH: "Charles, can you help me with X-and-such problem."

BI: "No, sir, that problem needs to be resolved in a branch location."

DH: "I do not understand, Charles. This problem did not begin by me going into a branch location."

BI: "Well, sir, blah, blah...."

DH: "Charles, can you connect me with your immediate supervisor, please."

BI: "I am the last person here. Can I connect you with their voice mail?"

DH: "No, Charles, you are going to help me. My wife cannot buy any food at the market and I need this problem solved right now, tomorrow in a branch location is not good enough. If I give you the number of the Domino's near me can you pay for a pizza to be delivered to my home?"

BI: "I'm afriad I can't do that, sir."

DH: "Is it because you are incapable or is it that you just don't want to?"

BI: "Well, I guess I just don't want to."

DH: "Oh, so you know how I feel about going into the branch location. How about this, can you tell me if you have any branches in Hawaii?"

BI: "Why, will you be traveling soon?"

DH: "No, I just figured that if you had any there, then they would still be open and I could call."

BI: "I'm sorry, we have no branches in Hawaii."

DH: "All right, how about Alaska?"

BI: "Uh, yes, Anchorage 905....."

DH: "Thank you Charles"

I was laughing so hard by the time he hung up I wasn't mad or hungry anymore! BTW he called the supervisor the next day and gave him a good report on ol'Charles!

*Bank Idiot

Is ‘willing’ a personality type?

LOL

Hey, Andrew?
I copied your gif :D

Another type I think should be "Do gooder" I'm always saying "Yes, I can do that for you!" at work or at home.

Hi! I am would need the "willing to put up with me" trait! Now why is that never listed?! :) I have learned my lesson no more non-Add's for a while for me...

At least a philosopher can keep my mind active while it is adrift. A philospher can keep things interesting even in a bare room without furniture, so philosopher I pick. However, Sex-maniacs can do that too! No one listed sex-maniac? Lets be real, who wants a partner who is cracking jokes while ... no way on the comedian. Ruler, now that sounds interestinf for a night, or maybe a fortnight, or atleast a weekend - a sleep over weekend, including whips and all that. But after one weekend I think I'd go back to philospher. Thinker - well a thinker may think without speaking, so that can not do any good. Philosophers have to espouse their beliefs, or at least ask Socratic questions, again keeping others busy wondering why gravity was designed to go down instead of up. Extrovert is cool, but it can be overdone. The party is over, and the extrovert is still trying to impress me? Honey, the guests are gone, go to bed! Introverts? No, they are too difficult to peer inside of. Caregiver? I have a mom already, thank you. Its hard to have sex with a caregiver and sex is paramount to me, next to the philosophy stuff. Revel is cool, for a weekend or two. Get a Harley on rental and go have some fun! but that lasts until she rebels against my philosophy or my sex...then its over. Warrior..I have to admit, I do love a good fight sometimes, and the warrior women do turn me on, but they tend to stay at war long after the battle is over. Innocent? No way. I'm done with my cherry days. I need a woman! 100% Female, Sex-Maniac-Philosopher!

:)
Jon

Where is the option to choose celebate hermit who doesn't want to have a relationship?

I don't know, nobody seems to float my boat much that I meet. I never really go on dates either. I will meet some girls somewhere occasionally, but rarely is there any connection at all. I have told that I am good looking, but when it comes to meeting women I am totally inept and never have much to say. Maybe I have aspberger syndrome or something. I don't know what type of women I want anymore.

as i tell my wife i only ask for a few traights

big brain 140+
big nose (i have a small one i like noses, english indians the best)
and big butt!!!

smart and zophtig!!!!

no skinny women for me

oh yeh and at least 45 years old
i am 41 my wife is 51 and size 12/14!!
oh yeah and 163!!!

