To make a long story short, I moved into a 2 bedroom apartment so that a chickie I really really liked could move in. She didn't require that I move but it was something I felt like I should do so that we'd have room for her stuff too.
As the story goes, after six weeks...it didn't work out. She was "overfocused" ADD and I'm the "Inattentive" type. A year later I'm still here.

The place I'm in is really affordable, and only 25 percent of my net income. To transfer within the complex back to a unit like I'd had before, would save me $1300 for the next year...less a bathroom and a bedroom.

I can't decide if the move is worth it or not. i.e. I love having the extra space...plus I've got two cats. Thing is, my previous place was second floor. So my cats could go outside and chill on the deck. This one is first floor, and I feel guilty sometimes because one of the cats seems to miss going outside. The other could care less.

Only real worry I've got. If I lost my job tomorrow, that extra $110 per month available would lighten the load and I've just got myself. ehh, it wouldn't cost me anything to move as to fees, and I would do it myself.

What I'd give up? Being able to ride my bike off the porch vs. carrying it downstairs. A desk and a futon that I'd furnished the office with...it's sort of my guitar studio...lol Great deals on the desk and futon...only $180 bucks total.

So my choices are to stay, and I could probably satisfy my cat by screening in the back porch which they allow residents to do. Or I could move? and save $1300 per year, but since it's already affordable? What would you do?

And please forgive my selfish rant...just that I don't have another ADDer to turn to for an opinion. All I've got is myself, and it seems I tend to think better for other people vs. me. So I'm hoping someone here will think better for me than myself. :)

It sounds as if you really love the new place. I'd stay if worse came to worse you could always get a roommate.

thnx for the help nucking...

I believe you're thoughts have helped...i.e. cross that bridge if I get to it.

Sometimes it scares me, whether I'll be able to sustain what I've got and reach for more tomorrow. Maybe one has to reach before they can find?

Very poetic. You can't be brave unless your scared first.

You can always move to a cheaper place or get a roommate but finding another place that you are this happy with would probably hard to come by. Just in case (lol I'm a mom I always have a just in case plan) I'd start putting a little aside in a savings account for emergencies though.

im with futs advice, when i have a decision to make and i cant (almost always) i usualy just toss a coin, heads i stay, tails i go. Made some of lifes most important decisions on the flip of a coin, but futs advice is way better.

my husband has a good version of flip-a-coin. he goes with his first reaction once the coin flipped. if he picked "heads i stay" and heads comes up, but, his first reaction is "bummer" -- then he knows he doesn't really want to stay. so, he goes with his reaction to the coin toss.

if you have no reaction, then it doesn't *really* matter at that moment, and if you have to make a decision, we go with the coin.

though, a lot of our big decisions have been left up to chance. ususally though it's a case of "heads i win, tails you lose." so, either way, it'll work out in our favor.

slippy, sounds like you came to a decision you are comfortable with. :cool:

Coin toss was a nifty idea! I especially liked the suggestion of seeing how one feels once that coin is tossed. I tried it twice for good measure...and it came up heads. :D

Thought about it a while, and if I quit smoking I'd save the same amount of money. Which is something I really really want to do, beginning this coming Monday. That date's been set in my mind for over a month. Hopefully, I'll have more success than the last time I'd tried, which lasted about nine months. Fortunately, I don't have any close friends around now who smoke. I'm the last one!

Maybe I worry about the future too much, because it took me so damn long to get to a point where I could maintain a place of my own, buy a decent automobile, and have my credit go from omfg to good! :)

We don't know what tomorrow might bring, but for today...thanks for helping me see my way through to enjoying the ride!

I found something wonderful on the web. Right now I'm listening to a video lecture from the University of Wisconsin.

http://www.uwec.edu/counsel/pubs.htm Is all the information they have to offer.

The lecture I'm listening too is wonderful, in that it's helped my thinking on so many subjects...that are open questions at the moment.

One of the things I learned from the lecture is to ask myself is it a choice? or do I have control?

There are very few things we have control over in life. I can make a choice to stay where I am, it is affordable at the present moment. But I have no control over whether the income to provide for it will actually be there tomorrow. Which raises other issues, such as what if? and how I could choose to respond to it to sail on through.

So I choose for today, and hope that some may find answers they've been seeking on other issues...amongst the subjects of the link.

Another important item, is learning to more fully live in the moment. Which is prolly the greatest challenge of all of us inattentive types...btw...when we actually do. omfg...we go overboard. lol

You're handling this beautifully, and should be very proud of yourself. Good luck on quitting the smoking. Enjoy your well-earned "pad".

my husband has a good version of flip-a-coin. he goes with his first reaction once the coin flipped. if he picked "heads i stay" and heads comes up, but, his first reaction is "bummer" -- then he knows he doesn't really want to stay. so, he goes with his reaction to the coin toss.


Hey this is exactly how I make my 50 50 decisions!!!! It really works, and I've psyched myself out a few times to realize I didn't really feel as neutral as I figured I was originally.

Brilliant.