I was on my way home when I saw my 19 year old nephew fly thru an intersection. I turned and followed so that when I got close enough I could flag him down and beat his 6'3" 200 pnds butt like only a good aunt can...not stopping at a stop sign, crossing a busy intersection, speeding awww yeah he was gonna get it.

What I didn't know was he was gonna get it literally. I got about half a mile behind my nephew when he lost control on the wet gravel and hit the ditch I know I was going at least 60 to catch up. What I saw stopped my heart cold, he hit the ditch and went tail over nose and his drivers side door flew open and then flipped sideways another two times his door slammed shut so hard that it literally cut his baseball cap in half had he not been wearing his seatbeld... I don't even wanna imagine. I don't remember calling 911 nor do I remember screaming but when that little punk slide himself out of the car and asked me to stop screaming cause his head hurt...you bettcha I spanked his butt. :mad:

He's all right a concussion, bruised elbow and some cracked ribs and some scratches and his ego is a little bruised being 19 and having your aunt spank you is a little embarrassing but I can't calm down...I still feel like screaming, I want to shake the living daylights out of him and spank him again :( .

OMG FUTS! Deep Breath, Futs! He is lucky you were there. It's Ok futs....I would be scared too & and far as yelling at him and layin into him, I kinda dont blame ya...Any good aunt who cared for her family would.

His ego may be hurt big time..but Heh honey calm down before you see him next time...cause I think from this I hope he learned his lesson. But a good talkin to about responsibility (sp) Is what he needs...He was lucky this time and I'm glad he is still alive. You did good job just by being there. ;)

Ummm *looks over shoulder* I've already had him to the hospital and he's resting on my couch until his momma and dad get home. He knows I was just scared and it's not like I beat him I was afraid of hurting him so I just swatted what he plants it on once to show my extreme displeasure.

By following him, shows how much love & concern you have for your nephew. I can only imagine the dance that your nerves are having right now. Please know that you did the right thing. If you have not already, maybe just sit down next to him..........and tell him WHY you reacted that way & you love him enough to not want anything bad to happen to him


((HUGS)) for being a wonderful Aunt

But remember he is still alive and damn lucky you care enough to wanna ring his neck and :p he has U to help him & take care of him until parents could ring his neck

AWw he's 19 and he knows how scarry that must have been to watch and not do anything. He said when he lost control and started heading to the ditch his first thought was Brent you stupid *** huh funny that was my first thought too. Now the little turd is cracking jokes but shhh it's helping. I was so worried about losing him in Iraq never once thought about losing him 2 miles from home.

:) Someone is watching over him definetly....Including his lovely aunt. It's good he can still laugh and make jokes..always the best med:D

Don't get me wrong I know that it's virtually a miracle that he survive and had such minor injuries we had a freind hit a culvert at around 30-40 miles and he died instantly. I just don't think we should be putting car keys in kids' hands anymore. I say we lock them in a padded room for the rest of their lives.

Heh I feel same way about me since I wrecked mom's car...and I think even though she wont say it...she does too.

I think I need to just focus on the miraculous survival of teenage stupidity that it is. Focus on what is and not what could have been.

Yeah....he was lucky in so many ways.... Remember that woman :p;)

R we calm now? :p

Can I stop ((HUG)) you now......................are we all nice & relaxed again????

*has valum on hand* Just incase :p

the bloke was lucky. Everyone (almost everyone) totals a car once, most are lucky and come out of it with minor injurys, there are those sad few who dont though. Ive done anough stupid s__t with cars to know and i dont even have a licence (note to self, im 18 without a licence, dont be lasy, get off my a_s and sort it out). My mom had her back broken in a car acident when she was in late teens, fortunatly no nerves were severd and she came out of it walking and talkin (very fortunatly, back then the general mdical oppinion was to get the person out the wreck and then stabalise them now its the other way round).

Im sure he wont be doing some dumb s__t like that again, and if he does just take all his wheel nuts till he learns. Remember panic and stress will never help the situation. Tke care, and dont get too freaked, remember the blokes alive, and without any majour injury. Hope he gets wel soon.

Brent was feeling pretty bad and pretty stupid, Colton his little brother wouldn't let him out of his sight, his parents were stressed after dealing with his car insurance and the police, my mother saw the car and couldn't stop crying and hugging the poor guy and I couldn't calm down it was like running on panic all day for all of us. So, we had a party!!! lol

No, really if I can hyper-focus on something else my mind will usually put things into perspective...HE'S ALIVE!!! that's what matters. So, Doug and I threw a bar-b-q for the family to celebrate our new nephew and the survival of our oldest nephew.

We had New York Strips, garlic mushrooms, twice baked potatoes, caremel apple pie and a lot of other stuff family members brought. We decided to have the party at 4pm so it took a lot of work and quick work to get it all together and ready by 7pm. Then we watched movies and played cards until about 2am this morning.

Yes, I'm feeling a lot better if I can just get my mind of something else I can usually control the attacks without meds that leave me feeling lethargic for days afterwards.

Thanks guys,
I'll email you the pics Mel.

:D U betta :D U save me any BBQ? :p

Ummm no sorry we actually ran out of steaks and had to call on a friend who works for a butcher to open the shop for us.

I do however have one and half slices of pie left.

