Soul Child
12-21-04, 11:12 PM
Hi:
I seriously really need some guidance from you.
My fiance and I broke off our relationship about 6 months ago. We've known each other for about 10 years. We went out for 6 years including the 2 years we were engaged. We havent talked for the last 3 months and we are thru. It was a mutual choice. We had too many differences and expectations that we couldnt rise above. Its been very very hard for me (and i know this is mutual). I still love her and she always be a part of who i am.
Being outside of our relationship I've just come to realize and strongly believe that my EX may in fact have ADD/ADHD. I'm not a doctor but from what I've researched so far she has a lot of the "symptoms". In fact she has almost all of them. I am not looking for a reason to "get back at her" or for a scape goat to blame for our breakup. I am not perfect. I take 100% responsibility for my part in our break up and continuosly look at the things I should have done and been to make our relationship a happier one. I may not have ADD but I too have my own "disorders" :). I am however extremely concerned about the possibilty that she may have ADD/ADHD.
I am really worried about her current and future life and relationships especially if she has ADD/ADHD and doesnt know it. She is in her late 20s and has the rest of her life ahead of her. I need to know how best to approach this issue with my EX as we have drawn a deep line in the sand that noone is crossing. I am the stereotypical "a-s h-le bad guy" to everybody on her side (ie her family and friends want nothing to do with me). She will not be "open " to this issue and neither will anyone on her "side". In fact some will even see it as a ploy for me to get back in her life :(. There is also a cultural factor at play where something like ADD may not be acknowledged and will be looked down upon.
What should I do and how/when/where should I go about it?
Thanks in advance for any suggestions and advice you may have to give.
God Bless,
Soul Child
I seriously really need some guidance from you.
My fiance and I broke off our relationship about 6 months ago. We've known each other for about 10 years. We went out for 6 years including the 2 years we were engaged. We havent talked for the last 3 months and we are thru. It was a mutual choice. We had too many differences and expectations that we couldnt rise above. Its been very very hard for me (and i know this is mutual). I still love her and she always be a part of who i am.
Being outside of our relationship I've just come to realize and strongly believe that my EX may in fact have ADD/ADHD. I'm not a doctor but from what I've researched so far she has a lot of the "symptoms". In fact she has almost all of them. I am not looking for a reason to "get back at her" or for a scape goat to blame for our breakup. I am not perfect. I take 100% responsibility for my part in our break up and continuosly look at the things I should have done and been to make our relationship a happier one. I may not have ADD but I too have my own "disorders" :). I am however extremely concerned about the possibilty that she may have ADD/ADHD.
I am really worried about her current and future life and relationships especially if she has ADD/ADHD and doesnt know it. She is in her late 20s and has the rest of her life ahead of her. I need to know how best to approach this issue with my EX as we have drawn a deep line in the sand that noone is crossing. I am the stereotypical "a-s h-le bad guy" to everybody on her side (ie her family and friends want nothing to do with me). She will not be "open " to this issue and neither will anyone on her "side". In fact some will even see it as a ploy for me to get back in her life :(. There is also a cultural factor at play where something like ADD may not be acknowledged and will be looked down upon.
What should I do and how/when/where should I go about it?
Thanks in advance for any suggestions and advice you may have to give.
God Bless,
Soul Child