ive beentalking with others on just about every suject latly , and the number one thing that seems to come to mind thinking about these disscussionsions.Is i hurt inside, why would god do such a thing, so on, and so on ,. i myself went theough a stage like this , im defective i struggle not only with add but anxiaty as well.

and it comes to this why doesent god seem to make since, what have i done to be defective?

the anserwer is as close as my bible is to me .

looking at our school system kinda a one sieze fits all, give me 25 or thirty of those that dont fit in , because they have add, or some other so called lable,Ill find out what they are good at, incourage them, and watch them succeed.

but first i need to install a set of values in them , kinda like the ones , the ten that used to hang up in our school hallways, the ten they are trying to remove from our courthouses. These ten cammandments, the base for sucsess,


the base or standard to live by. or we simply have more caoes ,or how ever it is spelled.


ok that brings me back to poor me way im i different? For a reason, thats why! we are all individuals with gifts. and adders are by no means different,but what holds us back is not fitting in to the one sieze fits all community. we are scollded by are teachers, we mess up at work because of the wrong carrer choice .a long time ago i got fired from a job because i found it sooooooooooo borrring, i tryed to make it fun and ended up messing up some parts not on purpose but the way i chose to preform the job. i think i was tring to recreate the wheel, by trying to improve on a all ready proven methode .


then i found my nitch and the rest is history, add is not easyto live with im not saying that.but the bible tells me bring a child up in the way he should go and he will not depart from it.why would we bring a child up in a one sieze fits most school. and have that child suffer, makes me wounder,or try to put a add adult in a factory running a machine that hes bored to death with, again i wounder, most of the adder i know are very gifted, lets help find those God given talents and put them to use.


food for thought, todd


sorry about typos im tired.

Your posting tired and I'm reading your post tired and on major narcotics to help control the pain of a bone infection lmbo aren't we a combo?!!

Since, I can't focus long enough to read the whole post I'm gonna give you my short and sweet answer. God has/had nothing to do with my physical makeup that was my parents genes and maybe a little to do with the atmosphere in which I was raised. What he has done for me was give me the strength to live each day to its full potential and lead me to a great man and I have great kids. Life isn't perfect but I never asked for perfection only to be happy. Hope I hit the key notes, I need a nap lol.

Nighty night.

futs, you hit middle C thank you, gosh im not at all worried about my add any more ,or depressed about it , but what i am concerned with amount of pressure that we have in trying to rise our kids, the difficulties with fitting in .

I myself, the people arround me know me , in our community.I do construction and word is if you let Todd do his thing , or give him the plans tell him to do what needs to be done .And letting him run with it using his best judjement the job will take less time , i can use creativity to create a job that shows pride, but if you stand over the top of me im going to get nervious , and not be at my best , results not as good.

sorry to here about your bone infection ,i will try to keep you in my prayers,I hope it heals quickly for you.

[[[[[[[[ lots of hugs for the leg pain]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]

b todd

Actually, the pain is in my jaw (lucky for my husband lol) I had an impacted wisdom tooth that became infected and the infection spread into the bone and surrounding area's. The meds make me a little sick and the pain meds make me nutzo to be sure but without illness we can't appreciate being healthy is what I keep telling myself. lol

I don't raise my kids anymore, I let them raise me. My kids have taught me more about self acceptance and fitting in then anyone ever before. Both my children have a large base of friends that are as different from each other as night is from day because you cannot lump my kids into a single group. My son is athletic but is very accademic and inquisitive plus he's always attracted to the newest toy gun and mud hole around. My daughter aspires to be a cheerleader and to work with handicapped children not your usual persona of a cheerleader I generally think of a stuck up selfish person. Not to mention the fact that she is interested in sports, outdoorsmen activities such as hunting with her dad.

Sometimes, its ok to loosen your hold on the reigns and let your kids lead you to teach you about acceptance.

Good luck and thanks for the prayers and hugs.
Cherity