View Full Version : Whatīs the biggest lie you tell yourself?


SquarePeg
10-20-12, 05:25 PM
Mine is that I donīt have to write it down, I will remember it.

Never happens!

scrambled86
10-20-12, 05:31 PM
haha..I tell myself that one too!

Also, that I will get up early tomorrow morning and do X before I go to work :rolleyes:

ginniebean
10-20-12, 05:46 PM
Good ones! I do those too but I think mine is, "everything fine, I can manage"

julesjampot
10-20-12, 05:51 PM
That i am happy

Buzz23
10-20-12, 06:04 PM
"I don't need to start this now, I'll have plenty of time later."

hanikamiya
10-20-12, 06:12 PM
"I'll do it ... tomorrow"

Flory
10-20-12, 07:51 PM
ohhh yeah i have plenty of time to do that tomorrow morning...

Rebelyell
10-20-12, 07:59 PM
OH Ill put it right here and Ill remember it fornext time.Ill do it tommorow problem is tommorow seems to come an go as next week and next month etc.

nanners
10-20-12, 09:38 PM
That I will someday graduate with a PhD in neuropsychology. Ha! That's a big one!

tudorose
10-20-12, 10:25 PM
Good ones! I do those too but I think mine is, "everything fine, I can manage"

This is mine too.

And I tell it to others and they believe me!

lala1187
10-20-12, 10:53 PM
I will get up early so I can go into work early and get a lot done while it's quiet..
yeah, right. It's happened once, lol.

SquarePeg
10-21-12, 04:36 AM
I didnīt mean to put this in the fun and games section but couldnīt delete it, sorry.

I can relate to most of the above and I think you guys can probably as well.

SquarePeg
10-21-12, 04:41 AM
I could do it if I really wanted to.

Fuzzy12
10-21-12, 04:43 AM
i suspect: "I've got adhd and thereforel my failures and shortcomings are due to a mental disorder rather than laziness, carelessNess, lack of Will power or any other moral failing." :(

amberwillow
10-21-12, 05:10 AM
I'll have more free time next week.

stef
10-21-12, 05:35 AM
I will get up early so I can go into work early and get a lot done while it's quiet..
yeah, right. It's happened once, lol.

this one! i only come in early if i know there is actually something very important, early in the day. this happens maybe twice a month. otherwise no!

tudorose
10-21-12, 06:30 AM
The other one for me is, "I can have that choccy bar / packet of chips / treat today. I'll start being good tomorrow".

Tomorrow never comes...

Subtract81
10-21-12, 06:36 AM
It seems to be the norm for people to lie to themselves to get by but those people who believe those lies would not call them lies, and to do so is by no means an adhd trait, i like to think i am pretty honest with myself and can think about things pretty objectively, that is unless it has to do with myself or my own wellbeing, but i would not call that lying to myself more misjudgements or poor self awareness on my part.

Nobody believes in what they perceive to be lies, however we are human and are all fallable, if you think you believe in lies then you do not believe in lies as you would not think they are lies!

Saying that, i do understand that we can be quite aware that we are lying to ourselves and i have done this on a number of occasions usually where long term gains are traded for short term, but i still think we just use poor judgement and decision making as opposed to "lies" maybe i just have a stigma about the word "lie" as i associate it with a lot of what is wrong with this world.

sarahsweets
10-21-12, 06:39 AM
That I have a penis.

hanikamiya
10-21-12, 08:30 AM
That I have a penis.
I have one. It's not my fault it - HE - is only imaginary. If he wasn't, he'd totally be used to my pleasure. (And yes my imaginary penis has a name and personality.)



It seems to be the norm for people to lie to themselves to get by but those people who believe those lies would not call them lies,

Call it what you want, but I have this complete fallacy in judgment that makes me believe that when I tell myself 'I'll do it tomorrow' I will do it, in fact, the next day.

Only, to me 'tomorrow' is like infinity. It doesn't randomly turn into 'today' just because it's the next day.

... that made sense to me.


Or maybe it's simply because I can't use 'time' as a trigger for something I need to do. I have to link it to other actions I regularly do.

Knowing that and telling myself 'oh I will do it tomorrow' pretty much means 'I'm not going to do it but I'm too much of a coward to take that decision now and maybe a miracle happens and I feel totally like doing it tomorrow so, yes, I'll do it tomorrow. For sure. Possibly maybe. There's always a chance.'

But the real problem lies in the moments when this changes to 'because I'm going to go on a diet tomorrow I need to eat all these sweets now even though it'll make me feel sick and I don't even want to eat more than one but I need to finish them so I am prepared for my diet with no sweets leftover and not feeling I missed out on something'

That kind of thinking is really, really twisted. But yes it totally happens.

SquarePeg
10-21-12, 08:43 AM
mmm donīt know if it is really a lie or not more of a case of being optimistic. They say people with adhd find it hard to learns lessons, and keep repeating the same mistake over and over again.

