Most of my life i can remember, i usally get all teary eye-ed in movies and shows where there is some emotional scene going on. I often did not knkow why i did this thinking i was a wuss. But since my joining the ADD club, i have found it appears some of us seem to be more easly affected by on sceen (and off) emotional moments. I still try not to let anyone see, even my wife, but at least i have a handle on where it comes from. Dont get me wrong, there are time even i feel it's ok to do, its just some times it creeps up on me and and am thinking why am so moved?
:cool:

I don't get emotional during movies, but certain songs get to me. The Samples did a remake of a Bob Dylan song "Hard Rain" that I really enjoy. I believe if you go to the bands page, there is a link to download the MP3 for free. That song gets to me sometimes.

Rarely. Will have to be that rare movie that's probably not all that great or anything that I'm watching by myself and I might get a bit too involved.

I do and always have. Also at church sometimes. What effects me are the acheivements of kids. I love it when a plan comes together. Lassie was a big one for me and alot of Disney movies. LOL. O Well, it's out in the open now.

I have never watched Old Yeller. Specifically for that reason.

All the kids loved it in school. I refused to watch it.

I was in 5th grade when I realized that real life is tragic enough.

So any film that tugs at heart strings I scrupulously avoid. Bring on the stuff that blows up or has cartoon violence.

MB

MB, I'm with you now days. Except we still have a family night and sometimes I don't get to chose. LOL

I cry like a baby... even in the romance ones...and I think that stuff is bunk used to lure people (especially women) into unrealistic expectations about relationships...

Still I get all teary, lol.

Good ol' ADD androgeny! Right up there with acting like a 10 year old... :)

Any real ADD "he men" here? ;)

It depends on the movie...but there have been quite a few that trigger the tear ducts.

sup boys... its late here... real late... friday night and im bored still... finding the whirr of my open sided computer case soothing....

i too get tears in my eyes.... its like a sudden burst of emotion - as fast as a punch. then i get a grip and stop myself from doing it... its like im slightly ashamed of it

this reminds me... i ought to tell my mum i have a great deal of respect for her.



jonathan - stoned... but probably the most truthful about myself ive ever been

For some reason anything that involves kids being hurt does it to me. I
suppose it is the empathizing that goes along with it. The end of
"Pay it Forward" especially got to me. I tend to watch more comedy or
the "Total Recall" type movies to avoid that.

Am I the only one that gets chocked up at the end of movies like, Saving Private Ryan, We Were Soldiers, Band of Brothers???

Am I the only one that gets chocked up at the end of movies like, Saving Private Ryan, We Were Soldiers, Band of Brothers???
LOL, man, I would kill to meet a guy like you... I love those movies/mini series but all they guys I meet are like "yah, look at that guy die!"...

all you guys, I love sentimental men, I usually make friends with em cuz they are with a girl already, they get "swooped" up so fast :rolleyes:

Pige

;) didn't mean to butt in to your post, but just letting you know that, if you are single there are plenty of girls looking for guys like you! lol :D

Am I the only one that gets chocked up at the end of movies like, Saving Private Ryan, We Were Soldiers, Band of Brothers???

I'm only 14, not a man, but i can offer insite, for I am quite into movies, and we were soldiers had me crying like a baby, and i find it good to cry, and i often do when watching sad movies, any man that can cry when watching a movie is a real man, indeed, and man that says hes to tough to cry, is a wuss. lol

yeah i do too for some movies, even comedy movies like Big Daddy made me tear up a little bit....it was touching, yeah...

yes I do.. sometimes even for stupid commercials... I thought about how my mother used to tease my father when he would tear up watching Lassie. My father never showed any emotion normally.. except for anger..One time that really floored me was when his father died and he lost it at the cemetery(I was about 11) and my mother was totally disgusted at his public show of emotion. (she is from Germany and raised very cold). My father is dyslexic and probably add also.

Yeah, I tend to get choked up in movies a bit. Even for sill stuff like kids' movies. I was a little embarrassed about a month ago when I got teary-eyed watching the latest Pokemon movie with my son. It was right before the lights went up, so I just told him, let's wait until some more people leave before we go. :)

yes, very much. And I love it too. I think this is good really. When a movie gets to me I know it's good, I have managed to cry (with time its mostly just choking up) and I can discern it has been for objective reasons too, as in my body reacting to a work of art, not because of my mood, or problems or whatever.

