View Full Version : Bored with being bored of friends


noisette
04-09-17, 06:15 PM
Hi everyone,
Today i fougth with one of my best friends. I really love her but i am bored with her and i feel terrible. I also get bored with other people. At firts they seem so funny but then i dont even remember them like if they exist or not. I talk with people like forever and forget them. I lose many friends because of that. They think I am unconcernd. Sometimes ı dont talk with my best friends for like 3 weeks and ı dont realize that. I feel desperate. I feel like I am the worst friend. guys please help is there any solution for that.

sarahsweets
04-10-17, 01:32 PM
The only solution I see is to work harder at being a good friend.

Helloiamdani
04-16-17, 09:26 PM
Externalize what you need to remember, and include the date of your last contact with your friends. Time-blindness is part of ADHD, so it's important to devise ways to see the passage of time and utilize technologies that can make up deficits like this. With regards to your other concerns, sounds sort of like there might be an underlying social anxiety there, or at least something about yourself into which you ought to dig deeper with a therapist.

icantbelive93
04-17-17, 11:48 AM
I also get bored with people 95% of the time. As for forgetting to contact your friends. Mayne try having an agenda and writing down reminders.

spacecadet8
05-01-17, 10:36 AM
I get mildly angry when I'm bored and have become a ghosting expert - its so obnoxious. I just can't remember the good times when i'm bored.. its awful

jakeahunter
05-01-17, 11:11 AM
Try being a better person, and seek guidance.

Postulate
05-01-17, 01:19 PM
Hi everyone,
Today i fougth with one of my best friends. I really love her but i am bored with her and i feel terrible. I also get bored with other people. At firts they seem so funny but then i dont even remember them like if they exist or not. I talk with people like forever and forget them. I lose many friends because of that. They think I am unconcernd. Sometimes ı dont talk with my best friends for like 3 weeks and ı dont realize that. I feel desperate. I feel like I am the worst friend. guys please help is there any solution for that.

Hey, what are you diagnosed with, and are you taking any medication?

sunnyryannn
02-21-18, 07:05 AM
hey, I also can't talk with my friend for a long time and then to call her like everything is fine, and it is fine, but she don't like this much, don't understand.
I just need some breaks from talking, from people. I usually wath tv or play video games, I like my psp and I want to play alone.
I think it's normal and it doesn't obviosly mean you need medicine!

Kaia.S
02-21-18, 09:32 AM
Try to focus on your assets as a friend, not on your flaws! Maybe for some, you're the perfect person to have a good long talk with once every 3 weeks, and that would be totally okay.

Did you tell your friends about the adhd, and your worries about not being a good friend? Maybe they can help you to show up when you need to, or even get you out isolation mode.

Don't believe the mind telling you that you don't need anyone and it's normal to play video games a lot. It shut me totally off to a more consuming state for many many years, followed by depressions. The moment i started to reach out things started to change.

And to put things a little more in perspective: fights can happen between normal people as well and some people are boring, period ;-)

kwalk
03-01-18, 07:01 AM
I think my friends soon realize I’m not normal and try to figure me out. I try to make up for it and be excited to talk to them (ok I’ve been trying this at work and it’s more like I’m unfriendly for a day or two). But it’s really because my mind is completely blank! Anyways I find the more understanding a person is, the more they will help with conversation. Doing fun stuff with them always helps too.