Woohoo Send em with the pics :D

Friend who works for butcher :eek: Aint it great to know ppl who know ppl? LOL!

It's a small town Mel it's hard not to know everyone.

Yousa so lucky :D

My neighbors are moving to another town. Will soon be an empty 4 bedroom, 2 bath house with attached garage and un-attached garage with dog kennel for sale next to me...hear asking price is $30,000 a little high for here but it is a nice house.

Hmmm are u trying to hint something for just incase I win the lottery:p

nah I'm demanding if you win the lottery you come live by me. lol

Holy squit!

A strip steak cookin' neighbor, and a $30,000.00 mortage?

HOLD ON!!!!

I'll be right there!!!!

Seriously, 'tho...Futs...did you imply this nephew was in the service?

I know it's off topic, but someone I know has a little brother who just joined the service...I believe he went to San Diego...and her family is crushed.

Futs,

WOW!!!! 30,000 might actually by the steaks around here!!

I am extremely happy things turned out ok with your nephew. As cool a cat as he likely is, let's hope he's done testing the whole "9 lives theory!!!!!!!"

Man I was trippin when I read about your nephew, I am so glad he is alright. I have a 19yr son with severe adhd, whom has just bought himself his first car. a souped up civic, I just had a conversation with him a couple weeks ago..........I was telling him that I really worry about him, because I know things about him that tells me, he will be put on the edge, before he will accept his destiny. What I mean here, is that I know he sees and understands things in a very special way, and I know he is going to fight this.... I know he is headed for a struggle that will eventally make him the man, I know he is. It's him accepting this, and not getting himself killed before he does...........He is always in to something.......When I read about the 30g house in Nebraska, I was totally thrilled, now I just have to figure out how to get there..... MMMMM NY Strips do smell so good..

Used to have panic attacks all the time...especially when I hadn't gotten counseling for my rape/abuse issues yet. Panic attacks, nightmares, flashbacks...couldn't be touched without flinching. To this day, even after counseling, if someone (namely my mom) says something about the abuse, I can have a panic attack. Mind you, it's not that she thinks it didn't happen. It's that she thinks that my sister, who didn't and still doesn't believe me when I finally got up the guts to break through her ex-husband's "You don't want her to be upset, do you? She'll be upset if you tell" brainwashing and told her 6 years after it started, she called me a liar. She'd just divorced him for cheating on her with multiple women and doing/dealing drugs out of thier basement (somehow without her knowledge) and other stuff. Yet there was no possibility that he could have done what I told her he had.

So we don't talk. And I understand that parents want their kids to get along, but my mom doesn't just say, "This sucks," she says, "Why is this such a big deal? Why won't you talk to her? She didn't abuse you, he did." I even had my doctor explain that being accused of lying--especially by someone you admired for so long--is like being abused all over again. But she still does it.

So when my sister came to Iowa for Christmas break and I didn't show up for the first time ever (well, save for when I was on bedrest for pregnancy complications), my mom threw a fit and called me immature, selfish, and some other things, and I basically broke down and either had a panic attack from her yelling at me on the phone, or a nervous breakdown, or both. It wasn't pretty. I know it's wrong, especially here, where everyone's open about their problems--not just ADD--but I tend to avoid discussing my mental junk that's happened, because wherever I am, I'm paranoid about people finding out.

I have mentioned some stuff in a couple of forums, though. I have Xanax, and it's not just for sleep...and I took a hell of a lot of it between the end of November and the end of December, when my mom was trying to convince me to come for Christmas and calling me names and junk like that. (She apologized recently--sort of. Not decisively addressing the issue, but I knew what she meant when she said, "You're a great mom. I wish I'd done as good a job as you do. And I'm sure you'll always do a good job." That was either a vague, half-@ss apology (as good as you're gonna get with her, and you've got to know her to understand what an apology is from her), or some sort of precursor to telling me she's got a terminal disease. (I'm pretty sure it was the former, though--not the latter.)

Chrys
Chrys

nah I'm demanding if you win the lottery you come live by me. lol


Then I accept..now get out there and buy me some loto tickets:p

I can understand your pain, the worst part is, that you'll have to basiclly decide wether that act of violance is still going to continue to take away from you. Dictating your Happiness, It's like I told my sister in law, that she was going to have to learn to play with a new deck. She say's well but why do I have to be the one to change, why can't he just be there, like he is supposed to, and its because he honestly doesn't know how. He comes by it naturally, I see my Dad in him and My Mom's dad too. Neither of them new how to be a father, like you expect a father should be. You knew they loved you, they just didn't know how to show it, concluding with because you can, when you take charge of a situation and minipulate things so they work out the way you want, they'll come along. ~It seems your sister just doesn't want to except that this man she loved could do this, BLINDERS , that is for her to deal with. But you don't need to wait on her to come to see the light, she may never. (For your own happiness) she married the loser and will have to live with that the rest of her life, but don't let your sister stay out of your life because she doesn't know how to tell you she is Sorry, You know; I bet you know this, Seeing your nephew come so close to death the other day, I belived made you realize you don't want this cloud to hang over you anymore, Time comes and goes to fast, ~I suxs being the one who has to take charge and do the dirty work you really hate and you'll kick and scream, dam it Why can't They just say their sorry, Why should I have to go to them?...............................Because You Can...You are the strong one that can bring you back together.