Living with an AD/HD Partner
Important Issues to consider (from Dr. Amen's Healing ADD (http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=155))



1. Have empathy for the ADD person and try to see the world through his or her eyes of frustration and failure.

2. Go to some appointments with the doctor together

3. Both partners need clear education about AD/HD

4. After the initial diagnosis take a step back from the chronic turmoil. Look at the relationship from a different perspective

5. Set up regular check in times

6. Keep lists

7. Assume the best about each person

8. Set goals for each area of your life together and review them together.

9. Set clear individual goals and share them with each other

10. Avoid the roles of "caregiver" and "sick one"

11. Talk out issues concerning sex in a caring manner.

12. Check in with each other during social gatherings

13. Get away alone together on a regular basis

14. Work together in parenting children

15. Praise each other TEN times more than you criticize!

16. Get rid of hurts from the past that you carry around.

17. If the AD/HD person refuses to get any help after being encouraged many times then the non-AD/HD partner must consider whether or not to stay in the relationship.


(from Dr. Amen's Healing ADD (http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=155))