View Full Version : How Do You Stick with Something?


NeantHumain
08-17-05, 12:55 AM
Persistence:faint:

Throughout my life, one major problem has been persistence. I can start all kinds of projects with enough exuberence to lead people to believe it's going to change my life. I can't even begin to name all the ideas I've set upon myself to accomplish without following through. One thing I've been procrastinating on all summer is cleaning my bedroom; I put it off for so long it takes hours to do! That's a pretty trivial one, too; I have set a goal to read Les Misérables (started reading that in February, finished reading it in July) and at least one of the two philosophy books I bought before the summer is over (Jean-Paul Sartre's Being and Nothingness was a snore, so I started reading Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche's Beyond Good and Evil instead). I'm always bored, wanting something "fun" to do; but I never do these more mundane things that would keep me occupied!

I took up painting over winter break, but I've barely even done any sketching this summer! Am I that lazy? About two years ago, I took it upon myself to learn Latin but quit after two weeks because memorizing all the verb inflections was too tedious.

Keeping myself motivated on a task seems almost impossible if I don't have some kind of external push/pull!

reckless
08-17-05, 03:56 AM
I know this kid with ADHD who sticks to his schedual so tightly every week and doesn't complain at all about his condition.

I find I have to develop really strong habits in order to feel like I can complete a task without much mental effort. Think about all the routine things that you do without difficulty. I'm pretty good at getting from my bed to my car because I do the same exact thing every morning.

So instead of working to get a task done, think of it as the formation of a habit. Try to read 2 hours a day at the same exact time each day, and the hardest part will be the first chapter.

Do you get bored taking a shower? No, because you know you'll be done in 5 minutes and you can search for more "fun" after. And you have to shower, or you'll smell, so you force yourself into forming the habit.

I can't do projects for the life of me, but I've heard that you should take a similar approach and also break it down into little steps. Don't try to figure out how to get to the end of your project, just to the next step.

onemoreyear
08-21-05, 04:49 PM
I dunno...I usually experience an intense anxiety if I start something and don't finish, so I am RELENTLESS until I am completely finished.

I also go through spurts where I do ONE THING continuously for two weeks, then I don't do it ever again. It's hard to do ANYTHING in moderation, and to keep at it when I do it in moderation...sigh...

This is a result of having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder combined with my ADHD.

Struggling
08-21-05, 08:09 PM
Persistence:faint:

Throughout my life, one major problem has been persistence. I can start all kinds of projects with enough exuberence to lead people to believe it's going to change my life. I can't even begin to name all the ideas I've set upon myself to accomplish without following through. One thing I've been procrastinating on all summer is cleaning my bedroom; I put it off for so long it takes hours to do! That's a pretty trivial one, too; I have set a goal to read Les Misérables (started reading that in February, finished reading it in July) and at least one of the two philosophy books I bought before the summer is over (Jean-Paul Sartre's Being and Nothingness was a snore, so I started reading Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche's Beyond Good and Evil instead). I'm always bored, wanting something "fun" to do; but I never do these more mundane things that would keep me occupied!

I took up painting over winter break, but I've barely even done any sketching this summer! Am I that lazy? About two years ago, I took it upon myself to learn Latin but quit after two weeks because memorizing all the verb inflections was too tedious.

Keeping myself motivated on a task seems almost impossible if I don't have some kind of external push/pull!

Don't really know how to make you feel better or answer your question...but I wanted to say that in my 20's I did exactly this w/ everything in my life. It was completely out of control. One day I decided that it was unacceptable, causing turmoil w/in my family, and I decided that I would not allow myself to begin a new project unless I was sure I could finish it. I wish I could say that I improved upon the completion of projects, but the truth is, I just don't start as many, lol. I am also less bored like you mention. I know that probably doesn't help you...but..it did seem to get better as I got older

UnleashTheHound
08-21-05, 08:57 PM
I force myself to finish things that I start. I do it with such a militantcy that sometimes it bothers my wife. I'll insist upon spending a certain amount of time each day to work on it. It might seem excessive to some, but I know that if I start to slack, then it will turn into yet another unfinished project.

Linguist
08-22-05, 02:56 PM
I had to be 100% dedicated to my degree. If I had procrastinated over any part of it, I would have fallen into difficulties for sure and probably got the lowest degree classification (a Third) instead of (a Lower Second). I spent practically no time on Leisure although I was so exhausted at the weekend that I spent Saturday in bed which only left about an hour a week to go to the pub, but luckily I stuck at the course. In fact, in the Second year of the course when there was less work to do, I had to do a part-time job to make ends meet and for 8 months had zero leisure apart from 4 visits to the pub. One German assessment was so complicated that I perservered for 3 weeks looking through a huge German dictionary because the vocabulary was so new to me.