View Full Version : Wasting time on Facebook = Inattentive ADD?


castalia
10-03-16, 07:40 PM
I am desperately trying to cut back on Facebook time (hence why I joined this forum). Every time I get bored or frustrated with something, I have this desire to log in. I do it even during watching films, which frustrates me.

This has got to be a symptom of inattentive ADHD, right? It is so frustrating because bringing the focus back to my writing takes a while and sometimes I just give up because posts I've seen on FB either spark my interest or they make me feel bad for whatever reason (like stalking exes).

I've tried deactivating my account but I need it in order to communicate with friends and colleagues around the world. Does anyone else struggle with the same problem?

Cyllya
10-04-16, 12:26 AM
I notice a persistent pattern in myself of...

1. Try to do something > ADHD makes it stupidly hard to do it > Do nothing > feel horrifically bored doing nothing > do an activity that's easy and mildly amusing but also worthless and unfulfilling. I'd say this is mostly due to initiation impairment, which I consider to be a sort of unofficial ADHD symptom, but more established ADHD symptoms like attention control are relevant too.

2. I tend to get stuck on activities. So once I start an activity that's easy and mildly amusing, I'll have trouble tearing myself away from it. (I think this is one of the many things people sometimes mean when they say "hyperfocus.")

Combine those with all the normal reasons you want to spend time on Facebook, and you could end up spending way too much time on Facebook.

It's not (usually) Facebook in my case, but I think it's the same idea whether it's Facebook, or a crappy cell phone game, or cracked.com, or porn, or laying in bed daydreaming all day, or watching TV, or sitting next to a flower bush staring at bees, or whatever. The procrastination-related posts on waitbutwhy.com called this the Dark Playground. All those activities have some merit when we're doing them for their own sake, and I think it's normal to do things for relaxation to some degree, but when we start ruining our lives with it, then it's a symptom (or something).

Lots of people try to frame this as being a problem with technology or the internet or social media or specifically Facebook, but I think it's just that modern hi-tech activities often have a high amusement-to-effort ratio. (Especially now that sites like Facebook have that "infinite scroll" on most devices.) The real problem is our tendency to procrastinate.

sarahsweets
10-04-16, 12:59 AM
I dont know if I would say its a symptom of adhd. It sounds like you have to look into what it is that you think youd be missing by not checking facebook.

john2100
10-04-16, 05:30 AM
In your case castalia , in my opinion the facebook is not really the main issue here. It' s more the feeling you get and rush and excitement you get from it. If being addicted to FB by checking it way too often was a sign of ADD huge % of population would claim to have it. Constantly switching between tasks is a sign of many people with ADD but that alone doesnt mean you have ADD.

You can really live without FB ,unless it is used for work. Many people check it once a day ,but it just feels to good not to do it. That anticipation of what I may find there is however more exciting then the information itself.As you said yourself , sometimes the info is good ,sometimes not so good.

So i think if you were not on FB it would be smt. else, so deactivation the account would't probably work anyway , because you would just find something else to give you that instant boost of excitement.

Look up more on internet addiction,gambling and impulse shopping and you 'll understand better what is going on in your brain when you do this and why you are are doing this.

castalia
10-04-16, 05:19 PM
In your case castalia , in my opinion the facebook is not really the main issue here. It' s more the feeling you get and rush and excitement you get from it. If being addicted to FB by checking it way too often was a sign of ADD huge % of population would claim to have it. Constantly switching between tasks is a sign of many people with ADD but that alone doesnt mean you have ADD.

You can really live without FB ,unless it is used for work. Many people check it once a day ,but it just feels to good not to do it. That anticipation of what I may find there is however more exciting then the information itself.As you said yourself , sometimes the info is good ,sometimes not so good.

So i think if you were not on FB it would be smt. else, so deactivation the account would't probably work anyway , because you would just find something else to give you that instant boost of excitement.

Look up more on internet addiction,gambling and impulse shopping and you 'll understand better what is going on in your brain when you do this and why you are are doing this.

What's interesting is that researchers claim that FB and other social media are turning a lot of people into ADHD when they would otherwise not be. Every click and ring on the phone conditions us to want more, even anticipating "phantom texts" when there are none. I've felt this myself.

I'm trying to slowly wean myself off FB, but I can't go cold turkey, it will not work.

john2100
10-04-16, 11:16 PM
What's interesting is that researchers claim that FB and other social media are turning a lot of people into ADHD when they would otherwise not be. Every click and ring on the phone conditions us to want more, even anticipating "phantom texts" when there are none. I've felt this myself.

I'm trying to slowly wean myself off FB, but I can't go cold turkey, it will not work.

I wouldn't be that sure about internet and ADHD development. It may appear that people act as if they have ADHD becasue of the dopamin addiction and basically boredom , but that is just one tiny symptom. I think that many researchers are just giving a helping hand to big pharmac.companies.

One way to quit doing FB and other useless activities.

Insted of torchering your self and trying to fight it every 2 min , try to convince your self , that there is nothing really that important or helpful. And its probably true, that the reason why you are trying to quit.

When you loose the fight and go to FB, then after you done, just ask yourself ,was it really that important what i 've just learnt here? 99% of the time the answer is no. Sonner or later , you will not need to fight the addiction , because FB will be connected with something negative or neutral and you will loose the rush it was given you .

ANytime a thought comes to your mind, just say to yourself "IT's stupid and useless waste of time" . This way you will have control over FB not FB over you . I used to check my email 20 times a day ,now I can have it in my browser tab and I have no desire to click on it , becasue I know there is nothing there to give me pleasure.