I would love for there to be singles for adult category. that would be fun

Like a dating service?

:eek: ...............

I for one (and all my personality) are for it. I think it's a great idea,


Digitl who is always game for anything!!:p

Uh oh, I'm scared... ADDers dating ADDers... lol. :) I'm for giving it a shot, but I dunno what single ADDers would have to say that can't be said in the relationship or general chit chat forums.

after our divorce it will be good to talk with some singles. Just so I can get back into a life after marriage that went south.

Okay, I am lost with the thread (yes I know, that is not a difficult thing for me to do)

Are you all talking about a "dating" thread for singles??

Or a thread that single people can talk about what they go through if they are ADD??

Just curious :D

I think it would be fun if it was a little bit of both.

it seems that there are a lot of people that find comfort in finding people that can understand them and relate to life experiences. And for many this could mean actually meeting that person and letting what happens happen. Even possibly finding their sole mate if there is such a thing

If any of this makes since let me know

Caine~

It totally makes sense to me to have a "singles thread", with combination dating/just conversation/consulting. :) Great idea Caine!! way to go! Count me in!!:)

I would love for there to be singles for adult category. that would be fun

:p

Um....I think rasberry means a general forum...kinda like the chit chat...where the singles can hang out and get to know each other :D

I think a mix of what Caine is saying and Struggling are talking is great.

Digitl who is still on this thread :eek:

...I dunno what single ADDers would have to say that can't be said in the relationship or general chit chat forums.I think ADD for a single person is a lot different from ADD for a person who is in a partnership/marriage with someone. Our "support system" is probably very different --I feel like I have virtually no real live support system ...honestly, ADDF is the core of my ADD support system. I've got no one to take on the role as a "body double." I have a difficult time summoning up the motivation to do housework --I mean, yeah it'd be nice to have a clean, orderly house, but there are so many other things pressing on my time that when push comes to shove, who will really care it I don't get around to cleaning up the house? On and on I could go.

Of course, I don't have to worry about driving a spouse insane, so I guess that's a positive to the ADD single life. :p

I agree completely that single/adults should have a category. I'm always confused as to what people classify as single. I'm not trying to ostracize anyone here, I've just found the word has become vague.

Is "single" all of us who've never married or does it include divorced, widows/widowers? What about seperated people?

I've know many who profess they are single when in actuality, they're divorced. Maybe I'm splitting hairs on this point., so I'll stop.

Whomever is included, I believe a post for single adults would be wonderful.

Dating service things carry with them a large burden of responsibility, which may be a lot for the administration to assume...it's also rather difficult to set up and orchestrate, and would require quite a bit, as well as careful moderation, and things like this...

On the other hand, it would be fairly useful, I suppose, and could be very helpful to a lot of people...however, I think this would fall soundly under the Relationships and Social Issues section of the forum, just on a less broad scope.

I'm for it, provided the expense and effort required wouldn't be too much of a strain on moderation and administration.

I think there are currently more than enough catagories for single people with ADD to give in receive support in the forums. We don't have a special area for married adults with ADD.

I didn't know we were discussing a "dating thing". Oooops. I'm out on that gig.
Larry-Dale

Just talking about every thing ....basically life and how we get through it sound good.

Administrators, what about a forum specifically for "Single Working ADD Moms with ADD Children," of which I'm one. These particular ADD women face tremendous challenges and difficulties. I really think they deserve their own forum where they can share information, ideas, experiences, etc. Such a forum could eventually evolve and include other single ADDers (men or otherwise), but for now I think its main emphasis should be on providing support and information.
What do you think? Can we at least give it a try?

P.S.: Hi Tara, sorry I didn't see this thread!

I think a "dating service" as such is a little inappropriate. I do see single ADDers meeting on the forums. I can see the niche, but maybe things as they are is appropriate ? I think a lot of ADDers are kinda shy, and don't mix out in the world, so a forum like this is sort of a mixer, and a good thing. I think that meeting and chatting with one's own kind is a good thing, and if you meet someone special on the forums that is fantastic!

On the other hand, if the net were not such a trap, I'd say put up a singles column, but I think that it is a whole different kind of forum, with different security and admin problems. I mean you DO see singles forums on the net, but my spider sense tells me it could get out of hand really fast... any thoughts on this ? Am I just being TOO cautious ?

If we look at it yet another way, there is nothing that addresses the needs of the ADD community with regard to singles, etc... A big issue for many adders is finding a significant other. Part of it seems to be because ADDers kinda place themselves outside of the norm and don't really have the ususal support structures that society offers to NT's. Another part of the puzzle seems to be that many adders are just shy and reclusive. And sadly, part of it seems to just be that adders sometimes have serious troubles with realtionships. I'm thinking that if a singles column were offered, one might want to mitigate by also going after the issues that cause adders to have such a bad time with realtionships. And , of course you DO see these issues discussed a LOT in the forums.

It is a big issues, one that we would all like to see addressed. The next question is, what is appropriate, and what is workable ?

Me :D

After thinking about what everyone has said... maybe just adding a singles forum is appropriate. People can sort out the details for themselves.. .After all ,we do have moderators if it does get out of hand.

From that perspective, I'd have to say an ADD singles forum is a good idea. I guess it is no harm to "just do it" and see what develops. Hay.. it is just a computer , you kow where the "off" switch is.

Me :D

I agree i'm shy dork with lots of luving to give or get

I hear ya' MC! I second the motion!

Me :D


I agree i'm shy dork with lots of luving to give or get

My feeling is that a thread with plenty of participation is bound to get the attention of the forum-makers. So, if you *really* want a singles forum .... maybe try starting a "Singles" thread in chit chat and see how much traffic you get. If it ends up being a thread that is posted to and visited often, maybe a forum wouldn't be far behind.

I wonder what a forum would provide that couldn't be done in a thread in chit-chat???

For instance, if you have a topic for singles, you could label it "Singles -- what's your ideal G-rated date night?" remember, it's a family forum ;) ) Maybe try out a few topics and see where they go....

there's no reason to wait for an official forum to get this idea off the ground!

cheers,

w.

There already is a thread of single in the Relationship forum. Lots of people have posted there already :rolleyes: :p :) :D

i miss out on so much by not being single! :(

i'm clueless, (she said, stating the obvious... :p ) is it an active thread???

I just kicked off a new discussion on the singles thread. Let's see if people will join in. I'm a little overloaded this evening, so I'm not sure if I am writing appropriately... :eek: So helpe me out on this discussion.

I really wish I could unscrew the top of my skull and replace my brain with one that was not going in all directions at the same time at warp speed. :(

Me :D

Hi all. I've been gone for a while from this site. It's good to be back. In regards to posting a singles site, I was taught a valuable lesson recently which kept me from being able to post on this site.

My original thought was inspired after reading many posts all referring to spouses and ex-spouses to which many/most relate. After this experience however, I have learned a singles section is a bad idea.....and I'm a guy!..............I think...........still.............

Zippy

Welcome back zippy :)

In what way is it bad? can you elaborate a little bit more ?

Thank you :D




Hi all. I've been gone for a while from this site. It's good to be back. In regards to posting a singles site, I was taught a valuable lesson recently which kept me from being able to post on this site.

My original thought was inspired after reading many posts all referring to spouses and ex-spouses to which many/most relate. After this experience however, I have learned a singles section is a bad idea.....and I'm a guy!..............I think...........still.............

Zippy

I wpould be interested in hearing about zippy's experience. It might be a good thing to know about some pitfall that someone has encountered...


Me :D