Does anybody else just normally feel stupid around most people, especially those you dont know? and do you often really doubt if people like you, even if they seem too and treat you nicely?

All the time I feel like that but then something happens that proves my thoughts to be wrong.

Does anybody else just normally feel stupid around most people, especially those you dont know? and do you often really doubt if people like you, even if they seem too and treat you nicely?
I'd say if it happens often, you might try doing reality checks, to see if the reasons you're feeling that way are valid. I have to do this all the time with my son. He'll say, "no one likes me", and I'll say, "no one?" Then he'll recount who he played with, why certain people like him, why he likes them, etc....

I know as an adult it doesn't always seem that simple, but I think if we do reality checks it keeps us honest with ourselves, and keeps our self esteem in better shape than not.

Are the people you feel stupid around people you'd actually want to associate with? Why do they make you feel stupid? Are you stupid? What have you done that would make them dislike you? When they treat you well, did you respond in kind to that?

I know it's easier said than done, because I have the same feelings sometimes, but most of the time I wouldn't want to be around someone who made me feel that way, or I wasn't feeling great and didn't make a very good impression.

Jazz

Does anybody else just normally feel stupid around most people, especially those you dont know? and do you often really doubt if people like you, even if they seem too and treat you nicely?
It's probably a self esteem thing,try and get yourself to think of lists of positive things,and do that every day,i try to do this as i've always been negative about myself,and assume automatically no one will ever like me.

Try CBT on yourself-change the way you think about things into something more realistic and positive.

with me it's an add thing... i always feel stupid and like a fraud around people - except maybe people i know really really well (few and far between) and i always feel like people are saying nasty things about me when i am not there....so i feel "out of it" and like i am watching myself act in a play but i'm not sure of the lines...

I don't feel stupid around most people but I do feel as if I'm not as good as them. And while I don't doubt if people like me even when they treat me well, I do distrust virtually everyone to some degree.
I try to do reality checks, thinking back wondering if I've offended anyone, and I'm pretty convince that some of my co-workers talk about me, because of the three of us, there's too much "whisper, whisper, whisper" and sudden stops in conversation when I walk into our area. I think and think about what I might have done to cause this, whether it be an unreasonable reaction to something, a joke that might have been taken the wrong way, if I'm working fast enough, etc. And it reaaaaallllllyyyy depresses me when they'll invite each other to lunch right in front of me and not include me in their invitation. On the whole they're great people and I love them, but it bothers me a lot when they behave that way.
We aren't all liked all the time by everyone, and there are those that I don't like, but I just try to be civil and polite and carry on. Some people are just jerks, and I try to avoid them. I'm not too comfortable around dominating personalities, but sometimes I wonder if that's a front to cover their own insecurities.
Don't worry, you aren't alone in how you feel.

For a long time i felt stupid around people, and i went out with stupid guys in a way( sorry ) because i thought i was not bright enough to have a regular guy with normal intelligence.

Till i realize that there is all kinds of intelligences. My intelligence cant not be calculated like the IQ testing...jeez i cant even answer half of those lol...:rolleyes: :)

But darnit :p i know i am intelligent, more then a lot of people it's just at another level that's all...

Aint it great :D

Well I feel stupid sometimes and I know for sure that I'm disliked sometimes as well.

But I'm sure it's like that for everyone.

mb

with me it's an add thing... i always feel stupid and like a fraud around people - except maybe people i know really really well (few and far between) and i always feel like people are saying nasty things about me when i am not there....so i feel "out of it" and like i am watching myself act in a play but i'm not sure of the lines...
That's kind of how I feel. Like I'm being judged a lot. Maybe I'm paranoid! ha! I do have social anxiety though so I think that has something to do with it.

not always that I feel stupid, rather that I appear stupid.
and yeah, not likeable.
but creeped out if they do anyway