My ADD spouse has been unemployed for four of the last seven months. Currently we're on week five. About two weeks ago he sent out one resume. He's had three major careers with a large software company and anyone who knows him says he should be in high demand. Almost all who've interviewed him in the past have offered him a job. He's had no interviews because he has not applied anywhere.

I am a stay at home mom who did not finish college because of my first pregnancy and a move halfway across the country shortly after the discovery of this pregnancy. I have no papers to prove any skills and I haven't held a paid job since I quit my in-home daycare almost five years ago.

We made some money on the sale of our old house (about 35K) and we used some to pay off our older car and we paid for our move back home. We bought another house because it was a good deal with special financing, since my husband did not have a job we could not qualify for a conventional mortgage.

We can pay our bills for the next two months, but after that we're running into trouble. I cannot get a job that supports our family. I took a temporary job the last time he was unemployed and I made $10 per hour. Over Christmas break I had to pay all the money I made to the babysitter...

My husband sits behind his computer all day, reading and occasionally checking the job postings or playing a game. He singlehandedly decided to spend our savings on living expenses just so he can put off finding a job till the last minute, like he does with everything else. He knows that it hurts me, that I lay awake at night worrying and maybe he even knows that I cry when I pay the bills every week. Yet he somehow cannot bring himself to do anything practical about the situation. Sure, he'll read a book about resume writing, but he doesn't follow up on job contacts he gets from friends and acquaintances. Yes, he's afraid of failure (though he's never truly failed at anything) but I no longer know how to deal with this. I'm not a nagger and I don't want to start. He agrees with everything I say about this yet he still hasn't moved a finger. He also doesn't do more around the house even though he's home all day.

I'm so desparate I'm looking through the wanted ads in the newspaper for myself. but there's nothing that will pay more than what I would spend on childcare (my youngest is 4) Please, does anyone know how I can get him to take responsibility for his family? I'm sure some of you have been there.
And you, ADD-ers; what did it take for you to kick yourself out of bed and find a job before you had to file for bankrupcy?

Anything you can tell me would be so very much appreciated,
Very lonely and pulling her hair out,
Lisa:)