This is a totally legitimate demand, i reallly do need someone to do me a favor.
Like some of you may know i have been alone for a while, and have been
wanting to put in add on match.com. Put i cant write even if my life depended on it.
I saw a post on the forum where a woman put an add and it was a bit weird and funny, that is the kind of add i write, so guess what, i get people even weirder than i am. And God knows that is hard LOL.
So how about i write what i would like to pass thrue in my message for the Match.com and you special GIFTED,NICE, COMPASSIONATE, GENEROUS special gifted writer write it in a wonderful way...Ok now what is in it for you , well you get to help a very nice person, maybe to meet another very nice person, just that alone is gratifying, aint it??

Digitl who is waiting for a positive answer to my demand before i make a fool of myself and write my add and nobody wants to help :eek:

I would be cool with doing this with you.

To start, post answers to these questions:

What are the qualities in this person that you wish to attract? (List only what you WANT. If you find yourself thinking of qualities you DON'T want then think of what the opposite of that quality would look like and list it that way.)

Do you have an outcome that you want for this relationship? If so, what is it?

What qualities do you have that you feel are your best qualities?

What qualities do you have that need work?

What qualities would this other person have that would be unacceptable to you?

I think you're playing with fire here. Sounds like the potential for a "Cyrano de Bergerac" type situation. When a wonderful person reads your ad and responds, you're going to have to email her back, aren't you? She will notice that the writing styles are vastly different. And if she doesn't notice right away, sooner or later the truth will come out. She may feel betrayed and decide to end the relationship. A relationship built on a lie is going to fail.

Instead, you could try:

Record yourself saying what you'd like to say in an ad, and then transcribe it into writing.
Write out your own ad, and have someone else critque it. They could make spelling/grammar corrections and offer suggestions for things that need to be added/removed or re-worded.

Instead, you could try:

Record yourself saying what you'd like to say in an ad, and then transcribe it into writing.
Write out your own ad, and have someone else critque it. They could make spelling/grammar corrections and offer suggestions for things that need to be added/removed or re-worded.


I thought that was what this was all about. Not ME writing it but helping Digitl get focus and write the things that attract what is wanted. Almost like a coaching session on writing what you want to say. But first, you have to decide what you want your words to get you for an outcome.
I thinks it more about clarifying what you WANT in your own mind and writing that with clarity than it is about writing it in a style that is persuasive to someone.

There wouldn't even be anything unusual about stating in the ad that you got help writing your ad from someone else for just this reason. I would think that MOST people get a critique on their ads before they post them.

Well maybe I've misunderstood Digitl's request. To me, it sounds like he's saying that he wants to tell you what to convey in his ad, but he wants someone else to write it.

Digitl -- If you're just asking for help with what you yourself will write in a personal ad, I think that's fine. It would still be your own words, even if someone helped you figure out what info to include & guided your writing. Just make sure the words are your own. ;)

Ginagirl, I think Digitl is La-femme

See what i mean i can even write a post and be clear LOL..
But i do need help like you people are referring too. It would be my own word just i need help to focus on what is important to write, to really be able to emphazize what i am really looking for and not hand up with 1,ooo posts of weirdos because i got out of focus and started to write silly stuff.

Digitl hoping she made sense lol

Geez, you'd think I'd have at least noticed the pink font!!! :p

Digitl, you have a unique and fabulous way of expressing yourself. You just need someone to check what you write for clarity. Why don't you write the ad and then ask for feedback/editing. That way the real you will come through. Folks who read the ad will be attracted to the real you. I think this is the best strategy to achieve what you want.

I'm with Coral on this. A good editor is all you want.

I found my wife this way. She got tired of fielding men's attention that was not appropriate for her dreams and after a bit of home work found this route to be effective and safe. Her ad was the result of a lot of honest soul searching. I thought she was a dreamer but didn't want it on my conscience regardless.

The ad's success is mostly dependant on ones ability to project oneself authentically. So writing it in your own voice is particularly important I'd think.

Nineteen years and three kids later and still going strong.
Good luck to you!
Ian

LOL i give up with you people :p ,
that is what i wanted the whole time lol..
Having someone to help me see my flaws and edit ect. ( See what i mean about having problem being clear).

So here is my ad that i have already put on match.com, but never opened it for view, cause i really did not like my add. And i have spend HOURS writting it LOL that is the worst part. So here goes,


I am excited and a little bit timorous about this site and this way of meeting
someone. However, i am looking forward to it.
As for me, i am a little 5 feet tall french woman, weighing 128 pounds.
I love life, people, kids, animals, the country, nature,
and almost all outdoor sport that does not inlvolve this carcass to be hung
in mid-air from pieces of threads and material or hanging from rubber bands.
I suffer from too much passion, optimisim, energy, sense of humour and love,
but i can live with that kind of pain ;) I enjoy many hobbies,
like woodworking, craft, gardening, reading, garage and antique sales, music just to name a few.
I find it much easier and simpler to tell you what are my big Turn offs, and they are couch potatoes ,people with attitude, know it all, game players,
pessimist,dishonnesty and men who are not able to
communicate. Drop me a line or 2 and i shall answer back.
I will include a picture as soon as i make sense of my new web cam!

Digitl REALLY needs help :eek:

Digitl,

I do not have the time to respond to this at the moment, but i will chime in with my 2 cents on how you might want to present your information when i can. i write and edit for a living so I've got a pretty good handle on presentation of thoughts. at the very least i can offer some constructive criticism. just wanted to let you know....but again, i don't have the time right this second to give it enough attention. i'll be in touch. certainly, if someone else replies with helpful info, know that i will not be offended in the least! happy matchmaking!

