I always have this constant anxiety to tell myself how to feel. For example, some days I will say to myself in my mind, be confident, smart, and trust in God. For a while, this eases the anxiety, but after a while, a phrase will stop working and I will have to change it up to for example, focus, be happy, and love. I just cannot seem to relax at all! This may be a coping mechanism for my ADD and/or anxiety, or I'm just a freak. ;) Has anyone else experienced these problems?

I have experienced this for all my life..lol..

I can't relax either. I have always wondered why. Social situations and relaxation? nonononono, just wont happen. Im not completely petrified of being around other people, but I always have my guard up. I am always aware of how I feel, and my emotions change quite a lot. I also often instruct myself how to feel/act when Im with other people because I'm always so worried I'll say the wrong thing(I say very blunt, unthought out things way too often), or they will not like me or something. I'm a worrier when I'm with people.
I can't relax when Im alone either, though. I don't think I've ever really truely relaxed. Some people come out of a hot bath and are all calm, hapy and cured of their streses but I never am becuase my mind wanders so much in such an unstimulating situation that I feel worse than before. GOing to work is more relaxing than a hot bath because it forces my mind at least somewhat on track, but it sure isn't relaxing either. I have yet to find what DOES relax me.
I know this is sorta unrelated, but, if your mind is endlessly chattering away, what do you do to calm it so you can relax, or sleep...
Hope I answered your questoin.

Yes, I also am not "afraid" of social situations, I am just always on edge and anxious. This sometimes also interferes with my ability to act like myself. I think what we might be experiencing is General Anxiety Disorder. I mean, I cannot even relax enough to enjoy massage chairs! I find meditating to be extremely helpful though.

I think my biggest stress was fighting who i was or not wanting to accept how i was (from others point of view). My mind always spins constantly to one thing to another. So i cant change that, and personaly i dont think FOR ME that it's worth taking all those meds. I just let it spin , if i am able to focus great , oh well if i cant maybe next time. But this is what i had to do, cause it use to drive me nuts , litteraly. And back when i started accepting a lot of my symptoms that i now know our related to adhd, i knew nothing. So out of despair sometimes comes the best advices i think. SIMPLIFY

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