I do not have a behovior modification plan or really any plan in place in my home. Let me explain my situation. My oldest daughter (9) has ADHD, my middle daughter (7) has some learning disabilities and might be innattentive ADD, and my youngest (5) appears not to have any problems as yet, but she's 5 and the baby of the family which spells -- spoiled rotten by everyone of us. <<A little side note she was conceived after my husband and I thought we could no longer conceive so she was an absolute surprise!>> Back to the situation. Although I do not have an official dx myself of ADD or ADHD my oldest daughter's prior pediatrician told me that he highly suspects that I also have it and has encouraged me to seek evaluation and treatment. Unfortunately, I have come upon several obstacles in finding someone who will actually evaluate me and still no dx, however I am still trying to find the right doc for myself. My husband is in the Army and is currently deployed to Iraq. So, we are experiencing a lot of turmoil, anxiety, etc. It's really hard for me when he leaves. I have a very hard time focusing and everything kinda' goes out of control, i.e. housework, paying bills, errands, etc. Intellectually I know this creates a very difficult situation for the children and for myself, but I feel so unable to act. It seems that procrastination becomes my main behavior. Ironically, when DH is home with us I'm not at all like this. I am usually fairly organized and able to get things done. I am really struggling this time and I'm just not sure where to begin to rectify this sitaution so that I can alleviate some of the stress my kids are feeling and be the best mom I can be for them. I certainly don't feel like I am doing that now. I know I should seek some therapy and that's the first call on my agenda tomorrow morning, but if it turns out as it has in the past I'm not very encouraged. Any advice? Helpful tips? I could certainly use it!