needserenity
11-01-13, 11:54 PM
Hi I'm Diane
My significant other (Joe) and I have only recently started discussing the possibility that he may be adhd. In the past when I'd mention it he'd just blow it off which was so frustrating. I started doing alot of research on adhd and it's effects on relationships. I started to see that my reactions to him were making life oh so much worse than it had to be. So I've been trying to change how I react and how I interact with him.
I brought the subject up again last month but this time all I did was give him some information on adhd and a checklist with which he could rate how he feels in answer to each question. I didn't push just simply asked if he could read it sometime. A few days later he did and even asked me to read his answers on the checklist. I was surprised and he seemed relieved.
A week later he mentioned this to his doctor (he's currently being treated for anxiety & deppression) and I was shocked at the pdoc's reaction. It was like we had offended him. Joe wants to follow up with another doctor but it's not easy finding someone who takes adult adhd seriously and doesn't compare it to childhood adhd.... uggh it's frustrating.
I love the most wonderful, smart, funny, loving, frustrating man and I need all the help I can get. thanks for listening
My significant other (Joe) and I have only recently started discussing the possibility that he may be adhd. In the past when I'd mention it he'd just blow it off which was so frustrating. I started doing alot of research on adhd and it's effects on relationships. I started to see that my reactions to him were making life oh so much worse than it had to be. So I've been trying to change how I react and how I interact with him.
I brought the subject up again last month but this time all I did was give him some information on adhd and a checklist with which he could rate how he feels in answer to each question. I didn't push just simply asked if he could read it sometime. A few days later he did and even asked me to read his answers on the checklist. I was surprised and he seemed relieved.
A week later he mentioned this to his doctor (he's currently being treated for anxiety & deppression) and I was shocked at the pdoc's reaction. It was like we had offended him. Joe wants to follow up with another doctor but it's not easy finding someone who takes adult adhd seriously and doesn't compare it to childhood adhd.... uggh it's frustrating.
I love the most wonderful, smart, funny, loving, frustrating man and I need all the help I can get. thanks for listening