View Full Version : IEP update - and in your face Ms Counselor


Lunacie
11-18-14, 02:16 PM
Just got home from attending the yearly IEP update at my granddaughter's school.

Her behavior is so much better in this classroom with this teacher - which to
me speaks volumes about how sucky her previous classroom/teacher was.

Apparently the district counselor who worked with my granddaughter at her old
school had been in contact with her teacher now, and mentioned again that
they had believed her incontinence was deliberate - manipulative - in order to
avoid doing her school work.

This had been brought up every IEP in the past, and all we could say was that
we didn't see it at home, and didn't believe she was doing that at school either.

But her teacher now keeps a chart (both last year and this year) of meltdowns
and 'accident' and could show that the accidents happened more often during
free time when she was doing extracurricular activities that she likes.

The district counselor just sat there and listened - didn't have anything else to
say. So ... in your face Ms Counselor! :D Our knowledge of my granddaughter
was validated.



She has been going to three inclusion classes - all by herself, without a para!
But this raises a problem in that her handwriting is mostly illegible so her
resource room teacher doesn't know for sure what her homework assignments
are, so they just do everything.

I asked about the availability of a handheld device - as her typing is somewhat
more legible. The district resource worker and the teacher were having a real
discussion on the plusses and minuses of each device when put into my
granddaughter's hands.

Previously these things had been promised and never followed through on,
and no one explained why the minuses perhaps outweighed the plusses.

All in all, 7th grade is awesome!

TygerSan
11-18-14, 02:24 PM
Yay for someone who tracked *actual* data and was able to get a good idea of what was really happening with your granddaughter rather than just going by way of assumption.

(I will say that the incontinence on demand thing . . . not as rare as one might think, even in older kids. . . It's a control thing)

Lunacie
11-18-14, 06:01 PM
Yay for someone who tracked *actual* data and was able to get a good idea of what was really happening with your granddaughter rather than just going by way of assumption.

(I will say that the incontinence on demand thing . . . not as rare as one might think, even in older kids. . . It's a control thing)

And like we told the teacher and counselor years ago when the claim was first made ...

if a child is doing that as a form of control then they have a reason they feel that need for control.

Shame and blame doesn't help the child or the situation.

Assuming that's the reason doesn't help either.

Not being self-body-aware isn't rare either - especially in kids with Autism.
She doesn't feel the urge, she doesn't always feel the results.

Heck, by the time I feel the urge, I'm often too late.
Which is what her teacher said about herself.

TygerSan
11-18-14, 06:06 PM
Yup, I agree. Shame never does anything good.

Especially when the person in question actually doesn't seem to feel shame at all.

It's important to figure out the why so that you can work on how to deal with the issue, rather than banging your head against a brick wall.

If it's a lack of signals, it'll happen anywhere and everywhere. If it's a control issue, it'll happen during difficult times. If it's due to hyperfocus/inability to transition, it'll happen during times of intense focus.