View Full Version : So I fell for a heroin addict...or so I thought


Raye
09-05-14, 02:20 AM
If I could make sense of all this, I would.

Those here who know me well, know
that last April I left a 3 year relationship.

I thought it would do me good to have some
time to myself, to heal from the heartbreak
and just decompress from months of madness.

Then M. walks into my life, out of no where.
A friend of a friend, cute guy, funny, nice,
complimented me and we had great conversations.

We began a relationship. When our mutual
friend found this out, he told me that M. is
a full blown heroin addict.
I didnt believe him- After all, never in my
life had I known a heroin addict. I didnt
see a single sign of drug use.

I was to put it mildly, p***** off at my friend
of four years for making such a horrible
accusation about M.

M. and I had a lot of fun, a lot in common,
he went to work everyday, no signs of him
being an addict.

About 4 weeks into our relationship, our
mutual friend informed me that M's "rigs"
were found at his grandmother's apartment.
Our mutual friend and M's grandma live
in the same apartment building.

I asked "what the f*** are rigs?"....yeah,
Slang for needles, syringes.

So M was busted, he admitted he shot up
at least 4-5 times a week.

I was stunned to say the least. Hurt. Sad.

To shorten this up, M has since detoxed and
is in a treatment center now.

I ended things with him of course. But we are
still in contact, and he seems to be doing
well so far.
I truly didnt see it. I apologized to my friend,
he said he was only looking out for me because
he knows I wont tolerate being in a relationship with
an addict, especially since I am an addict
(or former) addict of benzos.

I really want to see M. get well and live a normal
drug free life. M. apologized to me a million
times.
I told him I forgive him, just get well.

sarahsweets
09-05-14, 04:04 AM
((Hugs)) raye. The thing about Addicts is that its never about you its about the addict. You couldn't have known and it's not your fault.

Fuzzy12
09-05-14, 04:37 AM
:grouphug:

Laserbeak
09-20-14, 10:05 AM
He's in rehab and getting help, and he was basically a functional addict.

To tell you the truth I wouldn't have dropped him just because of that, if you were otherwise attracted to his personality and his looks.

I've tried just about everything, and the only thing that truly scared me was heroin, and that was just sniffing it. I can't imagine what injecting it IV is like. I really thought I might fall asleep and die, I kept myself up pacing the room as best I could to keep me awake and breathing.

Then afterwords I had horrible withdrawal symptoms that lasted for like a week, more like I had been on prescription painkillers for months then suddenly stopped. But I only did a couple lines of the heroin one night!

So anyway, it is an evil drug, and you shouldn't blame him for getting hooked. If he's otherwise a nice guy you may be making a big mistake to throw him away over just one of his mistakes.

daveddd
09-20-14, 09:37 PM
maybe i wouldn't drop him

but i would wait till he is clean to talk to him

addiction does bad things to people

they can't take care of themselves , let alone have a partner

he needs to focus on his sobriety , first and foremost

Little Missy
09-21-14, 05:38 AM
Every one deserves a second chance.

daveddd
09-21-14, 08:28 AM
yea, i don't if getting someone you just met through a heroine addiction is a good idea

if its someone you've been with and loved thats a different story

daveddd
09-21-14, 08:35 AM
I'm not sure how first hand familiar you guys are with heroine addiction

i unfortunately am extremely familiar with it (not me)

its stop or die

mildadhd
09-21-14, 11:28 PM
No need to reply.

When I here about someone self medicating/addiction, I always wonder..

Does he/she have ADHD? (or some other emotional health issue).







P

Laserbeak
09-24-14, 06:48 PM
I'm not sure how first hand familiar you guys are with heroine addiction

i unfortunately am extremely familiar with it (not me)

its stop or die

Actually there are plenty of functional heroin addicts. I'm certainly not recommending it, but there are many people who have high-powered jobs that are addicted to heroin, yet still excel and don't end up dead, even after years of use. Of course there are also people who spiral down fast and end up ODing within weeks or months of first trying it.... Everyone is different.

daveddd
09-24-14, 09:06 PM
Actually there are plenty of functional heroin addicts. I'm certainly not recommending it, but there are many people who have high-powered jobs that are addicted to heroin, yet still excel and don't end up dead, even after years of use. Of course there are also people who spiral down fast and end up ODing within weeks or months of first trying it.... Everyone is different.

so if you have a high powered job heroine can't kill you???

come on man

I'm telling you I'm familiar with heroine addiction, very much so

your job don't matter

your status doesn't matter


your functionality doesn't really even matter

your lifespan will be significantly decreased