Well I would prefer the following criterion:

1) Good looks, preferably the cute-looking type with big eyes and a nice charming smile :) Good figures, preferably the same race (Chinese) and slightly shorter.
2) Mathematically, Spatially, Creatively Gifted, Artistically Gifted. I like those very smart ones who are of about the same ability level as me. Good to have one with an extremely long attention span and an inexhaustible working memory capacity too (since both are important prerequisites to being able to hold long philosophical debates or long mathematical discussions, which I LOOOVE best :D )
3) Displays the same interests as I do.
4) Incredibly imaginative and loves fantasizing.
5) Same character as me: Introvert, Slightly Aspergoid (LOL ... I love using that word :D ), Extremely Obsessive interests and hobbies (LOL for me its collecting pictures of human brains O_o !_¿ *_* I prefer one who loves inventing gadgets, computing numbers, solving mathematical problems, imagining imaginary worlds, and most importantly, shares the same ambition as I do), Loves an endless amount of intellectual stimulation, High energy level at night (dont worry I aint thinking of what most of ya may think what I may be thinking :D ).
6) Empathetic and Caring.
7) Has the desire to provide our children with the most enriching environment ever. Willing to start educating kids from day 1.
8) Must have an extremely well-developed abstract reasoning capacity.
9) Learns through discovery.

Hmmm......pretty difficult to find a partner who meets the above criteria. Hehe, I was wondering if theres any member (females of course!) here who fits into all these.

At least a philosopher can keep my mind active while it is adrift. A philospher can keep things interesting even in a bare room without furniture, so philosopher I pick. However, Sex-maniacs can do that too! No one listed sex-maniac? Lets be real, who wants a partner who is cracking jokes while ... no way on the comedian. Ruler, now that sounds interestinf for a night, or maybe a fortnight, or atleast a weekend - a sleep over weekend, including whips and all that. But after one weekend I think I'd go back to philospher. Thinker - well a thinker may think without speaking, so that can not do any good. Philosophers have to espouse their beliefs, or at least ask Socratic questions, again keeping others busy wondering why gravity was designed to go down instead of up. Extrovert is cool, but it can be overdone. The party is over, and the extrovert is still trying to impress me? Honey, the guests are gone, go to bed! Introverts? No, they are too difficult to peer inside of. Caregiver? I have a mom already, thank you. Its hard to have sex with a caregiver and sex is paramount to me, next to the philosophy stuff. Revel is cool, for a weekend or two. Get a Harley on rental and go have some fun! but that lasts until she rebels against my philosophy or my sex...then its over. Warrior..I have to admit, I do love a good fight sometimes, and the warrior women do turn me on, but they tend to stay at war long after the battle is over. Innocent? No way. I'm done with my cherry days. I need a woman! 100% Female, Sex-Maniac-Philosopher!

:)
JonThank you for succintly saying exactly what i wanted and possibly all the males on this page wanted to express

1 vote for SEX MANIAC.

Yep I like a man who is quick witted. My last boyfriend was dull as an old knife. I realized I couldn't deal with that.

My #1 is thinker. I married a thinker and it's challenging to keep up with him sometimes, but I love it.

#2 and #3 are comedian and caregiver.

I like a good combination of some of them and then I have my least favorite which is another combination. I have never met someone who only fits in 1 category.

None of them, or a combination of some of them

One with a beautiful mind.............................my husband.

Seulement un bel esprit peut alimenter l'âme............:)

I like real people, not fakes. People who are them selves.

this is a tough one...I would say a woman who is non-psycho!(I know this isn't on the list) haha...yes, I have had my share of dating psycho's over the years(probably due to meeting almost all at bars or nightclubs)....where else do you meet woman??!! ladies? if you try to meet one in public, they are almost always startled or surprised and unless you are a really good talker, funny, etc...its VERY hard! I get too nervous approacing a woman, who I think is attractive in public... Since I don't have hardly any friends(to possibly set me up) I can't use that outlet....I'm even considered by most woman to be a good looking guy.. on prior jobs like wokring for Fed Ex, I had woman give me there numbers and ask me if I wanted to go to dinner...