Mon cherie,
Write your ad in two parts. Make the first part in English, then follow it with a French translation. That way, if someone wonders why the grammer isn't correct, they will realize that English isn't your native language.
Bon jour!

duplicate post deleted.

Swamp Donkey , please dont call me mon cheri with that sexy english accent ;)
And by the way what is wrong with my grammar LOL

Bonne nuit Ane des marais

Digitl who is going to take a cold shower now !!!!

Most people would pick up on the fact that an adult whose phrases and grammer aren't dead on probably doesn't claim english as their first language. Not to mention the fact that a good many people are VERY self concious about expressing themselves on paper where it will be regularly seen. All of us, to one degree or another, particularly as we get older, could use an editor. Vulnerabilities and flaws are what make us human and you wouldn't want a date that would judge you sight unseen anyway.

I understand your self conciousness, but I beg of you to stop looking at yourself through the lens of all the people that never understood while you were coming up in the world, and use the one that captures the truth. You are refreshingly different. Anyone that can't see that is obviously not worth your time anyway.

Having said that, I may be very late on the draw on this one, but any number of people here would be happy to edit for you. Personally, a good spell checker would be all I went with. That and a willingness to accept the you that you are, and get to know them. Took me a long time to figure out I was pretty cool after all. ;-) Flaws and all.

hEy! I wuld be happi to be yur spel chekker and editur! I'm reel gud with wurds and can say stuf and stuf like with good flow and stuf.

If yu want me too rite a romantik leter for yu just let me no, becus i'm reel romantik, just ask eboy. one time i played the banjo for him over the fone and anothr time i shoed him my pig caling skills. :D

Evr ther fur yu -

fnlly sme one who wrte lke me . Rmntc i dnt knw , but plyfll and fun, snds real good too me.

Dgtl

Ty Digitl! Ive always bin proude of mi speling and romans :D thats how i got my eboy!

Job offer number 0001

Position : Polyvant man for all occasions

Salary: to be discuted

Qualities required : Playfulness, outdoorsy, family oriented, indepedant, passionate, Compassionate, open minded, talker, listener.

Job description: Your job will be to actively share some moments with a very nice lady, who as a lot to offer to the right man. She will always see that the right man as good food on the table, before he does the dishes. She will see that her clothes are always right side out , before he washes it. She will always warm up the bed after he makes it.

Ok now i am stuck...any suggestion on how to finish it or enhance it?????

Digitl whos light went out :(

Be yourself sweetheart. You can never go wrong there! If she doesn't like it, she wasn't worth it;)

Job offer number 0001

Position : Polyvant man for all occasions

Salary: to be discuted

Qualities required : Playfulness, outdoorsy, family oriented, indepedant, passionate, Compassionate, open minded, talker, listener.

Job description: Your job will be to actively share some moments with a very nice lady, who as a lot to offer to the right man. She will always see that the right man as good food on the table, before he does the dishes. She will see that her clothes are always right side out , before he washes it. She will always warm up the bed after he makes it.

Ok now i am stuck...any suggestion on how to finish it or enhance it?????

Digitl whos light went out :(
D, my first impression is WORK.
I'd remove the "job" references and lean toward the playful. I like the approach to the "job description" in that it is a balancing act. But it is putting the cart before the horse. I would imagine you want to find out ahead of time whether the someone you meet has what it takes to be around long enough to share those types of serious relationship experiences.
Lets say that whatever ad you place is answered by someone you want to meet and you begin the journey of discovery about each other. What would this journey be like? What activities would you share in common? What areas would complement each other?

But you got it FB i want a SlAvE LOL

But i admit that you are totaly right about sharing those experiences, that are not what i want from a man right now ( darnit LOL i liked the warming the bed a lot lol.) Shutting up now. Thank you so much, i really apreciate the feedback.

Digitl who as one of those nights (sigh) and listening to Staying alive . Sending you a big cyber high five !!
Ouch!! not so hard....D wrestles FB down to the ground, stand on top on him in a victory position......

Digitl, definitely keep the words passionate and compassionate together the way you have them. Maybe not emphasize the SLAVE stuff. Let him find out gradually.:D

Thank you Coral , maybe that is why i dont have a man, i am 2 open about my intention huh? :D

Digitl takes her leather suit off, her boots, hides her whip, handcuff and feather.

digitl,

i just got back to this thread and laughed my *** off. you'll be fine. and i probably should have warned you of something when i said i wouldn't mind helping out. i once did a similar thing for my brother when he was trying to win back the girl who had broken his poor little heart. well, she cried over the letter, got back together with him immediately, but apparently felt after reading it that he had changed his entire personality (unfortunately not the case)! upon discovering he was the same ole' dude, she dumped him again within the space of a week! to tell you the truth, even though i love my brother dearly, i really couldn't blame her!!

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Good morning to you , and i am glad you had fun with this thread , cause i have had a ball or bal hummmm LOL.
You know what,, i know i will be fine. I am not in a hurry so i am just really playing with writting an add right now. But i liked all the input i have received up till now, cause since i have no one to help me in real life, it makes me see writting an add under someone's else eyes you know what i mean jelly bean.

Digitl who is enjoying every moment meanwhile :) Like there was any other way lol.