There are so many too. The end of Donnie Darko did it for me for example, I was completely devastated. Its unlikely that I'll admit to this in public though, or maybe I will ;) Im gonna think of more now. There are a lot!

Yeah, me too. Forrest Gump when Forrest was talking to his wife at her grave. I had to look away for a moment or two.

I read a piece by some dame in one of those mens mags and she said never tear up when you're with a date. It's a big turn-off to a woman

Well, blubbering like a baby is one thing. That suggests an inability to keep your emotions in control. (As I recall, Grant wept after Shiloh, and I can't blame him. But the important thing is he waited until after. We all know what a wuss HE was, don't we?!)

I have a brother who told me long ago that he got misty once during a sad movie, http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...?v=glance&s=dvd (----(Umbrellas of Cherbourg I think. ). And when SHE didn't---HE was turned off. "What an iceberg!" he thought, and dropped her soon afterwards. I wouldn't want to marry a reptile, however pretty it was.

Some music will really start the waterworks flowing for me. I'll listen privately, so as not to make a spectacle of myself. But the emotional release is a great relief.

I guess that proves again that woman are always UNreliable sources of dating advice for men. I listen, yes, (especially eg. when they talk about men's clothes). But I'm wary.

(For a hilarious example of what I mean, remember http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/t...?v=glance&s=dvd (----(Tootsie ---the episode that ends with Dustin Hoffman getting doused with a drink by Jessica Lange? But I digress...)

Phil

I do and always have been that way --- sensitive they say. Some even suggest it is because of depression but I am NOT depressed generally.

Do anything emotional in a movie - even raise a flag - even the US one and I tear up.

This is not meant as a slur against the US, it just is that I am Candian and you would think I would not get emotional at the patriotic raising of a foreign flag, even if it is that of our good neighbour.

Vic
"What if your entire life has been one big waste of time --- even to yourself?"
Quote from "Nate" a character on TV series "SIX FEET UNDER".

Emotions are very much a part of being a man. I find ADD/ADHD men the few I know to be very open to being who they are emotionally and tactal (touching). Yes, I can cry at a movie when I relate to the situation, like Ghost, or especially when two brothers have and adventure, one dies. I guess because I lost my younger brother. I find Italian men and some Latin men very good at expressing emotions, ADHD or not, its nice to have a brotherhood, friendship I think it adds to their relationship with their girlfriends and wives.

Songs can get to me some I will play over and over to feel, focus and yes sometimes cry or gain some motivation to do something positive.

Okay,
I'm going to the video store tomorrow.

I've never seen:

Fried green tomatoes
Moonstruck
Steel Magnolias
Old Yeller

I figure I should rent at least one and see if the tear ducts still work.

Recommendations?

Thanks,
MB

Bambi
Truth About Cats and Dogs
Silent Running
Japanese Story
Cyrano de Bergerac
Last of the Mohicans
My Best Friend's Wedding
Life is Beautiful
Love Actually

...

Crime_Scene,

The ending of 'Last of the Mohicans' is awesome.

I get home earlier than my wife and on Mondays The Sundance Channel is "doc day". One day I was watching a documentary about the Canadian General in charge of the UN detachment in Rowanda and how he just had to watch everything happen. Stories about stuff that I can't even tell people without tearing up.

When my wife came home, I was just sitting there crying.

Most of my life i can remember, i usally get all teary eye-ed in movies and shows where there is some emotional scene going on. I often did not knkow why i did this thinking i was a wuss. But since my joining the ADD club, i have found it appears some of us seem to be more easly affected by on sceen (and off) emotional moments. I still try not to let anyone see, even my wife, but at least i have a handle on where it comes from. Dont get me wrong, there are time even i feel it's ok to do, its just some times it creeps up on me and and am thinking why am so moved?
:cool:
I have the same issue, and have thought about it. I can't handle any kind of scary movie, or anything emotional. I just fall apart. Even on video at home. I have to fight back tears at least once during church, usually. I think this is due to having to keep so much bottled up during the day.

