04-27-05, 01:39 AM
I am having relationship issues. I was recently dumped due to what I think was my problem with cohesive communication and abrupt negative statements , 2 specifically, at the person I was dating which I did not mean but under anxiety , as I was self consciouss around him AT first. I told him I didnt mean anything by my comments but he dumped me soon after. I have a history of being abrasive unintentionally. I think he also used this as an excuse to leave but I wonder if I ruined relaionships in the past. Im still single at 32! It seems hopeless to find someone understanding, I feel lonely sometimes.:rolleyes:
04-27-05, 09:34 AM
I'm scared to have relationships because I feel I can't read social cues very well...
04-27-05, 12:22 PM
Wish I could be of some help. I'm married 17 years and have relationship difficulties partly do to my ADD and partly due to his__________.
I'm grouchy today so I better be good and not say what I was thinking :(
04-27-05, 05:36 PM
say it FTm that is what this forum is all about....get it out. NOW!!!!!
05-22-05, 01:47 AM
I can really empathize with you! One thing I did in my current (successful?) relationship is explain some of my little foibles up front. This seems to have helped.
05-22-05, 01:36 PM
my husband and i have weathered 21 years together, in spite of my add, which causes me to be abrasive and seemingly thoughtless, and in spite of his recently diagnosed depression/bi-polar disorder. because he is also what could be called controlling, he never gave up on us and i never gave up on us because i can be just as stubborn.
i think you need to make people understand that add is part of your package. "blurting" is part of add. someone who is willing to see past all of that to the real you under all that other stuff. this would ideally start with making friends first (that old ann landers "what is love" thing really does work....) :soapbox:
well, i'll get off my soapbox now and wish you good luck in finding someone who will appreciate the real you and let themselves be scared off by a little blurting.... :foot: