Hi guys,
i am relatively new to this website as well as to life with diagnosed ADHD. Unfortunatelly, ever since i found out that i have ADHD i started readin so much about and trying ot understand it so much that now i don't know what to think or feel. Before I just used to ignore things and pretend that I am just that way and if someone dind't like it it wasn' tmy fault. But now i try to understan my action, I try to relate to other people and see how what i am doing is different. and try to correct it. But that leaves me EXTREMELy frastrated osmetimes. So for example these past few days I was trying to understand some issues i was having in my relationship with my boyfriend. and i was spending quite a few days thinking about it and today I totally exploded on me. He made one of those stupid jokes he's so good at (which i usually ignore) but today because of my general frastrated mood I exploded. and my mood swings are horrible, of course they are worse because of upcoming period..but still it's so frastrating to be caught in this never ending loop that i want to know how some of you other women with ADHD deal with it!! please help .

sorry for any typos..but I just can't read over this again :)

Thank you for any advice you can give!

I was dx in February and it can really be pretty overwhelming at first all the information and trying to integrate it all and rethink everything. I found it really helpful to see a counselor experienced in AD/HD who helped me sort through a lot of it. I think there's also a natural grief process and with that comes some anger. I found that when I first started med I'd also have a much higher level of irritability when the meds were wearing off and snapped a lot more at my husband and kids. Basically it takes a little time, so be patient with yourself. Practicing relaxation breathing and journaling about what you're going through is helpful too (plus it's interesting to look back on and see how far you've come). I find that it really has gotten easier and my relationships are going better and I'm generally just more comfortable in my skin, but it took a bit of time getting here.

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Medication was the last resort for me.It was out of my hands,I even had a hysterectomy thinkin that at least that could help.Crazy hu?I was a ball of emotion,like a volcano ready to erupt!!!I feel much,much better now.I just needed the right meds.By the way,Im not sorry about the hysterectomy.I had-had my kiddies and was done with all that.I love not having the added on stress of a period.

Hi and welcome to the Forums!

I can really empathize with you. As women, we have a unique "upsetter" in our hormonal swings which can make it even more difficult to deal with our ADD.

I would first off tell you to try and relax. It sounds like you are really interested in understanding what's going on with yourself, but getting this situation under control is a process and I hope you aren't being too hard on yourself.

Are you working with a dr., psychologist, or therapist? Maybe you could fill us in a little more on what you have done so far. Are you on any medications?

At a minimum, know that you are not alone. You'll find a lot of information and some great support here. Try the search function at the top of the page.

Keep us posted!

Kim

Hi everyone,
THank you so much for answering. It does feel better to know that other people are going through a similar thing, it's sad that we have to go throught this but good to know i am not alone :) I was reading through other threads and found a lot of other similarities as well.
I was diagnosed in July, and read a few books so far. I am working with a psychiatrist. He says that I am in good shape just need a few more tips. hehehe But there are days that make me feel like everything is falling out of my hands and I can't even keep a word in my mind. (that was the past few days). I am going to buy straterra tomorrow. And start on it right away.
Sometimes in order to understand something I write it down and it seems to work, but sometimes I can't even sit at the computer for a few minutes....One thing that usually helps is doing cardio or being active outside. So I am heading straight to the gym right now...I am trying to figure out everything that works. ... I should have a journal :)

hehe I think I am feeling a little better today,
THank you guys :)