View Full Version : How to study and socialise at the same time?


louiseliu36
07-24-16, 07:34 PM
Hi everyone!
Ever since I can remember, I have always had problems with managing concentration levels when it comes studying. My focus comes and goes when it wants...and this makes it hard especially at university when the workload is heavy and more focus is needed. It is very scary knowing that one day, I can do tonnes of work...and another day...I just can't get into the zone... this uncertainty means that I can't plan other things like socialising because I always need to use my extra time to catch up on the work I haven't done.

One of my greatest problems is that outside stimuli distract me too much!!! This means that during term times...I can't socialise at all...because whenever I do, my mind becomes messy and I simply cannot focus anymore. In fact, the only way I can study is to lock myself in my room in my family home and isolate myself for weeks on end...literally no jokes. However I find that this is simply dragging down the quality of my life.

Is anyone else in the same situation? Does anyone have any recommendations?

Thanks!

Little Missy
07-24-16, 08:43 PM
I did that for years at college and I'm real happy about it. It was worth it.

Tetrahedra
07-25-16, 01:45 AM
Reach out to your resources on campus. Socializing is incredibly important (in moderation, of course!), and you're wise to realize that you shouldn't neglect it.

acdc01
07-25-16, 03:00 PM
Meds. If you're already taking them, you need to change your prescription. If you have a comorbid, it can make it so your adhd meds won't work unless you are medicated for the comorbid too.

That's my top recommendation for you as your problem seems quite severe.and meds are more effective than anything else.

The best friends you'll ever make are often times during your school years so I think you're being smart valuing social life as well too.

I was undiagnosed when young and got by by having friends who would let me copy their homework. Also the study groups I was in made it so I would sometimes do only one problem per homework assignment cause that's what each of us did and then we would all copy from one another.
To pass the tests, I would just read the homework solutions and notes other people gave me the week of the test. I would have failed without their help. It's just too much.

For you, perhaps noise blocking headphones would help. Just ear plugs don't work for me. They really help my focus for some reason. Plus an empty white, silent room like if there's one in the library you can check out or something.

Maybe try listening to calming music. Classical music with violin sounds layered with other in strength in the background seems to take my mind off whatever I was thinking before. Try different types of music to see if any help you.

dadtruth
08-01-16, 11:01 PM
Meds. If you're already taking them, you need to change your prescription. If you have a comorbid, it can make it so your adhd meds won't work unless you are medicated for the comorbid too.

That's my top recommendation for you as your problem seems quite severe.and meds are more effective than anything else.

The best friends you'll ever make are often times during your school years so I think you're being smart valuing social life as well too.

I was undiagnosed when young and got by by having friends who would let me copy their homework. Also the study groups I was in made it so I would sometimes do only one problem per homework assignment cause that's what each of us did and then we would all copy from one another.
To pass the tests, I would just read the homework solutions and notes other people gave me the week of the test. I would have failed without their help. It's just too much.

For you, perhaps noise blocking headphones would help. Just ear plugs don't work for me. They really help my focus for some reason. Plus an empty white, silent room like if there's one in the library you can check out or something.

Maybe try listening to calming music. Classical music with violin sounds layered with other in strength in the background seems to take my mind off whatever I was thinking before. Try different types of music to see if any help you.

As said above you couldn't get better information! try and introduce something you like into the situation

sarahsweets
08-02-16, 04:08 AM
Hi everyone!
Ever since I can remember, I have always had problems with managing concentration levels when it comes studying. My focus comes and goes when it wants...and this makes it hard especially at university when the workload is heavy and more focus is needed. It is very scary knowing that one day, I can do tonnes of work...and another day...I just can't get into the zone... this uncertainty means that I can't plan other things like socialising because I always need to use my extra time to catch up on the work I haven't done.

One of my greatest problems is that outside stimuli distract me too much!!! This means that during term times...I can't socialise at all...because whenever I do, my mind becomes messy and I simply cannot focus anymore. In fact, the only way I can study is to lock myself in my room in my family home and isolate myself for weeks on end...literally no jokes. However I find that this is simply dragging down the quality of my life.


Is anyone else in the same situation? Does anyone have any recommendations?

Thanks!
Are you taking medication?