View Full Version : 7 yo Grandson with ADHD/ODD-Vent


Elliegirl1052
02-01-16, 12:01 PM
I love my grandson to death. This poor child was beaten by his father while being potty trained while my daughter was at work. I think it was going on for a couple of years but he finally beat him enough to leave marks when he was 4. She left her husband and the father doesn't have much contact. So my dear GS has issues from that. He's also ADHD/ODD. He's gifted and knows how to work the system. I wasn't called to substitute teach this morning so I took him to school. He refused to go because his mom wouldn't buy the mine craft download for him this morning. Over the years we have physically put him into time out. I injured my back doing that and had to have surgery, so I don't put anyone anywhere now. He's a strong boy. I had to call my ex-husband to get him out from behind the couch. My ex was mad about that. I am a retired special education teacher. I taught so many middle school kids with ADHD and ODD I can't count. I use the same techniques with my grandson that I used with my students, but it's not working!! I live with my daughter so I'm around most of the time. I just feel very frustrated because I can't manage this child. She's going out of town for 5 days in March and I'll have him and his 5 yo brother who also has ADHD, by myself!!We use time outs, rewards, consequences, just what we're supposed to do. It's difficult to know how much is ADHD/ODD and how much is trauma. I'm just at my wits end!

sarahsweets
02-02-16, 05:30 AM
How old is he now?

Elliegirl1052
02-02-16, 02:21 PM
He will be 8 Friday, February 5.

sarahsweets
02-03-16, 05:34 AM
Well if it were me, no way would I have agreed to take care of him and his sibling by myself because it just doesnt seem safe or fair. How are you going to be able to help with his sibling if you will be needing all your attention with him? It sounds like he needs meds (if he's not already on them) and that there is more going on than whats on the surface. It sounds like what you are currently doing isnt working anymore. Is he in therapy? What does his doctor say?

Little Missy
02-03-16, 10:00 AM
Well if it were me, no way would I have agreed to take care of him and his sibling by myself because it just doesnt seem safe or fair. How are you going to be able to help with his sibling if you will be needing all your attention with him? It sounds like he needs meds (if he's not already on them) and that there is more going on than whats on the surface. It sounds like what you are currently doing isnt working anymore. Is he in therapy? What does his doctor say?

I know I wouldn't do it. Too much.

Elliegirl1052
02-03-16, 05:25 PM
SarahSweets, he has issues from the abuse. He is on medication, two in fact. He is going to therapy but my daughter is not happy with what's going on. We took him to the university pediatric psychiatric specialist to have him evaluated. He's gifted, has anxiety disorder and ADHD. The pediatric specialist recommended cognitive behavioral therapy to help with his anxiety, which triggers his anger. Both my daughter and I have talked to his therapist about this but she's working on PCIT, which is geared towards abusive parents. The pediatric specialist specifically stated that PCIT is not correct for him. He goes back next Monday, and supposedly she's going to start on the cognitive behavioral therapy. They only have the meltdowns when the computer is involved, so I'm going to tell her when she is gone they will not be able to play the computer.