The art of Compromise
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I have taught my boys well.


"Mom, please let me go, I am trying to compromise here!"

From that moment forward,
the conflict deserves attention,

the weighing of alternate possibilities,
consequences,
and the importance of the need in question.


The art of the Bottom Line
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"No son, not this time"


Why must there be a bottom line and when?

Should compromise alway come first?
Or should one's actions and statements always be

those of conviction?


Yes______

No_______

Maybe so______


Please check one.


I would hate it when my mother would say to to me...

"We'll see."

It would cause so much frustration!

"Mama, just say yes or no!"

Let's see what Daddy says when he gets home."

Waiting and more frustration.



THE BOTTOM LINE

was that my father
never told me
------------------"No"

By the time he got home, I had already negotiated with myself and in my mind, I had determined....

The necessity and importance of my request,
if it was truly something I wanted,
was it really worth my time,
what was I to gain,
and would it benefit myself or someone else.

I would then determine what the answer was. If it was no, I would not ask my father. His answer was always "yes".

Do we always need compromise?

Is that the bottom line?

If you have ADD, is the bottom line the best answer?
Are we able to successfully negotiate with ourselves? Obviously I was, even before my diagnosis.

Is compromise of conflict the best for those with ADD? Do we prefer to have a clear cut answer?
This would sure take care of some of the frustration.
It is what I believed I prefered at the time. But would the anwer be one I wanted to hear?

Clearly the anwer I wanted was "yes".



~gourmet~

Compromise Yes or No answer's I can deal with very well.
But waiting for we'll see that's like torture to me.
Waiting for an answer.

To me there's nothing in-between its either Yes or No
I can't understand why people can't make up there minds fast.
My minds going a mile a minute.
I know right away if the answer is Yes or No.

I just need to have that clear cut answer.
So I know what to do. Waiting is to hard.