I feel like I am beating my head against a wall. I love my husband dearly....but he seems to think that the meds are supposed to make me able to remember everything and be just like the rest of the world. We got in a fight this morning because I forgot to make a list for a costco trip. I got my back up....which was wrong. But I felt like he was treating me like a child. I am sorry if I am ranting but I hate fights. I spent the day teary. It feels like when I was a kid and everyone told me I was such a screw up. I need his support....

Would he be willing to read about the condition at all? I don't know how much reading you've done, but there are sometimes excerpts from books on adult add that I read to my husband--usually other people anecdotes that mirror things that happen to me or us. He still will laugh sometimes when I do something clutzy or get real spacy and it does hurt my feelings a little, but he's pretty easy going about a lot of stuff so I just try to let it go. And the book I'm reading now (Journeys through ADDulthood) talks a lot about the necessity of support from people around you--like husbands. Maybe if you could encourage him to help you move forward (like asking nicely about the Costco list before you leave the house) he would get less frustrated

Thank you and I will and have tried.....he seems always to be to busy.

http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=15990

Here is another thread on the same topic. I hope some of the ideas there will also help you in addition to the answers from this thread.

(I could merge them all into one thread but for now I'll leave them seperate so that your post is not missed.)

Schedule a quiet dinner with him. Have him work it into his calendar. You are more important than the stuff he is busy with, however noble and necessary it may be.

And you're not a screw-up. My husband has learned to laugh with me on this. This morning I looked at my calendar and realized I had an appointment in ten minutes 15 minutes away and no babysitter lined up. I rescheduled, on the minute that I was supposed to be there. I should really refill my straterra Rx. It helps, but I still forget stuff.

{{hugs}}

Ok.... this is the plan. We are going to spend all day Saturday...with no kids. I am going to try my best to explain how important it is to me that he understands the ADD. That I am never going to be the wife who seems to have it all together. You know the ones who's kids never seem to get dirty, who's house look like the front cover's of home and garden... I am me....and part of that is ADD. Just a side note. Is there anyway to turn off that part of me that always worried about screwing stuff up. If that makes any sence?