View Full Version : Add/ADHD or just being a lazy adult???


Katiebug619
02-13-17, 05:15 AM
Hey guys!!! I'm katie. I'm 28 and I have my first psychiatrist appointment in 10 days. I'm not sure what to really say but half of my family thinks I'm just lazy and the other half just think I'm just loOking for attention. I don't really have any support from them. The only support I have is from my husband who is deployed and is 10000 miles away right now. So I will tell you all why I'm going to a psychiatrist and maybe you guys can give me some input.

I have always thought something was off with me. Maybe it was because my mom never disciplined me as a child or she never forced me to do homework or brush my teeth or clean my room. She was just a very carefree parent I guess. So yes I can say that I struggled all through school with grades. I just figured it was because my mom wasn't very active in my school life. But my sister always did amazing. I was always the handful child. I never new my father till recently in life but that's another story. So now that I'm 28 things have been pretty difficult.

About a year ago I came across a test on Facebook (yes I know lol) and it was a ADHD test. So I figured I would take it because I was bored and all I really do most of the time is play on my phone anyways. Well the test said you are 100 percent ADHD and I just laughed. Facebook test obvisouly sent the way to find out anything. So I was curious and after about 5 hours of non stop reasearch I was kinda shocked. Some of the things I don't do like jump off the walls or have energy like the energizer bunny but a lot of what I was reading was pointing me more towards the inactive ADHD if that makes sense. So here is why I think it's possible that I have add or ADHD. I am the most unoriginized person ever.

I have my moments where I will just organize for hours but it seems like nothing gets done because I will be organizing my closet and find something that goes in my desk and I will start organizing that and so on and so on. I also can't keep focused on anything. I have literally switched hobbies a million times. I will go buy everything needed for said hobby and I will start it so excited and then a week later if not sooner I will be bored with it. I spend way to much money putting me in debt. I have had so many relationships all ending because of myself because I get bored to easily. I have the worst mood swings. I'm either super happy or super bored. I will say this once.... I am not a depressed person what's so ever. I love life I just wish life was alittle more organized for me.

Umm let's see what else. I have had numerous jobs all to which have ended up with me quoting or getting fired because I didn't show up or I was just bored with it because I knew everything. Im terrified of driving. Im a horrible driver. I didn't even get my license till I was 26. I don't really fidget but I do have to have something in my hands and if I don't then I say good bye to what nails I have left. I literally have to write a million lists per day to get anything done which still doesn't help me do anything. For me it's either all or nothing. If I'm gonna start a project I literally have to have everything or I won't do it. I just end up playing on my phone.

This last hobby I started is finally something that has stuck with me. I think I'm only doing it now because I have spent so much money on it and I also have opened up a etsy store to try and make some income because I just can't fathom to get a real job. I am not antisocial persay but I do not have any friends because I'm awkward around people. I always have been.

I look back and all of my friends were because I went to school with them and I would see them everyday. The minute I graduated poof they were gone. I'm also a night owl. I would always tell people that I like the night better because I can get more stuff done. I just can't get to sleep till around 4 am and my husband hates it. Even if I go to bed at 10 pm with the help of sleep aids I will wake up at 8 am and be exhausted will about 6 pm and then all of a sudden bam I'm wide awake and ready to do anything. I also used to suffer from anxiety for about 5 years.

I became a hermit and never left home because I would get a panic attack. I finally decided it was time to take my life back and get off my anxiety meds and I haven't looked back and it's been about 4 years now. I still get anxiety but I can handle it. I don't drink caffeine because it makes me jittery and then I get sick. I dont know if I'm over reacting but it would be nice to hear from you guys who know about add or ADHD. Thank you guys and sorry for such a long post.

ToneTone
02-13-17, 08:39 PM
Hey there, welcome to the forum. Glad to have you here.

We have ADHD here, so we really need short paragraphs.

So go ahead and post and just break the writing into different paragraphs with spacing in between, and I'll be able to read your post.

Welcome again. Glad to have you.

Tone

Johnny Slick
02-13-17, 09:24 PM
Hey guys!!! I'm katie.