So even though I know that the chances are that I will NOT remember something, Iīm either too lazy to write it down or I really believe/hope that I will remember.

Subtract81
10-21-12, 09:03 AM
We just have unfortunate tendencies to be easily distracted and misjudge time requirements and importance/urgency, i would not call this lying

SquarePeg
10-21-12, 09:08 AM
but experience shows me that I am not a good judge of time, that I repeatedly misjudge, so what makes me think tomorrow I will be different?

Verile
10-21-12, 11:20 PM
i suspect: "I've got adhd and thereforel my failures and shortcomings are due to a mental disorder rather than laziness, carelessNess, lack of Will power or any other moral failing." :(

Haha. If only it were a lie all you'd have to do is stop lying to yourself. Maybe you're a pathological liar instead?

miellie
10-22-12, 10:44 AM
Aaah man, ditto on all of the above!

Except for gratuating - Good luck with that "Nanners"!
And then, I'm happy too... Chins up "Julesjampot" !!
Oh shoot, I'm insomniac as well so don't sleep most the time so never have the need to wake early...

Okay so, maybe not ALL of the above then - but you know what I mean, right?

arrested_truth
10-22-12, 12:12 PM
The positive-influence fabricated lies I tell my self usually involve crazily ambitious scenarios that are unlikely to happen in the near future (standing infront of an audience accepting awards for things like Best Director and Best Film of the Year... "You like me! Oh, you really like me!!") only to negate the compulsive and intrusive negative thoughts that I realize do not belong in my future

BR549
10-22-12, 03:35 PM
"It doesn't matter"

"I don't care"

"I've moved past that and I'm over it now"

"I'll start tomorrow"

miellie
10-22-12, 03:50 PM
The sanity of men, "SquarePeg" - not just "ADHD Sufferes"...

The human race keep doing the samething over and over and over again and each time expect a different outcome...

... I once read that somewhere

T-Rex65
10-22-12, 04:37 PM
I'm on the verge of getting my act together. I can feel it! (That last part isn't a lie, only the first part.)

miellie
10-22-12, 04:45 PM
And how's that working for you "T-Rex65", I'm curious to know?

I'm driven by fealing, that's the only reason why...

Verile
10-22-12, 05:30 PM
Good ones.

"I'll start as soon as I finish this one last thing."

"Tomorrow's going to be different."

"This will only take me a minute."

"Mind over matter. C'mon, you can beat this thing, just try harder."

sarahsweets
10-22-12, 08:57 PM
This comes from my deepest darkest BP mind .....

"You're so pretty"

"Great effort "

"You can overcome anything "

"What a great driver "

You're the best mom ever

"I keep my house beautifully "

There's more but thats all for now.

Spacemaster
10-22-12, 10:21 PM
Sarah, I see that your mind is lying to YOU in many of those cases, not the other way around. Many of us here will say that you are in fact very pretty for example, and that lying-a** mind of yours tells you that you aren't!

I won't say that I "get it", because I'm not you, but I've experienced similar thoughts.

It's like, this little snake whispers in your ear, and puts you down. It's evil, and nobody can figure out how to kill that snake once and for all.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is that I wish our minds weren't programmed to self-destruct, and that I'm sorry you have to go through that. :(

parliate
10-23-12, 02:04 AM
"i can do that later"
"Tomorrow will be my best day"
"So smart" -recently i quit after diagnosed add :D
"don't need to write i 'll memorize " :D

Abi
10-23-12, 02:08 AM
That I will attain financial security within the next five years.

Not gonna happen. Not in the next 50 even.

sarek
10-23-12, 02:17 AM
That everything is going to be ok.

Unmanagable
10-23-12, 02:40 AM
"The severity of my issues aren't really as bad as they seem. It's just a bad day." (Reality - *SLAP!*)

"People genuinely appreciate my weirdness/uniqueness and positivity." (There's at least a few....I think.....lol.....I especially love the entertainment factor of those folks that look at me like I'm bat s*** crazy at times)

"I'll make it more of a point to love, nurture, and appreciate myself." (A continual effort, doesn't occur often enough - need more nurturing to be able to recognize and appreciate feeling the love, I think)

SquarePeg
10-23-12, 02:54 AM
"The severity of my issues aren't really as bad as they seem. It's just a bad day." (Reality - *SLAP!*)

"People genuinely appreciate my weirdness/uniqueness and positivity." (There's at least a few....I think.....lol.....I especially love the entertainment factor of those folks that look at me like I'm bat s*** crazy at times)

"I'll make it more of a point to love, nurture, and appreciate myself." (A continual effort, doesn't occur often enough - need more nurturing to be able to recognize and appreciate feeling the love, I think)
cool post. I often daydream that I could do something if I really wanted to ha ha.

tudorose
10-23-12, 05:17 AM
"You can overcome anything "

I believe this one. Is it a lie if you believe it?

