charlie
12-12-04, 10:24 PM
I'm trying honest I am!
Thanks to ADD Forums I learned about tourettes and tics and how you could not bargain/bribe someone to quit them (feels like a sneeze you can hold it off but they build up).
Now I'm working on learning about OCD
My 11 year-old shows OCD 'repeating ritual' symptoms and I could really use some insight here.
He has to repeat certain sayings and if he's interrupted he gets very upset--for example I kept interrupting him during his goodbye ritual and he later told me he worried all day about me:(
This may sound touching to some folks-- but it bothers me the responsibility he must feel thinking he can change anyone's safety by repeating his made up phrases:(
So I was doing a little dance and saying 'so what's the worse than can happen if you don't finish this'? He got angry and frustrated. Felt mean spirited but I did read it on one of the web sites to try and use the 'worse case scenario' until you can see big deal 'what if'! But I obviously did not go about it the right way:(
He also pats me and it's making me nuts trying not to TEASE him out of this (I jokingly bark like a dog or try to figure how many pats--I think it's 7 before he's done). I've also repeated his phrases and tell him I'm trying to learn, etc.
Someone please tell me from an OCD persons viewpoint why is my behavior so dang upsetting?
I've been researching...and I'm reading that family members must not give in and follow thru with OCD folk's rituals...but teasing/interrupting/nagging is not the way to go about it either.
the following is copied from a teen OCD site if anyone's interested.
Some families, not all of them, all of the time, can get overenthusiastic at times. They get too eager about wanting to see you get better.
They mistakenly think that if they keep drawing your attention to what you are doing, you can and will stop. As if you don't know when you are doing compulsions. Right?
Also, this pointing-out ends up as nagging after a while.
It has the same negative effect as the "just don't do it" advice.
If members of your family are doing this, you should tell them (calmly, rationally, politely) that the only one who needs to recognize that you are doing compulsions is you, since you are the only one who can really do anything about them. You and your therapist need to get across to them that their "nagging" is counterproductive: if you grow dependent upon others to tell you when you were doing these things, you will never learn to deal with them yourself.
Also, remind them (gently) that no one likes to have his problems constantly pointed out to him. This is doubly true when other people keep getting it wrong
Help &/or comments greatly appreciated 2nd neurologist visit this week and I have a feeling CBTherapy will be the first line of offense.
Thanks to ADD Forums I learned about tourettes and tics and how you could not bargain/bribe someone to quit them (feels like a sneeze you can hold it off but they build up).
Now I'm working on learning about OCD
My 11 year-old shows OCD 'repeating ritual' symptoms and I could really use some insight here.
He has to repeat certain sayings and if he's interrupted he gets very upset--for example I kept interrupting him during his goodbye ritual and he later told me he worried all day about me:(
This may sound touching to some folks-- but it bothers me the responsibility he must feel thinking he can change anyone's safety by repeating his made up phrases:(
So I was doing a little dance and saying 'so what's the worse than can happen if you don't finish this'? He got angry and frustrated. Felt mean spirited but I did read it on one of the web sites to try and use the 'worse case scenario' until you can see big deal 'what if'! But I obviously did not go about it the right way:(
He also pats me and it's making me nuts trying not to TEASE him out of this (I jokingly bark like a dog or try to figure how many pats--I think it's 7 before he's done). I've also repeated his phrases and tell him I'm trying to learn, etc.
Someone please tell me from an OCD persons viewpoint why is my behavior so dang upsetting?
I've been researching...and I'm reading that family members must not give in and follow thru with OCD folk's rituals...but teasing/interrupting/nagging is not the way to go about it either.
the following is copied from a teen OCD site if anyone's interested.
Some families, not all of them, all of the time, can get overenthusiastic at times. They get too eager about wanting to see you get better.
They mistakenly think that if they keep drawing your attention to what you are doing, you can and will stop. As if you don't know when you are doing compulsions. Right?
Also, this pointing-out ends up as nagging after a while.
It has the same negative effect as the "just don't do it" advice.
If members of your family are doing this, you should tell them (calmly, rationally, politely) that the only one who needs to recognize that you are doing compulsions is you, since you are the only one who can really do anything about them. You and your therapist need to get across to them that their "nagging" is counterproductive: if you grow dependent upon others to tell you when you were doing these things, you will never learn to deal with them yourself.
Also, remind them (gently) that no one likes to have his problems constantly pointed out to him. This is doubly true when other people keep getting it wrong
Help &/or comments greatly appreciated 2nd neurologist visit this week and I have a feeling CBTherapy will be the first line of offense.