I'm 28 and I have my first psychiatrist appointment in 10 days. I'm not sure what to really say but half of my family thinks I'm just lazy and the other half just think I'm just loOking for attention. I don't really have any support from them. The only support I have is from my husband who is deployed and is 10000 miles away right now.

So I will tell you all why I'm going to a psychiatrist and maybe you guys can give me some input. I have always thought something was off with me. Maybe it was because my mom never disciplined me as a child or she never forced me to do homework or brush my teeth or clean my room. She was just a very carefree parent I guess. So yes I can say that I struggled all through school with grades. I just figured it was because my mom wasn't very active in my school life. But my sister always did amazing. I was always the handful child. I never new my father till recently in life but that's another story.

So now that I'm 28 things have been pretty difficult. About a year ago I came across a test on Facebook (yes I know lol) and it was a ADHD test. So I figured I would take it because I was bored and all I really do most of the time is play on my phone anyways. Well the test said you are 100 percent ADHD and I just laughed. Facebook test obvisouly sent the way to find out anything.

So I was curious and after about 5 hours of non stop reasearch I was kinda shocked. Some of the things I don't do like jump off the walls or have energy like the energizer bunny but a lot of what I was reading was pointing me more towards the inactive ADHD if that makes sense.

So here is why I think it's possible that I have add or ADHD. I am the most unoriginized person ever. I have my moments where I will just organize for hours but it seems like nothing gets done because I will be organizing my closet and find something that goes in my desk and I will start organizing that and so on and so on. I also can't keep focused on anything. I have literally switched hobbies a million times. I will go buy everything needed for said hobby and I will start it so excited and then a week later if not sooner I will be bored with it. I spend way to much money putting me in debt. I have had so many relationships all ending because of myself because I get bored to easily. I have the worst mood swings. I'm either super happy or super bored. I will say this once.... I am not a depressed person what's so ever. I love life I just wish life was alittle more organized for me.

Umm let's see what else. I have had numerous jobs all to which have ended up with me quoting or getting fired because I didn't show up or I was just bored with it because I knew everything. Im terrified of driving. Im a horrible driver. I didn't even get my license till I was 26. I don't really fidget but I do have to have something in my hands and if I don't then I say good bye to what nails I have left. I literally have to write a million lists per day to get anything done which still doesn't help me do anything. For me it's either all or nothing. If I'm gonna start a project I literally have to have everything or I won't do it. I just end up playing on my phone.

This last hobby I started is finally something that has stuck with me. I think I'm only doing it now because I have spent so much money on it and I also have opened up a etsy store to try and make some income because I just can't fathom to get a real job.

I am not antisocial persay but I do not have any friends because I'm awkward around people. I always have been. I look back and all of my friends were because I went to school with them and I would see them everyday. The minute I graduated poof they were gone.

I'm also a night owl. I would always tell people that I like the night better because I can get more stuff done. I just can't get to sleep till around 4 am and my husband hates it. Even if I go to bed at 10 pm with the help of sleep aids I will wake up at 8 am and be exhausted will about 6 pm and then all of a sudden bam I'm wide awake and ready to do anything.

I also used to suffer from anxiety for about 5 years. I became a hermit and never left home because I would get a panic attack. I finally decided it was time to take my life back and get off my anxiety meds and I haven't looked back and it's been about 4 years now. I still get anxiety but I can handle it. I don't drink caffeine because it makes me jittery and then I get sick.

I dont know if I'm over reacting but it would be nice to hear from you guys who know about add or ADHD. Thank you guys and sorry for such a long post.Hope that helps, although it's still pretty disorganized...

So, um, no offense but based on this post and this post alone, I'd say you're either in the middle of a manic episode or you have ADHD. A lot of the stuff you describe - the inability to keep focused on one thing for very long, the constant switching of hobbies, the whole lack of organization thing - it all sounds really, really ADHDy to my decidedly non-expert brain. And then, well, the tone of this post, where you're just flipping from one thing to another, it sounds a lot like my own unmedicated self.