Abi
10-23-12, 05:21 AM
*looks at rosie's avatar*

I'm inclined to believe it too :cool:

EYEFORGOT
10-23-12, 08:02 AM
"I don't care what they think of me."

"I will be disciplined and organized about this project."

"I'll keep it all together and get everything done."

T-Rex65
10-23-12, 09:14 AM
And how's that working for you "T-Rex65", I'm curious to know?

I'm driven by fealing, that's the only reason why...

Oh, it never really happens. But I suppose it keeps me optimistic. :-)

miellie
10-23-12, 09:42 AM
Oh, it never really happens. But I suppose it keeps me optimistic. :-)

Bwahahaha okay, fair enough!
=)

angora
10-23-12, 10:48 AM
Biggest lie I tell myself - someday soon I'll everything done and organized and have time to relax and do what I want.

bluewind
10-23-12, 01:34 PM
The biggest lie I used to tell myself was that I was straight.:lol:

Hrothgar
10-23-12, 05:11 PM
I will do "it" first thing tomorrow morning. Inevitably there is other stuff to do and I get distracted, and so I say: I will do it first thing tomorrow morning. And so on and so on...

It's a Moebius strip...tomorrow never comes.

mirandatoritess
11-10-12, 08:42 PM
I am calm and focused

Conman
11-10-12, 08:59 PM
everything's fine

BellaVita
11-10-12, 09:49 PM
"I don't need to take my meds today."

zoomman
11-11-12, 08:38 PM
I have a clue.

DizzyBee
07-03-13, 02:10 PM
I will do that tomorrow....

Asylum
07-23-13, 01:06 AM
I really needed those boots I got from ebay.

Parterxred
07-23-13, 01:29 AM
Nobody will notice me.

I'm generally the tallest person in the room.

sarek
07-23-13, 02:30 AM
The biggest lies I tell myself are the ones I mistakenly believe to be true.

Like when I tell myself that I don't judge.

It's a lie.
I may avoid the words but it keeps cropping up everywhere else, often without me even noticing.

The worst flaw ever, is the one you think you have beaten.

someothertime
07-23-13, 05:06 AM
That I am not as important as other people.

Raye
07-23-13, 05:16 AM
That I will accomplish X on Y... usually meaning some kind of errand I have to leave the house for.

also that I am pretty worthless, when my family always tells me otherwise.

whattheheckyall
08-28-13, 03:35 AM
that i'm going to date someone in grad school

Jimmsie
08-28-13, 05:35 AM
"I enjoy my minimum wage job."
"This is the week I'll finish my novel."
"Someday the emergencies will stop and I'll be able to save enough money to buy a house."
"If I belittle myself enough today, I'll do better tomorrow."
"Today I will cross something off of my to-do list."

Here's my biggest one:
"I don't care what my father thinks of me."

banshe
08-28-13, 02:03 PM
I'm in the same pit, Jimmsie.

My biggest lie:

That I don't care what other persons think of or about me.

Daydreamin22
09-04-13, 11:18 PM
You're going to do your hair for work every morning one day

sarahsweets
09-05-13, 04:50 AM
" my boobs are giant porn star sized."

Daydreamin22
09-05-13, 08:10 AM
You're going to get to work on time. WHY am I on here.

PastelDreams
09-05-13, 09:35 AM
"I'll just work out extra tomorrow after I eat this!"

Daydreamin22
09-05-13, 01:53 PM
You're not going to regret laying out when

Daydreamin22
09-05-13, 01:54 PM
You're not going to regret laying out when you're older.

Daydreamin22
09-05-13, 10:29 PM
No one notices that your post replies took over the 1st page from top to bottom.

Daydreamin22
09-06-13, 10:35 AM
You're going to get on a good schedule.

Daydreamin22
09-06-13, 03:20 PM
I'm not going to stay on the forums for another hour.

Fuzzy12
09-06-13, 03:31 PM
Tomorrow I will change..

Daydreamin22
09-06-13, 03:42 PM
That ill be off here studying in ten minutes.

Daydreamin22
09-06-13, 03:44 PM
Tomorrow I will change..

You're great! Hope you feel better soon!

Daydreamin22
09-06-13, 04:44 PM
That ill be off here studying in ten minutes.

Straight up lie.



Oh how awesome, just realized in the only one posting.

Daydreamin22
09-06-13, 04:46 PM
That ill be off here studying in ten minutes.

Straight up lie.



Oh how awesome, i just realized Im the only one posting except for one by Fuzzy....................

Fraser_0762
09-06-13, 04:49 PM
I prefer to be alone anyway.

Daydreamin22
09-06-13, 04:49 PM
OMG! I guess you can only have 1 biggest lie. Right?

addthree
09-06-13, 05:46 PM
That I can do it without ADD Medicine.
I can but the Medication makes it way easier.
My college GPA got real high after taking medication.