You guys all seem to unaminously degree that your friends have ADD or other mental issues. All of my friends are completely normal, despite my having severe ADD. I wonder if I'm missing out on people who could be even greater friends... :cool:
Love, Hugh

None of my friends I hang out with are AD/HD
It's only in the last two years I've met other ADDer's online.
And have become friends with a few of them.

I don't worry about who's ADD and whos not.
It doesn't really matter.
You just click with someone or you don't.

me too...i'm from a differnt culture who has absolutely no awareness of ADHD whatsoever... i didn't even know anything about it back in the days...

yea...so relationship-wise i'd love to get a mate from my culture...but i dun think it's ever possible...i'm sure people in my culture have it...u know...but there is no diagnosis and just like random people who may have ADHD traits...it's so hard to tell

even in the future i may wanna move back to hong kong...i definitely want to make sure that i can get medication and doctors acknowledge ADHD over there

somehow...i fit in a bit better in US...

dfac001 you probably fit in better in the U.S. because people in the U.S. are less reserved. People with ADD tend not to hold anything back and this could get you into a spot of trouble in Hong Kong.

Same here, hugh: ).......WANTED: ADD friends :)
I haven't given up though, and I stick around here because I need the connection...made some great friends here. :)

~gourmet~

i am a server in a very fast paced restaurant and i swear i see adhd everywhere. some of my friends have it. some dont. the ones that do have it are the ones that get on my nerves the most, cause they have all the same irritating qualities i have.(two ppl with no frustration tolerance should not get lost on the way to a DMB concert together) but it is nice to be understood.

I have several friends who are ADD/ADHD/Bipolar

They make pretty good friends :)

Just remember they are ADD, and are subject to all the usual baggage, so you sometimes need to show them some patience and understanding.

It is so cool when you can talk about ADD issues with someone who has ADD , and they not only know what you are talking about, but they even have ideas for workarounds, etc...

People who are undiagnosed ADD or are NOT trying to get healthy are a bit scarey to me. I tend to shy away from them. The good side is, that most of the ADDer's I have met are pleasant, bright , sensitive people who are neat to be around.

Me :D

I have one friend who is VERY AD/HD and "doesn't believe in taking drugs", as he put it. (He sounds like Tom Cruise!). He's hyper, I'm inattentive. Bad combo and our conversations leave me exhausted because with his constant interrupting which therefore, causing me to lose focus, it's a wonder we communicate at all!

Moody;

There is a certain whimsy to that, if you think about it. :p Though, I'm sure it is difficult at times.

I'm slowly realizing that I am a lot more hyper than I usually think I am. I rrealize how difficult it is to be around me when I am at full throttle. I actually feel sorry for my friends, because they patiently tolerate me, but I can see them stressing and I know it is because they can't keep up and my nice, cozy speediness is just too tense for them. I would imagine your ADHD friend is aware of the same thing, and is appreciative of you for hanging in there. :)


I have an acquaintance who is VERY bipolar and usually not on meds, and spends a lot of time out of control. It is hard to take watching someone let themselves get into that state. All I can do is tell her what I see and to tell her to get to her doctor. Sometimes she listens, sometimes not... :(

The rest of my ADD friends are healthy and managing really well. In fact, I'd go so far to say that most of the ADDer's whom I know are psychologically healtier than most NT's.

Me :D

Two of my best friends husbands have ADD. They were actually diagnosed after I mentioned that I thought they may have it. They had workups with a psychiatrist and were diagnosed one with inattentive, the other has the hyper componant (definetly a thrill seeker). This is slightly awkward because alot of the things they complain about their spouses doing I can completely relate to and have a hard time sometimes having a girls *****ing session where I know they should be able to let off some steam about their spouse, and not explaining what their husband is thinking when he does (or doesn't) do the things they say. One of the women is now seperated from her husband due to the ADD. These friends had no idea I had it because I am inattentive ADD and I worked so hard to not let anyone know what was going on in my brain. I was only diagnosed last year and they have been friends for about 5. They didn't know how difficult school was for me. These friends had no idea I had it because I am inattentive ADD and was only diagnosed a year ago so I didn't even know what was wrong and I worked so hard to not let anyone know what was going on in my brain.

You guys all seem to unaminously degree that your friends have ADD or other mental issues. All of my friends are completely normal, despite my having severe ADD. I wonder if I'm missing out on people who could be even greater friends... :cool:
Love, Hugh
It is very interesting but I have only really clicked with ADHD and Asperger's type people (Many undx'd). I have a hard time connecting with people who are not those things. I still love my non-ADD friends...they are just confused by me.

Recently I tracked down a diagnosis that was made when I was little that I was Autistic. This was changed to ADHD when I was older (I would have been considered "inattentive")

After looking through my family history...It is clear that I may be both :)

So....


Like Stori says...just hang with the people you click with. I bet you will find that some are ADD :) ~5 percent of the population...that is 1 in 20...good odds

There need to be more ADHD support groups. I bet some great friendships would follow.

Now you do :). Welcome to the board! I had no ADD friends outside of this board either until recently when I found out a friend I've had for about 5 years has it and so does his kids. He just came right out with it. Had I asked sooner he probably would have told me sooner. My daughter and I have it and we just found out for sure about a year ago but I always knew something was different about me and I struggled greatly during my life. Luckily I've learned to work with it pretty well and my daughter is getting some extra attention at school when she needs it and making A's and B's. So far so good but every now and then I screw up(see my latest post) "Made a real *** of myself". It'll give you a laugh. You'll be glad you found this board. Great people here! Dee

Lol moody. Your conversations with your friends made me laugh.