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SpEdteachADDmom
09-11-17, 02:38 PM
I need some advice for helping my daughter be a better listener. She has ADD and is medicated. We were listening to an audiobook yesterday and when we listen to it, I pause it every few minutes and ask comprehension questions. I asked a question yesterday that was very clearly stated in the book, and she said she "couldn't remember" (even though it had been mentioned literally 20 seconds before that). So I went back 30 seconds, we listened to that part again, and again I paused it and asked her the question. She still "couldn't remember". We had to listen to it 3 times before she heard it.

I need some tips on listening exercises I can do with her, outside of what I'm currently doing with the audiobook. Can anyone point me in the right direction?

Thanks!

J

TheGreatKing
09-11-17, 03:17 PM
During group lessons, keep your child involved by asking them questions. Play music or sing a song to keep them focused on the material being taught.
When giving instructions, limit the number of steps involved and have the students repeat the steps back to you, one at a time. Use the words first, next, and last to give order and structure.Relate concepts to real-life experiences through visuals, sign language, or gestures. Bring vocabulary words and stories to life by giving students examples from everyday life. If you are starting a story about a supermarket, bring in items that you buy there.Make sure your commands and directions are precise. “Do careful work” or “Be respectful” are too vague. Be specific in what you expect to see: “Eyes looking at me, bottoms in your chairs, book open to page 21, and desks cleared except for a pencil.”Read a few pages of an article or story at a time. Teach students how to stop and ask themselves questions about what they have read. Allow them to draw a picture or write a key word on a sticky note and attach it to the page.Make your voice go up or down, or make it louder or softer while doing a read-aloud or giving directions. Buy a garden glove and write a story element on each finger.

Be consistent with the words you use to give directions, and stick to established schedules in your household. This will increase a child’s listening comprehension because he knows what to expect and feels secure and calm.Walk through the steps of a task. Check for understanding of directions. Write down the task you want done (in words or pictures) and give it to your child for reference.Before, during, and after chores, homework, or a task, have your child tell you specifically what he is doing. This continuous reminder of the task at hand keeps your child focused. It may seem redundant, but it works!get your child up and moving to help with listening skills. Use hand gestures, exercises, or dance moves to help him remember what to do.

sarahsweets
09-12-17, 04:37 AM
How old is your child?

SpEdteachADDmom
09-12-17, 08:18 AM
How old is your child?

Oops forgot to add that info. She's 12, almost 13. 7th grade.

Caco3girl
09-12-17, 10:37 AM
I have to say, my son was able to keep up with the audio books...however, he did mention that he liked it when they did different voices for different characters. Is it a mono-tone reader, or is this an audio book that has a cool narrator?

There are audio book companies that sell AUDIBLE books that have reviews on how the narrator did. When I couldn't read the book to my son I got one of these type of books. He had no problem.

SpEdteachADDmom
09-12-17, 11:45 AM
We are listening to The Giver on Audible right now. I stop the book every few minutes or so and ask her comprehension questions. She's very good at letting her mind wander - she calls it getting lost in her thoughts. I'm wanting some exercises that she can do both independently as well as with me that will help her build her focus on what's being said to her. She's always struggled in school, mainly because she doesn't hear the teacher when they mention deadlines or the fact that there is a test tomorrow. I don't know how many times she's come home and all of a sudden there is a huge project due tomorrow or a test she needs to study for. It's a daily struggle for us.

J

Caco3girl
09-12-17, 03:23 PM
We are listening to The Giver on Audible right now. I stop the book every few minutes or so and ask her comprehension questions. She's very good at letting her mind wander - she calls it getting lost in her thoughts. I'm wanting some exercises that she can do both independently as well as with me that will help her build her focus on what's being said to her. She's always struggled in school, mainly because she doesn't hear the teacher when they mention deadlines or the fact that there is a test tomorrow. I don't know how many times she's come home and all of a sudden there is a huge project due tomorrow or a test she needs to study for. It's a daily struggle for us.

J

That all sounds familiar...getting the IEP helped a lot with that since they have to be more explicit in when the tests are.

My daughter has issues reading so she reads along with the book when we listen to a book....have you tried that?

Caco3girl
09-12-17, 03:26 PM
Also...who chose the Giver? When my son had the option he chose the Percy Jackson series that hadn't been made into a movie yet. VERY thick books, worth a lot of points, but he was actually interested in the fast paced action.

anonymouslyadd
09-12-17, 03:41 PM
We are listening to The Giver on Audible right now. I stop the book every few minutes or so and ask her comprehension questions. She's very good at letting her mind wander - she calls it getting lost in her thoughts. I'm wanting some exercises that she can do both independently as well as with me that will help her build her focus on what's being said to her. She's always struggled in school, mainly because she doesn't hear the teacher when they mention deadlines or the fact that there is a test tomorrow. I don't know how many times she's come home and all of a sudden there is a huge project due tomorrow or a test she needs to study for. It's a daily struggle for us.

J
This was my experience growing up. It seems like you're looking for ways to increase your daughter's attention span through exercises. There are none.

Focus on strategies she can employ to compensate for the poor working memory and time blindness that accompany the disorder. Don't try to fix her or fix the way her brain works. You'll be climbing up a mountain, frustrating yourself and your daughter.

