View Full Version : Totally Unmotivated...About Anything:(


pittguy578
03-30-05, 05:20 AM
I am suffering from job burnout, and I am totally unmotivated about anything right now. I used to have plans to go to grad school and secure a better future, but it all seems like it was so long ago. I don't see the point of going to work anymore. I have stuck it out for 2+ years with nothing to show for it. I was hoping to move into another area within the company, but nothing has worked out. There have been no openings within the local office, and very few within a reasonable geographical distance from my home city. I feel like I am wasting my intelligence and my abilities. I feel like such a failure. I am ready to just stop showing up at work. I have started to clean out my desk so there will be nothing left behind. I have a hard time motivating myself to find another job outside of the company right now with the way I am feeling. I feel totally trapped. I have started to envy pizza delivery people. I just don't know what to do to rekindle my fire and move on:(

exeter
03-30-05, 08:15 AM
Quit and apply at a pizza place?

Actually, that might not be a half bad idea. I find that I have terrible motivation to go out and find a job when I already have one. You mentioned in older posts that you have some significant savings, so a period of unemployment wouldn't be disasterous. Maybe even consider taking a leave of absence of a few months, that way you can go back to your old job if nothing works out, yet you get a little taste of unemployment that just might give you the time and motivation to find something.

sosninity
04-10-05, 02:42 AM
pittguy578,
I hope you will see this post.

You sound like me a few years back (or was it yesterday too?).
Depression is no fun. Even if you have lived with it all your life.
There's a lot I am thinking, but little I can say.

Okay, at one point I had been working for the same 'temporary,' 'parttime' job for 5 years. I actively sought work, and took a job in another town. The day I was moving, my supervisor called to say there was going to be a permanent, full-time opening.

So maybe it's a good thing that you're not doing anything else right now.

Cleaning your desk could be a pretty grim thing to be doing, given your mood. But it could also be cathartic.
And maybe even appropriate if they offer you a new job in a different office.

BTW, I moved to that other town for the job, got my masters at age 47, and took another job in another town. After 3 years, I sought therapy because I knew the real problem wasn't my current boss, it was something in me. In the process the ADD connection was made, and, among other things, I saw how that aspect of my personality had no doubt closed a lot of doors that could have been open to me.

latesha
04-10-05, 03:48 PM
[B]WOW, can I totally relate.

I hate my job I hate my job I hate my job I hate my job...Not sure how much clearer I can be. I am 22 years old, and have been working in the same line of work (with the mentally and physically disabled) since I was 14 years old. Eight long hard grueling years. And I have not a single thing to show for it, aside from the compassion in my soul for those consumers whom I work for. It is not the "work" that I hate, it is the company and the way the company treat others that I hate.

I to had dreams of finishing school, going on to law school and becoming a Lawyer. That drea seems to diminish a little bit everyday when I have to drag myself to work. At this point in my life, it is not financially feasible for me to stop working, even if only for a brief time. So I am forced to stay where I am, and try to find the spare time to print out resume's and go to interviews of which I have had NOT ONE. That is VERY depressing.

I search job sites, and I see something that I KNOW that I could do. I would be really good at it, and it would be fun and challenging for me. However, I read further, and find that I am not qualified.

If I can do the job and do it correctly, then by gosh I should be "Qualified" to do the job. I am sooooooo sick and tired of these ads that say 4 year degree, must have MBA, blah blah blah...it is heart breaking to know that a job that I could do and would enjoy doing is out of my reach because I dont have the education.

I WANT the education...but at this point, I dont have the strength to even attempt a law school application. Let alone the entrance exams and LSAT.

Bummed out!

herekittykitty
04-12-05, 10:56 AM
hi pittguy,

Sure, your work might suck (and it likely does) but it sounds like depression is a bigger issue right now. I wouldn't suggest quitting or looking for anything new in your present state of mind, because everything's going to look bleak. Get some therapy, get some help, get some meds. When you're in a better state of mind, you'll have better perspective, and will be able to make better decisions.

Just my 2 cents, but your post reminded me a LOT of my state of mind recently. I'd go so far as to say this: it's not the job, it's you. Fix yourself first.

yupyup1128
04-14-05, 12:56 AM
:faint: :faint: I took understand the burden you all must feel. But i am only 19 and i am still tryin to make my dreams happen. I have that drive in me thats gotten me this far ,, amazingly. Im in my second year of college and in sept i will be moving to denver ...from ri, on the outside things are looking extremely good for me. But thats not the case in side .... i feel so unmotivated and lost and down sometimes i truly wonder how the hell i have gotten to this point. I pay for college on my own, my appartment, food. clothes,, etcetc and its so ******* hard i am tempted to drop out and get a job some where and started saving for an other car and a life. but theres something inside me that knows i wont be happy with that life ... and i have to continue on ... but on to where?? somewhere happier? better? escaping something that i dont want to be? I cant figure it out ... and lately all i have been doing is tryin to improve myself and i have,,, (cut down drinkng alot,,, quit ciggs, quitweed, been seein a theripist) but i feel so stressed so much homework,,, finanical things to worryabout bills this and that. I feel like every time i make progress i am just set back in another way, like im not good enough for anything. this is truely depressing because theres only so much one can take and still ride with but im feelin the loads too heavy and theres nothing i can do. but quit and work i know i wpnt be happy, or stay in move to denver and finish but i dunno if i can take all this struggle with no change ( i use to not care about school and get c's and a few b's..... and now ive been bustin my ***** and i basically see the same reslts) i am truly burdend with this having adhd puts me at a disadvatage in this world where noone cares:faint:

Gourmet
04-14-05, 04:15 AM
Hi. I am not sure if you are an active member still - I see it has been a while since your post. But just in case you are still with us, I thought I would write you. I hope things are going better for you :)


I am not sure if you are asking for advice, pittguy.
Let me explain to you up front that I am an oldest daughter and a an adhd mother.
Please understand that I have taken on the role of mother of the universe.
You have the option to accept it or shove it...sure, it will hurt my little southern girl feelings, but I'll get over it.

Don't quit your job without having a back up plan.

Two years of your life has not been wasted. I promise you have gained some useful information from your experience - even if it is simply to realize you just plain hate the kind of work you are doing.
Two years may seem like forever if you are young, but trust me, the next two years will be here before you know it and they can only improve if you are proactive today.

It is never too late. Next year you will be a year older. Even if you don't make it to grad school, you will still be another year older.

I agree with herekitty. You are very down right now- obviously. But it does sound like you are having a depression. Be proactive today and seek a doctor's opinion. Getting rid of your depression will settle your mind and hopefully you will be more open to see the bigger plan for your future.

I don't like it when people tell me to be patient. But when I do make it over a road-block, I realize the advice is true.

Your idea that you have wasted ANything is nonsense. Nobody can take your talents and education away from you.

If you are in a dead end job and you don't enjoy your type of work, it is time to be proactive and find a back up plan.

YOU can do it.
Good luck to you- you can do it:)

hugs'
Annie