I might go so far as to say that you ought to print your message out and bring it into your doctor. Actually that might be a really good idea; even if you don't show it to them (and hey, you may want to) it would be a good way to collect your thoughts.

sarahsweets
02-14-17, 04:45 AM
I have my moments where I will just organize for hours but it seems like nothing gets done because I will be organizing my closet and find something that goes in my desk and I will start organizing that and so on and so on. I also can't keep focused on anything. I have literally switched hobbies a million times. I will go buy everything needed for said hobby and I will start it so excited and then a week later if not sooner I will be bored with it. I spend way to much money putting me in debt. I have had so many relationships all ending because of myself because I get bored to easily. I have the worst mood swings. I'm either super happy or super bored. I will say this once.... I am not a depressed person what's so ever. I love life I just wish life was alittle more organized for me.
Im glad that you realized that online tests- especially those on facebook are terrible predictors of things like adhd. There are no tests for adhd, adhd is diagnosed usually by a psychiatrist or other specialist and it involves a thorough history of your life, sometimes school reports or info from schooling and alot of times input from close family. Impulsive spending and spurts like you describe remind me a lot of adhd. I know that I go through days where I will work tirelessly on organizing something, but stop midway because something distracts me and I move onto something else.


Umm let's see what else. I have had numerous jobs all to which have ended up with me quoting or getting fired because I didn't show up or I was just bored with it because I knew everything. Im terrified of driving. Im a horrible driver. I didn't even get my license till I was 26. I don't really fidget but I do have to have something in my hands and if I don't then I say good bye to what nails I have left. I literally have to write a million lists per day to get anything done which still doesn't help me do anything. For me it's either all or nothing. If I'm gonna start a project I literally have to have everything or I won't do it. I just end up playing on my phone.

Driving is hard for alot of us due to distraction. I so identify with the list thing. To do lists are a love hate thing for me. They are either so long and impossible to complete or so short and ridiculous that I can tick items off in 5 minutes and have nothing left to do on them, and all or nothing thinking kicks my butt too.



I look back and all of my friends were because I went to school with them and I would see them everyday. The minute I graduated poof they were gone. I'm also a night owl. I would always tell people that I like the night better because I can get more stuff done. I just can't get to sleep till around 4 am and my husband hates it. Even if I go to bed at 10 pm with the help of sleep aids I will wake up at 8 am and be exhausted will about 6 pm and then all of a sudden bam I'm wide awake and ready to do anything. I also used to suffer from anxiety for about 5 years.

Maintaining relationships is hard for people with adhd too sometimes. I used to be a night owl much to my detriment but I went through my own sleep training which solved that issue for me for the most part.

I became a hermit and never left home because I would get a panic attack. I finally decided it was time to take my life back and get off my anxiety meds and I haven't looked back and it's been about 4 years now. I still get anxiety but I can handle it. I don't drink caffeine because it makes me jittery and then I get sick. I dont know if I'm over reacting but it would be nice to hear from you guys who know about add or ADHD. Thank you guys and sorry for such a long post.
The hermit part concerns me because I went through a period of agoraphobia where I wouldnt leave the house due to some ptsd and therapy and meds helped me get over that- so I am not sure if that part would be an adhd thing or not.

With adhd, people assume if you do not have the hyper part then you are automatically inattentive. Aside from those subtypes not being a thing so much anymore, hyperactivity isnt limited to running around being a chatterbox like little kids anymore. Physical hyperactivity for adults IMO can be the organizing you mentioned, you mind spinning like a hamster wheel, talkativeness, fidgeting, jumping from thing to thing. It doesnt always have to be physical IMO.
And like Jonnyslick said, those kinds of racing thoughts can also be as a result of some other mental issue so its important that you see a qualified doctor and keep an open mind.
You can sometimes get so hell bent on thinking its adhd that anything else can be dismissed and you miss the opportunity to treat something.
My advice is to see a psyche and tell the doctor everything you said here. Also if you can get school info like reports or notes, and input from family thats good too.
The "connors" scale is like a little questionaire that my husband had to fill out in addition to me filling out.

Nelson1967
02-23-17, 08:27 PM
Tell your family to Read the Myth of laziness lots of add or ADHD people too can have dyslexia on top it all