Think outside the box for solutions for your daughter. I appreciate how involved and concerned you are about her well-being. She has a good mother. :)

SpEdteachADDmom
09-12-17, 04:39 PM
Also...who chose the Giver? When my son had the option he chose the Percy Jackson series that hadn't been made into a movie yet. VERY thick books, worth a lot of points, but he was actually interested in the fast paced action.

She asked me about The Giver because it is my favorite book, and I talk about it often. And there's a movie now, so she's interested in it. Finally! :)

SpEdteachADDmom
09-12-17, 04:43 PM
That all sounds familiar...getting the IEP helped a lot with that since they have to be more explicit in when the tests are.

My daughter has issues reading so she reads along with the book when we listen to a book....have you tried that?

Yes, I have a paperback copy of the book as well and she follows along with it. But when I ask her listening comprehension questions, I have her close the book. I feel like she needs to work on actively paying attention to the speaker since she won't always have text in front of her to refer back to. Reading comprehension is fairly close to grade level. It's just the listening she struggles with. She lets her attention span drift away and she will daydream about other things.

sarahsweets
09-13-17, 04:41 AM
Does she have an IEP for school or a 504?

Caco3girl
09-13-17, 08:34 AM
Yes, I have a paperback copy of the book as well and she follows along with it. But when I ask her listening comprehension questions, I have her close the book. I feel like she needs to work on actively paying attention to the speaker since she won't always have text in front of her to refer back to. Reading comprehension is fairly close to grade level. It's just the listening she struggles with. She lets her attention span drift away and she will daydream about other things.

Wait....my son has to listen to books because he can't understand what he is reading or follow along. If your daughter has average reading comprehension why are you listening to audio books?

SpEdteachADDmom
09-13-17, 04:40 PM
Wait....my son has to listen to books because he can't understand what he is reading or follow along. If your daughter has average reading comprehension why are you listening to audio books?

I commute to my job and she rides in the car with me and I drop her off at school, so we listen to audio books or podcasts on the way. :)

stef
09-13-17, 05:32 PM
maybe thats not quite the right moment?
idk as an adult I need that time commuting to either prepare for the day or unwind
( I take the train I don't drive!)

Little Missy
09-13-17, 06:13 PM
maybe thats not quite the right moment?
idk as an adult I need that time commuting to either prepare for the day or unwind
( I take the train I don't drive!)

I have to agree. If my mum was asking me questions, I'd ignore whatever it was being wrenched out of me.

Caco3girl
09-14-17, 01:32 PM
I commute to my job and she rides in the car with me and I drop her off at school, so we listen to audio books or podcasts on the way. :)

I can't think of a way to say this without it sounding judgemental so I apologize in advance, I am trying to help.

My son doesn't really wake up until about 2 hours after he takes his meds. You are putting a, maybe not fully dosed, ADHD kid in a moving car with about a million distractions going on around her, in the morning when she is thinking about everything her day will entail, and expecting her to pay attention??? This is the epitome of setting someone up for failure, in my opinion.

mildadhd
09-14-17, 04:23 PM
I am assuming your daughter does not have deficits of hearing?

I am assuming your daughter has deficits of self regulation.

If so, I wonder if it would be better to focus on self regulation skills?

Very interesting discussion, thanks for posting, I never thought of the subjects from this perspective before.

Thanks




M

mildadhd
09-14-17, 04:54 PM
I started listening to audiobooks about a year ago.

It been a tremendous addition.

I have about 10 books in my phone, so far.

I listen to what ever book I feel like when I feel like it, during my commutes.

Sometimes I do not listen to anything.

I find audiobook is much more efficient and less dangerous to listen to walking down the road, than it is to read a book while walking down the road.

I would try ever method possible.

Maybe just listen to the whole audiobook in the car during the commute without stopping to test her?

Then listen to it again, if she wants, and again if she wants, to fill in the blanks as she fades in an out?

(I think that is what I do?)


M

maple17
09-17-17, 09:46 PM
I need some advice for helping my daughter be a better listener. She has ADD and is medicated. We were listening to an audiobook yesterday and when we listen to it, I pause it every few minutes and ask comprehension questions. I asked a question yesterday that was very clearly stated in the book, and she said she "couldn't remember" (even though it had been mentioned literally 20 seconds before that). So I went back 30 seconds, we listened to that part again, and again I paused it and asked her the question. She still "couldn't remember". We had to listen to it 3 times before she heard it.

I need some tips on listening exercises I can do with her, outside of what I'm currently doing with the audiobook. Can anyone point me in the right direction?

Thanks!

J

First off, I just want to say that I think you're a great parent by trying to help your daughter build up her skills. Kudos to you for that.

I had to smile while reading this though because I know that with my 12 year-old daughter (ADHD/ASD 1), this would never fly. She would be so irritated with me and the commute is her time...either prepping herself to get through a trying day or winding down when I pick her up. Maybe a quiet time during the evening with less potential distractions would help.

Has she been assessed recently? My daughter has had a range of assessments this year and an auditory processing disorder assessment. While she does not have APD, the WISC indicated that her working memory relied on a visual vs verbal stimulus as well as a recogniton paradigm vs free recall. Not saying your daughter is the same, but there are many variables related to working memory and processing, and maybe your approach needs a little refinement, especially if she's more of a visual learner. Good luck.