View Full Version : Anyone else here addicted to self-help books and websites?


addmission
05-21-17, 01:27 AM
Because I am - although recently I've been trying not to be.

The library of self-help books on my eReader would be embarrassing if they were physical; truth I'd like them but would feel that way if others saw them.

I'm glad there's no record of the time I've spent reading productivity sites and reviewing the stuff I've archived from them.

None of the above is wrong. Just a big investment in time. And for what? I'm not sure...

I think one of the reasons for entering into a forum like this one - is the journey to discover that your not the only one. That you are part of a tribe.

So is anyone else out there the same? - with the books and the productivity porn I mean...

Best Wishes

kwalk
05-21-17, 02:53 AM
I once looked at self help books and it was a lot about emotional control but there were underlying factors with ADHD that just wasn't as simple as that. When I know why I have my problems, I'm happier and atleast have a goal in mind for some things that I actually meet. I'm not perfect and I don't expect my life to be normal or as well compared to others. If you keep comparing yourself to others you won't be happy. And you can't take anxiety away if there's a reason. Now inspirational positive quotes work great but you can find them on the internet :D.

dvdnvwls
05-21-17, 03:49 AM
Thomas Crown:

Does all this material have the results that its authors intended? Or do you end up with intellectual knowledge but not much of a practical result?

sarahsweets
05-21-17, 06:03 AM
I have been the same way. Not so much with as many self help books but sites that help you organize your life with housework, chores, bills, etc. I have implemented more systems of organization than most. I love going to staples and buying all the pens. markers, index cards, post it notes. I even bought a chalk board for the kitchen once. Do you know where that is now? In my bathroom linen closet. Dont ask me why. I think the idea of finding a site that promised a system that would work was almost stimulating to me, and then the excitement of getting all the stuff you need for it. Of course I never kept up with it and it lost its sparkle right away. I have been looking into the bullet journal now but I honestly dont understand how it works so I have held off. The only consistent thing I have done for years is use my giant wall calander. If something isnt written on it its not happening.

Unmanagable
05-21-17, 10:49 AM
I used to be until I started putting the ones that resonated the most deeply into action after a medical scare a couple years ago.

It eventually helped eliminate the need to keep searching and digging so much once things started to work and other things started falling more into place. I gained more clarity in my digging efforts as that happened, I suppose.

Directly diving in, often blindly, and discovering what actually works for my particular biology (which includes quite a menu, not limited to adhd), albeit quite painfully at times, has taught me so much helpful stuff.

I used to also avoid many things based solely on the opinions of others who are hardcore peer-reviewed science/academic folks, thinking they surely must know better than little ol' informally educated me, if nothing else, simply because they were able to sit still long enough to read all that s***. lol

Later, discovering many of those things I had actively avoided were quite often the very things that helped me the most. lol Go figure.

I find the most value in methods and teachers that teach me how to do something that I can later very easily access and maintain on my own without needing to invest in even more stuff to make something possible, or having to rely on another to continually provide it, but sometimes that simply can't be helped.

I only have so may f***s (which, to me, equals time, energy, money) I can give within a day and learning to spend my f*** bucks and my current-$ee more wisely was very necessary.

My account had been tapped out for way too long and I'd never been taught how to healthily build it back up. But I feel I far surpassed expert level on how to keep overdrawing and spreading myself too thin.

I also learned there's great value in freebies. I used to think (as do many other well-programmed consumers) that if something is free, it simply has no real value and shouldn't be taken very seriously.

You tube university, Khan academy, and several other free (monetarily) avenues of learning (bartering, internships, etc. made possible by folks in my community) has taught me more about how to better manage and build up the basic foundations of my health than all the years of school I attended, experts I sought out, and all those books and links I saved, combined.

But, I also had to be willing to unlearn what I thought I already knew first. Getting out of my own way continues to be my biggest hurdle. lol

Out of all of the addictions I've experienced in my first 50 years of existence, be it my own or that of others, this one seems to have been the least harmful, so far.