:( I find myself ready to separate from my wife, since being diagnosed with ADD in Jan 2005, life has been a challenge. Determining the correct meds and amounts, is still ongoing for me. Life is improving for me. On the other hand life as a couple isn't all that, lately. My wife has been dealing with supporting me and not taking care of her needs, so I turn my attention to helping her and so on, and so on. Within the home what kind of things can we do to improve our relationship and lives.

Thanks in Advance

Don't give up. Think about what is right in your relationship. What is working? Sometimes the only thing on the list is "Our marriage has been based on being good friends, I took a vow, and I'm still convinced this is the person I'm supposed to spend the rest of my life with." That was where my hubby and I were two years ago. We're closer than ever now for sticking it out.

Sit down and make a list of chores. Hang them on the fridge. Depending on who has what kind of job/schedule they might not necessarily be even and they don't necessarily have to be. What does she need to handle, what can you do and what are things you need to help with or do as a team. Remind each other to look at the list.

I love the fact that you want to support each other. It sounds like you need to be in sync about who needs what and when. What are her specific needs and how can you make that happen, or make it easier for her to meet that need herself? Same for you. She is not a psychiatrist and there are some things that are best hashed out with a therapist. But she is your rock of support and you are hers. It sounds like your team just needs some management. If you think you need it, bringing in a marriage counselor for a little while, just bounce things off of might help get you on track.

Hang in there. Being together is work and for her the role change may be a problem. It sound like she is a care taker type. Talk about what she needs and where she may need you to back off. I know from my end of things my husband often is my rock, some days he steadys me others I feel like he is draging me down.