For those of you who don't know what's been happening in my life, my undiagnosed overfocused ADD wife has asked for a separation and possible divorce. She did this about two weeks after we discovered she was pregnant with our second child. The news itself suprised me, the timing devastated me. I found a tremendous amount of support and validation in various support groups and forums such as these. Thank you.

Last Thursday, at our 16-week appointment with the OB-GYN, they couldn't find the baby's heartbeat. An ultrasound confirmed our worst fears. My wife had a 1 in 1000 occurrence: a "moler pregnancy." Essentially, two sperm fertilized the same ovum and the conflicting genetic materials caused the ovum to split into a baby and a "mole" - a tumor made up of a mish-mash of placental and amniotic cells. The "mole" can occasionally develop into a cancer, about 1 in 5 do, so we are awaiting the results on a biopsy now. There was nothing we did or could have done to cause or prevent this from happening. Babies rarely live past week 15 in a moler pregnancy.

We are both devastated beyond words. Plans for separating are on hold, at least for now. The entire landscape of our situation has changed, and we are both at a loss on what happens next.

Thank you in advance for your support and thoughts and prayers, my friends. So many of you have already contacted me expressing your support in our time of grief. Thank you.

Michael

Michael,

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with both you and your wife.

Same here, Michael. Please accept condolences from the entire ADD Forums community.

Michael,
Don't give up hope. You say molear babies rarely exist longer than 15 weeks and you were at the 16th week checkup.
Your family is in our prayers-- keep your spirits up.

Hi Mike,
You know you have my prayers and support.

Dear Mike,
I'm so sorry about you sad news. I saw a falling star just now and wished peace for you and your wife.
Girl Driver

Mike,

I hope that if nothing else, you find comfort and solace in whatever it is that you might take this from in these troubled and hard times. Unfortunately, it seems as if distance would prevent me from offering any kind of help or assistance to you...so my best wishes, hopes, and prayers are with you now, and I hope that you can find support and guidance in the company of those around you.

I wish I could express my sympathy somehow better than I can here...but it is hard to seem sincere with typed word alone, and I can't exactly sign my name to this...oh well...

Yours,
Keith

I really don't know what to say. Hopefully your doctor already mentioned that the prognosis for your wife is excellent. I'm sure you both will pull through. While it's not the same, my best friend lost her 3 year old son a few years ago, so I understand what you mean when you say you are devastated beyond words. The only things that helped her through were time and the support and love of friends. Both you and your wife have my sympathies.

Mike,

Times like these make words seem so useless. I am so sorry you and your wife are going through this. It is very painful to lose a child under any circumstances. You both have my deepest sympathy.

-Viktoria

I'm so sorry for your loss. You have to trust that things in life happen for a reason - hard as they may be.

Prayers are being said for your and your family.

Michael,

My thoughts are with both you and your wife. I'm so sorry for your loss. You both have my deepest sympathy.

I'm so sorry Mike. I don't really know what to say either. :(

Mike this is very tragic news indeed. I'm all over it with you and your wife.

Please take care of each other and know we are thinking of you.

Your pain brings tears. I can not imagine the pain. I will be thinking about you and hope that you find solace in the fact that so many people care about you.


For those of you who don't know what's been happening in my life, my undiagnosed overfocused ADD wife has asked for a separation and possible divorce. She did this about two weeks after we discovered she was pregnant with our second child. The news itself suprised me, the timing devastated me. I found a tremendous amount of support and validation in various support groups and forums such as these. Thank you.

Last Thursday, at our 16-week appointment with the OB-GYN, they couldn't find the baby's heartbeat. An ultrasound confirmed our worst fears. My wife had a 1 in 1000 occurrence: a "moler pregnancy." Essentially, two sperm fertilized the same ovum and the conflicting genetic materials caused the ovum to split into a baby and a "mole" - a tumor made up of a mish-mash of placental and amniotic cells. The "mole" can occasionally develop into a cancer, about 1 in 5 do, so we are awaiting the results on a biopsy now. There was nothing we did or could have done to cause or prevent this from happening. Babies rarely live past week 15 in a moler pregnancy.

We are both devastated beyond words. Plans for separating are on hold, at least for now. The entire landscape of our situation has changed, and we are both at a loss on what happens next.

Thank you in advance for your support and thoughts and prayers, my friends. So many of you have already contacted me expressing your support in our time of grief. Thank you.

Michael

Michael:
my heart goes out to you, and we'll be keeping you in our prayers.
kevin

Mike I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please let us know how you are doing now.

]Mike- I was diagnosed with a moler pregnancy 2 years ago. It was devestating and the doctors tried to get me to remove my uterus...would ya believe it. Taking away my chnaces of having a child. I refused to let this incident devastate me and my family and my husband. i sought comfort and advice. I underwent chemo for close to 6 months and once everything was okay i was given the go ahead to try again. Try again we did. We had a healthy baby boy in August. Anthony Collin Edward "ace" for short. What a blessing and worth the uphill battle. Everything will be fine and you will be blessed. Stay positive and strong! Just keep in mind to keep your options open and seek more then one doctors opinion. Had i listened to that first doctor I wouldnt have Anthony....and how sad would that be. I would of underwent a surgery that I didnt need and i would of felkt broken. This condition is more common than anyone knows. Keep your sight on the future.

Wishing you heart's ease.

sorry for your loss. sending positive vibes your way.

Mike, I send heartfelts to you and your wife.
The wonderful thing about this forum is how we can find people that actually go through these things we call "rare" .
Like WILDKHOLLY... there is a ray of hope.
Hope is a strong word.
sincere thoughts