View Full Version : Great job so well suited for an ADD'er...why am I still so bored?


allegro
04-20-05, 11:43 PM
I am in management. It is a position that keeps me mobile...very important to me. There is not much paperwork...very important to me. It provides a very positive enviornment...which is a must for me. It is in retail and there are always new themes and products to keep things fresh. It rewards me with a very competitive income and great benefits. I have been there almost 5 years, which for me, is a first.

I am completely and utterly bored. I am sick to death of it, even though at times I do still love it. It is sometimes excruciating to even get through the day. When I was younger, it was always the people that I would get burned out on. The people are great. It is all me.

Jobs like this one are few and far between in this rural area. It would be easy to get another job that is similar to this one, but different enough to give me some drive back, but it would mean tripling my commute time...something I am not willing to do.

The only real draw back to this position is the scheduleing. I work a couple of days, a couple of nights and a mid shift each week. The shifts change every week and I get only one weekend off a month. Besides this, everything is just great.

Just great... Just bored! It is no longer a challenge, but I still find myself not working to my potential. I check and recheck my watch just trying to make it through to the next break, while agonizing that I must do it again tomorrow. It is misery.

What is my problem? I have thought it over and over. It is between customers that I seem to be so miserable. When there is nothing to keep my attention. I could so easily be doing much busy work, but it seems so mundane. Even direction that is given by the company seems like such a waste of time. It is almost like something so minor affects so little. It is just a waste of my energy to get behind it. When direction is given to me, it is like I am listening to Charlie Brown's teacher...wa wa wa!

Where has my work ethic gone? I have always been an overachiever and have put so much emphasis on self-developement. I have worked hard to elevate myself to this level of authority in business. I have always been respected as being a cut above the pack. Why now do I have so little regard for what I have acheived?

At times I have found that I need to just snap out of things. This is not one of those times. I have been struggling with this for about a year now and it gets worse instead of better.

I need understanding. I need strength. I need some advice.
Anyone?

crime_scene
04-20-05, 11:51 PM
What else would you do instead that is as good?

Do you already have another job lined up so you won't be out of money?

How would you improve your job if you could?

If you like working with people, as a manager, are you doing everything for your staff that you need to? ARe they developed, nurtured and mentored by you?

Just a few questions?

My cousin is ADD and he has felt the same about his job, but its a great job for him and in the end he can't think of anything else he'd rather do. So sometimes there are ups and downs. Also, he keeps very active outside of work, and is an avid woodworker/carpenter revamping his fixer upper house.

Maybe these are some ideas to mull over! I think ADD folks often relish the chase over the "having".

Hope you find a good answer for yourself that makes you happy!!!

sLiPpY
05-04-05, 06:52 PM
It sounds to me as if something is out of balance in your life, and understand the exact feelings you're describing. When I begin to feel that way, I've learned to invoke the H.A.L.T principle and ask myself the following questions.

1. What am I Hungry for?
2. What makes me Angry?
3. Loneliness? what am I longing for?
4. Tired? what is it that I need to do?

Out of those questions I usually identify something, that I sometimes find surprising. Am I getting adequate rest? and/or excercise? Is there a relationship that I've grown into and out of? Is it the job itself I've outgrown?

Our bodies send us signals all the time, in the form of headaches, stomach aches, etc.
See what you might be able to associate those signals to.

Change worry, to concern, and concern to action once you've pinpointed an issue. Ask yourself what you can do to change things, if you have a choice? If you can't come up with a choice? Being there are many things in life we have absolutely no control over...and you feel like other elements are balanced. Then just leave it alone. :)