It was fantastic, wasn't it? Especially on the promontory. The music went well with that.

More about Rowanda...you might like the video Hotel Rwanda with Don Cheadle, it's quite impressive also.

It is very sob inspiring.


Crime_Scene,

The ending of 'Last of the Mohicans' is awesome.

I get home earlier than my wife and on Mondays The Sundance Channel is "doc day". One day I was watching a documentary about the Canadian General in charge of the UN detachment in Rowanda and how he just had to watch everything happen. Stories about stuff that I can't even tell people without tearing up.

When my wife came home, I was just sitting there crying.

I've always been emotional but since our kids were born it's been much worse. Movies, commercials, music...anything can trigger it. What especially gets me are stories about true human experiences. Someone mentioned "Saving Private Ryan" earlier, I was balling before the first word was ever spoken. The opening scene at Arlington cemetery was incredibly moving to me. And if there are kids involved in the story...forget it, the tears are gonna flow. I will say, however, that I think some of mine (not all) is/was due to low grade depression (Dysthymia) because I started taking Effexor about two weeks ago and haven't cried since.

Am I the only one that gets chocked up at the end of movies like, Saving Private Ryan, We Were Soldiers, Band of Brothers???
I went to the DDay museum in New Orleans. Major Winters was one of the major contributors of oral history (you sit in a booth with photos etc and hear their voices describing that point in the battle). I left the museum sick to my stomach. I had gone to Nawlins for that sole reason and while at the museum I ended up going thru at the same pace as a group of veterans. After you hear these men say "Oh that is the farm house Lefty got killed at" and so on and so forth, it weighs you down and imagine what it must be like for them!

So add me to the emotional men who follow our military history and have been choked up countless times.

Did you know that women are actually LESS sentimental and more practical than men?
(This I first read in Karl Menninger's Love Against Hate).

It's just that men have been trained to keep it all stuffed in. And we pay the price in a far shorter life span.

Single or widowed women fare better generally than single men or widowers, who lead lives that are often solitary, poor ,nasty, brutish and short, and...and...I CAN"T TAKE IT......I"M SORRRY....I'LL BE OK...SEE YOU GUYS (sob) LATER...

I'm quite emotional but I don't think it manifests at inappropriate times. It's not always tears, but sometimes tears do well up. Sometimes this is from sadness, sometimes from anger, sometimes from disappointment. I laugh just as often however. As long as these two are in balance, I see no problem.

I get choked up at so many movies but it's usually only once. The one movie that gets to me EVERY time is the end of Gladiator. I get so choked up at the end of that it's amazing.

I love stories, movies, books, plays.
they can have a big effect on me
but it is weird though, that I cried
as much during Return of the Jedi
as I did during Schindler's List. But,
hey, I enjoy my sensitivity and my
emotions, it makes me feel alive.
People like my wife, sometimes don't
understand why I get so emotional
about different things. It is good I
have a friend who is ADD who can
relate to me and not always be
"Rarr! I am man, I crush cans, Blargh!"
o.k. so I never met anybody who said
exactly that, but do you get my drift?

Here's two that always get me:

The Great Escape---1963 which also gets my vote for best "boy" move ever made. (Notice that there is not a single speaking part for a woman!) Esp. moving is that fraternal bond forged between Jim Garner ("The Scrounger") and Donald Pleasance, ("the Forger"), who literally worked himself blind making documents. Always gets me.

Then there's "The Man Who Would Be King", another brothers-in arms movie, and like Escape, a classic. Caine, Connery, dir John Huston.

Then for misty eyes and inspiration, try the BEST western you never heard of: Ulzana's Raid . You'll thank me for that tip. 1973. Burt Lancaster, Bruce Willis dir. by Rob (The Dirty Dozen) Aldrich. My favorite western, wonderful script based on a true story, by Alan Sharp. On VHS at Blockbuster.

Phil

I saw the Face Eating Tumor special on Discovery. Poor asian 5 y/o boy had a terrible disfiguring condition and Tawianese doctors helped him out. They removed the tumors and he looked much better and was no longer blind. Everything was good until the end of the show where they said the the boy passed away from a respitory infection. That really got to me.