To me it seems like I tend to fall in love like a bag of hammers when I meet someone I like. I let them know how much I love them on a regular basis. However I am never capable of that through words. My last girlfriend and I had a good relationship, it was ended due to something that was beyond both of us. (And I won't explain how) Anyway, I loved to touch her, caress her, and hold her. Forgive me if this seems sappy. When we were intimate I would be very passionate with her and very intense. I felt like I wanted to please every square inch of her body, and I never wanted it to stop. However, socially I could not even hold a conversation with her. I was too afraid to speak to her when we were face to face. I wanted to be able to tell her how beautiful I thought she was and how much I loved her. I never could. I could never make the words come out. I wanted to tell her everything and I told her nothing. All I could ever do was look at her lovingly and make short comments that didn't relate to my feelings. Can anyone relate to this?

I can certainly identify with the intense passion. And yes, I fumble over my words all the time, usually at my expense to my hubby's wacky sense of humor. I can't talk much during intimacy, it'll be too corny and not sexy. But I get the words out eventually. In your case you might be construed as a male pig if the lady thinks you're all into intimacy but never give compliments. So a simple "I love you" works. The rest you might have to write down, send love-emails, give a card that expresses your thoughts, compose a song without words or dedicate a song you already know. Speak in sign language or any other language. Use art. A thoughtful gift, not necessarily the traditional kind, but something unique to her. I go gaga if my hubby gets me a book I've been wanting. That he remembers what I like means worlds. In short, find your voice in other ways. There's a million ways to communicate your thoughts.

Yeah that is true. i have always had trouble communicating anything to anyone

Yeah its hard for me to communicate my feelings to anyone, especially people I really care about. In response to what eyeforgot has said, the only way I could ever express myself to her was actually through letters and e-mails. It put less pressure on me to type or write my feelings as opposed to speak them to her in person. I could write all day about my feelings, I just can't speak them. However I do still wish I was able to look someone in the eyes and tell them my feelings.

I used to be this way with my husband. Physically I could show him the world but verbally nothing ever came. The trick is to keep trying, it honestly does get easier with time. Sometimes, you lose a little ground and have to start all over but you learn so much about them and it makes you want to try harder. Communication is not a gift it's a learned skill.

I know I have to work on it, but I will also be mentioning my bad social ability to my doctor when I make my first visit. I fully intend to become better with my social skills. I feel like its one of the biggest factors of my failures.

OK - here's my two cents and I'm not an ADD'er.

I'm dating a man with ADD and when I've written to him in Emails, I express how much I care for him and love him. He ignores what I write - like it doesn't exist. And then he told me. When you write me those Emails, I don't know how to respond. Well, at first I took it as a bad thing. Like he didn't care for me, but his actions proved quite the opposite.

One time he showed up at work and brought me flowers. That was just so out of character for him, but it meant the world to me. Why?? Because I knew how hard that must have been for him to do. And, he doesn't show feelings that often, but when he does, I seem to appreciate them more - because just the fact that he's trying - trying for me - means the world to me. Which, in turn, makes me care for him even more.

I would rather have someone TRULY show how they felt once in a while, as opposed to someone who's ALWAYS saying how they felt. After a while, ALWAYS hearing it means it gets to the point that it doesn't mean that much anymore.

When I had a fight with my ADD'er, when it came time to making up, I didn't get to hear the "Im sorry's" or candy or flowers or a phone call. He gave me something that was important to him. When he gave me something that was important to him, it meant more to me. Why?? Because he was sharing with me a part of him. Something of his that's important he shared with me - HIS way of saying he's sorry.

I don't have to hear the "I love you's" or the flowers and candy. It's the subtle litle actions that mean the most to me. Love is spoken in many different ways. This is just one of those ways.