Ian
08-05-05, 01:19 PM
This book is really interesting. A focus on boys is of particular interest to me as I continue to try and make sense of my upbringing as well as providing a model for the boys in my life. I'd recommend every father to bite into this book.
I hope the woman don't latch onto this as another means to heap monkeys on the backs of men already struggling to find their way in parenting. Women would do well to show some compassion to the struggles of men rather than focus on blame which I see so often.
The coverage of empathy in boys is well covered as well. PU is now a couple of years into a "Roots of Empathy" program at her school where the early years students follow a babies development. This year she was lucky to have both parents available to attend the classes she moderated. The effects are quite remarkable and particularly evident are the positive changes in the boys.
Papa - Ian
"Raising Cain - Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys"
Dan Kindlon, PH. D. & Michael Thompson, PH. D.
ISBN 0-345-43485-4
From page 98-99
"In one of the largest of such projects, Greg Duncan of Northwestern University, along with colleagues at the University of Michigan, studied a group of more than a thousand intact families in the United States over the course of twenty-seven years, examining many aspects of family life that were thought to be influential in determining the future occupations and incomes of their children, including the parents' occupations, incomes, education levels, and IQs. They also looked at what would normally be considered less influential factors, including how much the father helped with housework, whether he used his free time to go to bars or watch TV, how often the family ate dinner together, whether they attended church, and whether the father had any involvement in PTA meetings. What they found surprised them. Of the dozens of factors they considered, father attendance at PTA meetings was the most influential in terms of the child's income at age twenty-seven."
I hope the woman don't latch onto this as another means to heap monkeys on the backs of men already struggling to find their way in parenting. Women would do well to show some compassion to the struggles of men rather than focus on blame which I see so often.
The coverage of empathy in boys is well covered as well. PU is now a couple of years into a "Roots of Empathy" program at her school where the early years students follow a babies development. This year she was lucky to have both parents available to attend the classes she moderated. The effects are quite remarkable and particularly evident are the positive changes in the boys.
Papa - Ian
"Raising Cain - Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys"
Dan Kindlon, PH. D. & Michael Thompson, PH. D.
ISBN 0-345-43485-4
From page 98-99
"In one of the largest of such projects, Greg Duncan of Northwestern University, along with colleagues at the University of Michigan, studied a group of more than a thousand intact families in the United States over the course of twenty-seven years, examining many aspects of family life that were thought to be influential in determining the future occupations and incomes of their children, including the parents' occupations, incomes, education levels, and IQs. They also looked at what would normally be considered less influential factors, including how much the father helped with housework, whether he used his free time to go to bars or watch TV, how often the family ate dinner together, whether they attended church, and whether the father had any involvement in PTA meetings. What they found surprised them. Of the dozens of factors they considered, father attendance at PTA meetings was the most influential in terms of the child's income at age twenty-seven."