Worry is a great thief of time.

Are you a worrier?
I think we all are to a certain extent.

Worry about the future robs us of the present, correct?
Do you worry about things that never happen?
How do you cope with worry?








I try to think like Scarlett O' Hara...."I'm not going to think about this right now, I'll think about it tomorrow. After all tomorrow is another day."


~gourmet~

I am such a worrier! It's driven me to have to pop a Xanax now and then.

Coping with it...sometimes I imagine horrible scenarios and it really is cathartic and helps release a lot of the stress when I acknowldege that the horrible thing hasn't happened.

But stewing over stuff really is hard for me. I am not sure how to cope with it yet.

Somewhere I read that you should allow yourself some "worry" time each day.

It was suggested that you set an exact amount of time each day to worry. You should also choose one particular spot in which to worry.

After you have timed yourself in the "worry" chair, you must not allow the worry to repeat itself until the next session.

??????????? Does that sound like something that would work?

When you are worried already and are trying to stop, it seems the worrying gets worse to me.
Will making yourself worry in a controlled setting and adding structure to the mix help to eliminate worry the rest of the day? Has anyone ever used this technique?




~gourmet~

Never used this but it sounds interesting to me. I might try it. I have found it hard though to set aside some worries...they hang on me like stink on doo doo....

I worry about everything..,at night is when it is the worse and I cant sleep, it drives me crazy. All day everyday I worry If I will be on time, if I will forget something, maybe today one of my kids will get hurt, today I will wreak my car, I forgot to pay a bill, etc...I could go on and on. I realize that it wont get better until I get on meds..and hopefully that will be SOON!

Jennifer

I am really worried about you two! :faint:

I learned lone ago that worring is not productive and their is no sence in it. What can a man add to his life by worring, nothing.
Now their are things to get intencely focused on like a child not being where they should. I can still fall asleep knowing their in good hands.
I put my trust in God for eveything , even watching over my family. With that said, I have hope and look for the positives in all I do.

I dont like to worry, I think it is a waste of time, but some days I find I can't relax about anything...and others I never even think twice. But if I had to say yes or no about whether or not I am one, I'd say yes.

After I lost my sister in a tragic accident I worried for years for the safety of my family.
Having someone young snatched from you in the middle of the night is traumatic and not everyone recovers quickly. Knowing that she died in fear and had suffered needlessly was more than I could handle.

I was afraid to let my children cross the street alone and to stay over at friends homes.
I was afraid when my husband went out of town that I would never see him again.
I was afraid everytime I heard sirens that something had happened to someone I knew and loved. I was consumed with worry.
What a way to live.

I wish I could tell you how all of this stopped. I can't, but it did.
Finally I came to terms with unresolved grief which took a whole lot of work.
Maybe this is what ultimately led my fears to subside.

Once you stop excessive worry it seems strange.
I think you become part of the worry itself and separating yourself from it's grip can be bittersweet.

I would suggest that if you have this type of worry you seek professional help.
I know that I could have worked myself through it sooner if I had guidance and the coping skills I lacked.
Worry is a great thief of time and robs us of the present.

Life is so much better without it. <3


~gourmet~

Very sorry about your sister Gourmet big hugs to you.
Understandable the worry you had.
Brave of you to share your story.
And reach out to other's who may be going through that.
Thank You

Thank you so much for the hugs stori because I can still use them.

She was 21 and was seriously hurt in a mountain climbing accident. We lost her a couple of weeks later because of her head injury. I was with her.

She was so beautiful....a big smile and dimples, and brown eyes.
I was old enough to change her diapers when she was born and being 11 years older I had a lot of responsibility in her upbringing.

She was NOT a worrier. On top of the mountain, scuba diving on the ocean floor, bungee jumping! We did a lot together, but I couldn't handle the bungee jump!

Your sister was awesome
Any time you need a hug you know how to find me:)

I am really worried about you two! :faint:


LOL I was laughing at this...rather funny

I'm such a worryer...people get mad at me sometimes cause they say I worry myself into being negitive....I do try to find things to help me relax though...

a couple that work for me sometimes are

going on a short walk around the block...I take some deep breathes and find a good daydream

or I'll just go lay down and listen to some music and yet again daydream

When at work I do my best to just focus on my favoite project and do my best to make it look perfect...gets me outta my worry times and on to something more positive

yup thats about it! ;)
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Jennifer
Hi, welcome to the best board on the net :) I grew up in Clovis but moved to Virginia in 99 :(....How's life in my home state?