Back to the original question....I would say a woman with a caring personality, who is also failry outgoing, would be nice..oh yeah, between, 5"5-5"10(I'm 6"1, and in good physical shape), 110-135 lbs, eats healthy, can tolerate sports, or better yet, by some miracle LIKES sports, and is better than average looking...asking for to much????? with my last girlfriend(who was the best PERSON I had ever met, so it was VERY hard to end our relationship) I dropped at least two of these "requirements"... after a year of going out, I decided if I wanted to get married, I had to at least have a fairly good physical attraction to the person. Sex and the way a person look isn't everything in a relationship, but it is important, and when there is no sex life, its very hard to have a healthy relationship...back to the single life, at 35! yes!!

The Thinker. What popped into my mind is the statue by Auguste Rodin. The next thing that popped into my mind is that the list left out looks. ;)

It would be nice if the Misclee would create another list with the things we most abhor.

Hello,

I definitely would choose the comedien if I had to choose just one, but I think my boyfriend is a nice combo of comedien, introvert, caregiver, and philosopher. I've learned from kissing the frogs that I just can't be with someone who is unnecissarily critical of things that don't even need to be commented on.
I dated this one guy, Kyle, who would constantly find something to correct about me, or what I was doing, and they were the kind of things where you would just roll your eyes because they were so ridiculous. He would tell me that I wasn't supposed to open a door with a certain hand and things like that.
I'm not against being made aware of things that I could improve upon, but I think people should seriously hold their tongue when they feel the need to incessantly comment in a negative fashion about their partner's behaviour. It seems like you can never do anything correct, and that's true with people like that.

Jess

PS - I was amused that almost none of us chose the "ruler" as an ideal mate. Maybe that could be a wake up call to the men who think it's important to put a woman in her place, or women who feel that way for that matter. Independence is something most of us have come to enjoy, and feeling the need to be a "ruler" can usually be seen as a warning sign of someone who will be jealous, controlling and possessive (what fun!)

I picked rebel cause there was not adventurous. I would love to meet a men that can actually equal or surpassed my taste for new experiences. But a good good combination of comedian and adventurous would be my total cup of tea, green that is :p

Digitl

I choose the caregiver, but I need a mixture of all:
care, intelligence, funny, clever, sports lover (not just watching it!), plenty of energy, adventurous, sexy and cute, a bit of devil-minded, open-minded, gentleman, likes to travel, always on the go has the same interests as I and loves me for who I am! :rolleyes:
by the way, I think I've just found him.... :)

Is he real?

I picked comedian, because that's the first thing I think of when I think of Mike. He also fits the Thinker bill, and since he suits me just fine, I guess that's my preference or I wouldn't have married him....or stayed for that matter.

Did you ever think you were getting a Thinker or Caregiver or whatever, and end up with absolutely not? I once dated a guy I thought was a caregiver type and he turned out to be a selfish twit type.

I got a thinker type twice, and both stayed thinker's and had/have a great sense of humor. The 'thinking' part is very important to me on an intellectual level, but so is a great sense of humor...........

I am going to go with the PHILOSOPHER if I must make a decision. but I have tell ya that we pocess pieces of all of these traits/features and sooo I will also go with the rebel, warrior, thinker and part time commedian. :p

and all round cuddly guy.
.

Is he real?
Did you ever think you were getting a Thinker or Caregiver or whatever, and end up with absolutely not? I once dated a guy I thought was a caregiver type and he turned out to be a selfish twit type.


Yea I found out the hard way when SOME men say they want to "take care" of me they really wanted was to BOSS me. :mad: I noticed ruler to have the lowest desireablity according to the poll. The problem is ther are a lot of ruler who clam to be care takers. :confused:

Is there a way to squeeze all of them into one guy? I would like a guy that's a little bit of all of them...then I couldn't get bored with him.

