:faint: I am exhausted. I have a D that is 18 and has been recovering from buliminia for 2 years now. Lately she has become defiant. She has had about five therapists and the newest one sees her every months and has finally come to conclusion that she is ADHD we figured she could be bi-polar but it has to be ADHD. She is very bright and likeable but likes to take too many risks and is critical to people. We thought she might have pre mentrual
dysphoric syndrome because it seems like the worse things happen around that time so now the doctors added prozac with lexapro for 15 days out of the month. Lately it seems like it is getting worse and worse. She says it is like a tornado in her head. She has all the signs of ADHD. When we did the evaluation there weren't too many things she didn't do excessively. It just makes me wonder "where have we been?" She has always had trouble in school, why didn't they think something. Never ever really had any really good friends. She graduated with a B+ average - did she slip threw? Wednesday she was suppose to go finish up the paperwork but she decided it was more important to stay at work instead :confused: Otherwise she would probably be on medication by now. I sure could use some advise on this one. Is it like ADHD to become so frustrated you can go into rage and actually be disrespectful without knowing what your are doing sometimes? I guess I am nervous about what medication she will be on and what that is going to do to her. I get scared because we have been through so much already and sometimes I can just see that "look" that says she is up to something again. In just two months she got a tatoo, started smoking, moved out of the house and back again in three days. She attacked me for not giving her the car keys and actually grabbed a knife. My niece walked in and seen that and called the police. She could have been arrested for "assault with a deadly weapon. Scary business, because what is next? Any help would make me feel better...thanks for reading ...yolly

I would get someone to talk to her and make her sort out the feelings in her head. I did not fully understand the post but I got bits of it. MAybe you should try a drug that calms you down if there is such a drug. Maybe take her somewhere to make her happy of do something that would make her happy.

The knife thing is pretty scary, I think if it keeps up you will have to put her somewhere where she isn't a danger to anyone of herself and by that a mean the you know what house.

I understand if that is not whaty you want to do it is just a small suggestion. Nuking Futs would probably be the best advice just wait for her.

Anger manigent maybe that is what the problem is.

Some where in there is a girl that you love, hang on to that. Things typically get better with time, hang on to that too...or hang on!

There are some things that you can't live with, that would be "the hill that you will die on" with her. For everything else look for compromise, working together, understanding, and getting along. Be mindful of her "buttons" and don't let her get to you.

I know what your doing is really hard, but it is the right thing. In the future you can always be proud that no matter what happens, you gave it your best effort with her.

Yolly if it helps you

I also was subject to fits of rage , and it wasn't untill after some group sessions where one of my felow inmates as I call us ( we wernt in jail ) just weekly sessions

he asked me "what do I feel before I got angry"

and I told him, "its when I get frustrated , then the anger comes next....."

about 1 min later he once again asked me

"what do I feel before I got angry"

and I told him "its when I get frustrated , then the anger comes next....."

a little firmer this time

and about 1 min later he asked me

"what do I feel before I got angry"

and I said , "for the 3rd time, its when I get frustrated ,Like I'm getting right now, then the anger comes next....."


He pointed his finger at me and all he said was, " BINGO "

I won't say I have never got angry again since that time 2 years ago,

But I can count on one hand , how many times I have lost it, and that hand only has 3 fingers and a thumb.............

It doesn't last very long at all now as soon as I recognise the anger, I stop and figure out what it is that is frustrating me