Glass houses and ADD

Do you live in a glass house?
Are you an open book?
Is there an open window to your soul?

Just wanting to see if this might be typical of ADD individuals.


In my case, all of the above are true.
I am totally exposed to the world.
It’s all right here for you to see.

I am not shallow or transparent,
you may have to dig deep, but you will find me.
Are you vulnerable and open, more trusting, or lacking secrets?

When I was a kid, I used to wish that I could be bad. That I had something to hide from
…………..and somewhere to hide.

In my case, maybe a glass house is a good thing.
The world knows who you are even if you don’t.

The world is all there for you to see and you know
that it is there to be had. Only a fragile glass wall keeps it just
out of reach.



Do you ever wish for a rock?
Do you wish for darkness to cloud the view?



Does ADD expose you, make you vulnerable, and cause you to reveal more to the world than the average non-ADD person?

Does it prevent you from experiencing the darkness of the world?
Is it a safe place to be?

We went nearly a year without a window treatment in our den. When I finally settled on the perfect shade of red chenille drapes, my 12-year-old caught me off guard. "Mom, now I feel safe." What does that say?

~gourmet~

Usually I'm the opposite of an open book.
More so on line where I feel the need to be cautious.
Once someone I hardly know starts with the personal questions.
I close up even more.
I always think if a person really wants to get to know me.
They will spend the time talking or just hanging out.
I don't understand the rush most people are in.

After knowing a person for a while I become open with them.
But not exactly an open book.

The one way I am an open book.
Is I don't have a poker face.
What I'm thinking inside shows right up on my face.

Usually I'm the opposite of an open book.
I always think if a person really wants to get to know me.
They will spend the time talking or just hanging out.

I'm the same. But do you not find that some people think you're cold and uninterested and back off?

Sometimes it seems like it's not the ones who want to get to know you who persist but the one's who see you as a challenge.



After knowing a person for a while I become open with them.
But not exactly an open book.


I agree again. But most people seem to judge very quickly, they have their opinion of you and it's hard to change that even when you open up to them.


Changing the subject slightly, does anyone have problems with believing what people say rather than what their actions say? And getting very confused when the 2 don't match?

Legs. :)

Legs the words cold and uninterested I don't get from people.
I get told I'm a puzzle I've even been called an enigma.
They can't figure me out.
Or they think they have and are disappointed when they haven't.
Like you said the ones who see me as a challenge.

:) On the changed subject
I'm more concerned with a persons behavior and actions.
And wonder what made them say what they did.
When the two don't match up.
I question there motives.

Legs Thanks for the reply
:) stori

The possible answers for those questions seem to be:

A) YES
B) NO
C) MAYBE
D) ALL THE ABOVE

Check me as marking "D" : ALL THE ABOVE :eek:


ME :D


Glass houses and ADD

Do you live in a glass house?
Are you an open book?
Is there an open window to your soul?

Just wanting to see if this might be typical of ADD individuals.


In my case, all of the above are true.
I am totally exposed to the world.
It’s all right here for you to see.

I am not shallow or transparent,
you may have to dig deep, but you will find me.
Are you vulnerable and open, more trusting, or lacking secrets?

When I was a kid, I used to wish that I could be bad. That I had something to hide from
…………..and somewhere to hide.

In my case, maybe a glass house is a good thing.
The world knows who you are even if you don’t.

The world is all there for you to see and you know
that it is there to be had. Only a fragile glass wall keeps it just
out of reach.



Do you ever wish for a rock?
Do you wish for darkness to cloud the view?



Does ADD expose you, make you vulnerable, and cause you to reveal more to the world than the average non-ADD person?

Does it prevent you from experiencing the darkness of the world?
Is it a safe place to be?

We went nearly a year without a window treatment in our den. When I finally settled on the perfect shade of red chenille drapes, my 12-year-old caught me off guard. "Mom, now I feel safe." What does that say?

~gourmet~

Are you saying that it's okay to be an open book as long as it's a mystery?;)

I really love that idea.
Challenges and motives.

I love mysteries.

~gourmet~

Gourmet I wonder if that's it!
ADDer's are the only open books who are a mystery to most people. LOL

stori, I should have addressed my last post to you.
Another comment I would like to make is on your mention of facial expressions!
They'll give the "stori" away if you are not careful!"
Dang, I'm good today :D


~gourmet~

Gourmet dang that was good!!!!
And true lol

I'm a weird little girl...my custom made 'glass house' has access to a mirrorpane coating, in the blink of the eye, which belongs to those about to throw 'stones'...I can see their behavior- but they can't see me...only the reflection of their 'shadow'...
It's a handy little device...and even though I've paid dearly for it, the cost is still less expensive than if my fragile house was utterly shattered...It couldn't be rebuilt...alas, I lost the blueprints a while back...
Nova

Gourmet I have ADD and I have been known in the past to be very open. I always say exactly what I think, and tell people exactly how I feel. I think the inability for people with ADD to stop and consider the consequences of what they are saying means that they are quite naked. Everyone can see what they stand for and theres not too much hidden.

However I also think that an open man or woman (in your case) leads themselves open to criticism and all people with ADD have suffered a lot of criticism. So I think you will find that as with me a lot of people born extremely open with ADD have become less so as the world has inflicted pain on them over and over for being so.

I definitely feel that I am (even more so in the past, adverse experiences convinced to try to change my behaviour) too trusting and revealing of myself - often revealing some fragment of inner thought or fact about my life or self that afterwards I find regretting that I had said it, or at least wondering how such open revelations would be taken by the person who had heard them.
Of course there are times when I am completely distrusting (due to aforesaid adverse experiences), however I so want to trust and reveal!

Regards,

-Matt/Crash-Dr

Thank you everyone for responding. :)

You know, I wrote that shortly after I was diagnosed.
Now I look at that person in the glass house and say
"just get the heck out of there if it causes you so much anxiety.
You live there by choice. If you try to hide you only make the truth more obvious.
Be who you are, but please be careful."

Hugh, my medication is helping me to keep my mouth shut....to stop and think before I reveal the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
But people can still see right through me! :D
It's that open book mystery, stori.

Now why would you think that an ADDer would seek criticism? That was part two of my question.

Why would someone choose to become an artist or a hair dresser...or a teacher....and set themselves up for critique day in and day out if the glass house were a problem?

That is a thought to ponder.
Is it because as an ADDer one would seek positive feedback at all costs in order to know we are moving in the right direction?

Might we be looking for a reflective surface to show us where we came from and where we are supposed to be?

Some say a house of glass is a safe place.
Others say it is not. Hmmmmm.

I guess if you live in one, it's important to keep the door open. "But please be careful"

Nova, the two way mirror sounds like a viable option. I'll check into it. :)


~gourmet~