I think that I've always avoided women that hate/mistreat animals, are mean or are self centered.

I like an easy laugh and an honest smile. Sure I like the idea of beauty (who doesn't) but when we're 80 years old, and have have to tuck our skin in our belts to run down the driveway for the paper. I don't think beauty will matter so much. So as appealing as it is - looks were much lower on my list than decency.

Motorbrain

I think that I've always avoided women that hate/mistreat animals, are mean or are self centered.


People who mistreat animals should have done to them what they did to the animal!! Did I type that out loud?? Sorry animal lover here. My dog is like a daughter to me. She is much easier to get along with than my two legged ones more obedient too. My kitty is more like a step son as he is Gary's cat according to him. Gary thought he caught a stray cat for his girl-friend(me) but I think the cat caught himself a Gary!! Gary has never been mean to cats as I do hang with creul people, he just didn't understand why people like me wanted a cat. I believe the cat has explained the reasons adequately!!

I don't date the wishy-washy kind of man but I do prefer the company of a partner who is able and willing to learn new things.

People who mistreat animals should have done to them what they did to the animal!! Did I type that out loud?? Sorry animal lover here.
I don't date the wishy-washy kind of man but I do prefer the company of a partner who is able and willing to learn new things.
I totaly agree with you Tammy, actually they should have the same thing done to them , then a castration a la Bobbit :D

Me 2 i like a men who love to learn and experience new things....I always seems to see the ones that are very predictable ect....Sigh!! LOL

I NEED an extrovert.. im so introverted that if i was on a date (not that i'm ever goin on a date with someone again cos ive found my true love ) we'd probably end up with nothing to eat or drink. haha

I haven't dated in awhile why well no job back in school stuck with folks no money etc etc

I would a little bit of all but i read this thing if you intraverted your better match with some one is out going, or some that's organized and sytamatic should date some one that is more radom. i I dont' know.

I get guys who are superficial and notice the way photons reflect off my skin and don't care about the rest of me or assume that I'm an idiot because of the looks....GGGRRRR! I have a ton of intelligence and can't stand being treated like a fool. Unfortunately, I usually clam up on the first date (shy) and take a little while to warm up. People also assume that if you're quiet, you are stupid....no opinions about anything due to not knowing anything.
I know looks fade and I try to not care so much about them...although I'm human and an attractive guy does get my attention. Unfortunately, my experience has proven that the good looking ones treat women like crap because they know another one will be along any second.
Is there an ADD singles dating service? I would love to meet someone who is also like me but enough different that we can fill in each others gaps....(okay, get your minds out of the gutter....hehe). I keep finding guys that live too far away from me.
And further more, why is it that we see a single person that we are attracted to in the grocery line and don't say anything but instead go home to a computer to try and find a date or call a friend and complain that there are no single ones available? I do the looking thru Yahoo singles thing to see if anyone in my area has posted...saw a former coworker last night on there (a cute one too).
Sometimes this dating stuff wears a person down. I'm sorta looking and sorta not at the moment. I would like to find someone that I mesh with but don't have the patience to deal with finding out I have to explain the whole ADD thing to them eventually and hope they don't have a closed mind.
UUGGH! Calgon! Take me away!

Donna



I think that I've always avoided women that hate/mistreat animals, are mean or are self centered.

I like an easy laugh and an honest smile. Sure I like the idea of beauty (who doesn't) but when we're 80 years old, and have have to tuck our skin in our belts to run down the driveway for the paper. I don't think beauty will matter so much. So as appealing as it is - looks were much lower on my list than decency.

Motorbrain

Don't under-estimate what you can find over the internet!!! My partner and I met on one of those internet dating sites. Match. com I think. We are scheduled to marry in June. No matter where you meet a future spouse, relationships take WORK!!! Opposites attract in the short term but in long term types of relationships it is a myth .... more long term relationships are between people who are more similar because comminucation is easier. I read that on Web MD or About.com in thier relationship area.