I'm new to ADD(not diagnozed yet) and I've only begun to notice that maybe some of my problems with love and friends is due to ADD, but I'm really not sure. I haven't been able to hold a relationship for a long perdio of time and now I am scared to have another boyfriend because of reading so much about how ADD can really get in the way. With friends, I find a lot of my friendships that have been my closest for years are falling apart and I keep being accused of things I really didn't know I did.:confused: What are some aspects of ADD that tend to get in the way of love relationships and friendships. I am 18, by the way, that probably makes a difference.

I recommend the book ADD and Romance for the boyfriend situation. Some of the stuff in it can transfer over into friendship situations, too.

Just a piece of addvice, Never stay with someone whom doesn't seem to be able to accept you for who you are or makes you feel you have to explain yourself when you don't know how, or expects you to act more like so and so...blah, blah blah they need to take a hike. Don't worry to much about things you could cause more negative vibes then necassary. Keeping your Idenity is a big issue with us add/hd's but being in a realationship where you have to much freedom can also, give you to much room to get into trouble, You'll do better with the one that will drive you nuts, but in the same respect you'll apprciate it in the long run,,, Trust me been there done that... Realationships can be tough to a point but only when you let them. Always remember YOU are your Own HAPPINESS!!! Happy Holidays.

My ADD has affected my choice of partners. When I was younger, I found the nice, solid guys to be too boring. I was attracted to excitement and chaos - and boy did I find it. Unfortunately, the "exciting" guys were also very toxic. Good luck.

exeter, I got diagnoised by the guy who wrote, ADD and Romance...Jonathon Halverdstat(not sure if the last name is spelled right). Anyway, didn't really like the guy, maybe because he IS ADD..I seem to not get along with some ADD people, cause they seem even wackier than myself(I'm sometimes a judgemental person, which I'm really working on not being!)...this guy was HARD to talk to, and of course interupted me(when I talk to people I at least TRY to really focus on NOT interrupting, if your an ADD "expert" and have written a book then I think you should be able to do this).

For the person who wrote the original message..don't worry about guys! your 18 FOR GOD SAKE!! have fun, don't get a boyfriend!!! go to parties, go to college, drink.... relationships are hard for anyone, no matter what age...at least when you are 18, you don't have to worry about supporting a kid(hope you don't have one) and other important ADULT things...HAVE FUN!