View Full Version : Love my wife and kids but....

07-15-17, 09:57 AM
...I've come to realize that my coping mechanism pre marriage was being alone. I've lost that now as a dad.

I'm someone who is good with people, very concerned about what people think of me, socially "successful", but an introvert. Sounds like a contradiction, but when I'm being social I'm great at it, and I enjoy it. But I need lots of time alone to recharge.

With a wife and kids I don't have that time. I'm not good asking for time or imposing on people. I know I have to do it, but it's so hard. I hope I can make it until my kids are teens and don't want attention all the time. My dad took a lot of his emotions out on us and desperately don't want to do that. My kids are 7 and 4 and so far I think I've done a great job. But I feel like I've hit a point where I just need a looong break. And I know I'm not going to get one.

Enough rambling I guess. I'll go take some adderall to get me through the day.

07-15-17, 12:51 PM
I know its hard to ask but unless you want to end up miserable and resent your wife and kids, only you can change the parameters.