04-24-05, 03:01 PM
I have come to realize that I am very depressed, and I think the medicine is helping me somewhat. But the anxiety is still there and I was wondering if anyone knows if you can be on an anitdepressant and an anxiety medicine at the same time?? I dont know. I've also realized that like another poster on here, I dont have anything to look forward too and I think that depresses me alot. I never get to go out, I dont have a hobbie and sometimes I hate to come home and deal with my kids and my boyfriend.I just need some good advice.
04-25-05, 12:38 AM
Oh Stephanie I am so sorry that you feel this way. I understand what you are feeling and I also know how hard it is to find the information, understanding and compassion that we crave. How old are your kids? Mine are 7,2 and 1. It is so hard to balance being a mother and everyday life. I feel that we all must just get through day to day and try to remember that the memories, whether good or bad, that happen each day only happen once. Your children will someday be all grown up and you will miss not having to deal with them. Thats how I have to think every day.
As for hobbies, hhmmm, I dont know. I guess the standard answer would be to find something your interested in and pour yourself into it, but that answer is alot easier said than done. I would start with taking the most important thing in your life and trying your hardest to also make that the most positive thing in your life. For example, your children. My son turned 7 in March and it was such a shock to me, it was like yesterday he was 2, I feel like I get so wrapped up in my "projects" and myself that I forget to live the day with my children and love each day with my children.
Death is very real in my family right now, so if anything it has made me try to stop and smell the flowers, I still fall into my deep depressions but I have to struggle to crawl out each day so that I can have memories to fall back on when and if I need them.
The worst thing about not having something to look forward to is that we dont see what we should be looking forward to.
Like I said I understand everything that you posted and I completely empathize with you. I hope that you are able to take even a small nugget of what Ive said and maybe think on it and feel a little better.
I believe you can take AD's and anxiety meds together, I think there are some AD's that have anti anxiety properties, like Effexor.
04-25-05, 08:33 PM
Thank you very much. I do feel like I'm so wrapped up with my kids that when my friends ask me about anything else I dont have a clue about it. This website has helped me so much, I've met so many nice people. And it has also taught me alot also. Thanks again.
Hi Stephanie. I have a 7 yr old daughter who has ADHD. I think she got it from me but i have never been 'offically' diagnoised. It was a struggle just to get Taye diagnoised. But I do suffer from reacurring major depression and anxiety and like sweetmama said effexor is one where they are combined in one tablet to help people like us cope with everyday stuff and takes the edge off the hopeless feelings that come with depression. I in the past have tried several anti-depressive meds but effexor is the only one I have found to work for me. When I first when on it I thought 'oh great yet another one that won't work' but in a week (which is really quick) I was walking around with a goofy smile on my face and enjoyed getting out of bed and facing the day. I must add that I also see a great shrink. For some people doing both...taking meds and talking to someone helps but with others they might only need one or the other.
Talk to your dr and see what he/she says about you trialing the medication for a while.
I wish you all the best.
04-28-05, 12:35 AM
I was diagnoseed last June with ADHD and exhaustion. We started first with just Ritalin, but due to continued anxiety and depression issue we added an anti-depressant after 5 months.
My doctor explained that we could then try taking me off the stimulant, but my life finally seemed to be working so I asked to just leave it alone. She agreed. I am now on both and doing quite well. It doesn't take it all away, but that wouldn't be normal, either, IMHO. Everybody has ups and downs, and I'm feeling pretty good these days.