I'm new to this site, and not even sure what I'm hoping to get. I've been with my ADHD husband for nearly 13 years. We've worked through some difficult times. I recently found that he had posted a listing on a web site seeking an affair. Just 5 months ago we finished a year and a half of counseling because he had come close to an affair with someone. I'm confused, and hurt, and really sad. He seems confused as well, and so sincerely seems to regret it that I don't know what to think. It's as if he never thought through to the consequences.

I have talked with close friends and I have great support from family, but I haven't been able to talk with anyone who understands people with ADHD. Am I just making excuses for his unacceptable behavior? In the end, does it matter why he's doing this? I don't want to leave but I cannot see living life with someone I can't trust to communicate with me. I'm an otherwise independent, strong person but this is leaving me feeling pretty pathetic. I guess I'm not looking for all the answers, but maybe others can help put things in perspective.

WElcom to the forums sasha

Hopefully someone will post regarding your question.

I personally don't think ADD can be blamed is my gut feeling.

Searching I found a few threads for you in forums <http://www.addforums.com/forums/search.php?searchid=57155>