Hurry up!!

Well if you'd just try harder, you could focus.

Where's your self-discipline?

Well, maybe it's all the "speed" your taking that makes you tired (or whatever harmless, neutral behavior you are exhibiting that mght be inconveniencing them at the moment)

I bet if you really tried, you could handle this without drugs.

Well don't let it bother you!! You are too "hyper sensitive" to noise. Their humming, and talking loudly on the phone, etc., doesn't bother the other employees? Why should it bother you?

And my personal favorite:
*Well, I believe God would to heal your "A.D.D." if you would just let Him. :eyebrow:

Come on, I'm sure ya'll all have a few you could add to the list!

Come on, can't you just "think" before you do that??!!!

gggrrrrrr I hate that one :mad:

My husband......"Did you take your pill today?"

"No. And I'm never going to take it again if you ask me one more time!"

"maybe you should take more medication ?" (said to me by my ignorant former supervisor who also insisted that I should multitask heavily at work because I have ADD)

"It is all in your head..." (said to me by my well-meaning former boss, and present friend)

"there is no way you have HFA...." (said to me tearfully, repeatedly, just yesterday by a friend who is in denial)

"It's a personality disorder caused by bad parenting" (said to me by a former friend who tried to do me harm)

"Why bother trying to find out what is worng ?, it is just stress, It is all in your head... " (yada yada yada...) (said to me by an ignorant friend whom I eventually educated)

"ADD is caused by drug abuse" (said last week by my former boss and still friend who is driven by misguided personal beliefs, whom I am still educating)

And that is just a few of the hideous things which I encounter almost every day.

Me :D

my favorite one is..."you are annoying, go shove some more pills down your throat"

My husband......"Did you take your pill today?"

"No. And I'm never going to take it again if you ask me one more time!"
I like that response..............I will have to remember that one

it can't be that bad,you function.....(Some days barely)
I forget what i went into the room for too... (Ya but all the time?)
try writing things down,....( Like i haven't tried that)

"I knew there HAD to be something wrong with you"

After my diagnosis...my friends "We always knew you had that." Thanks for telling me in advance!

gee they could have saved you the drs bill too!! ha ha

Its so funny that non-ADHD people think they have a right to talk about meds with us! Fortunately, my husband knows better. Of course, he also thinks that depression is something to just "get over." Oh well. Marie

Oh yes!

Me: "Why didn't you tell me ?" My friends: "You didn't ask...."

Go figure...


After my diagnosis...my friends "We always knew you had that." Thanks for telling me in advance!
Me :D

"If you'd just listen... I hate it when you ignore me."
(Yeah, RIGHT! Like I ignore you on purpose...:eyebrow: )

wailed "But I told you that yesterday!!!"
(Yeah, maybe you did. But did you write it on the calendar? Did you write it on the white board? Did you tell me this morning? Then quit whining!:mad: )

SIGH:(

When someone who does not have ADD over simplifies it.
I just find that annoying.

The one that really bothers me is trying to explain ADD.
And the automatic answer seems to be. "Oh I do that too"
Then I have to say, Yes everyone does ADD things.
Except they do it once in a blue moon.
Whereas the ADDer does it 9 times a day everyday.

I'm also tired of the joke.
When someone messes up they say, I must be ADD and then laughing.
I've heard this more then a few times now at different social events.

I'm also tired of the joke.
When someone messes up they say, I must be ADD and then laughing.
I've heard this more then a few times now at different social events.

Yeah, I hate that one too! I decided the next time I hear it I'm going to say...."yeah, but you're not smart enough to have ADD...but we all like to watch you do stupid things anyway." :D

You're just not listening .... and don't go blaiming it on the ADD.

"You know you're addicted to that stuff -- you're like a junkie needing her next fix" (even though I never take more than prescribed and frequently have to count my pills to see if I remembered to take my next dose)

"I think the medicine is making you worse"

"Go take another pill you're being a b-----!"

"You're like a Tweaker when you're coming off your meds"

"I think you're more like a Tweaker before you take your meds"

"Have you had you're meds today?"

"I can't see any difference in you on meds."

"Everyone has issues, you just have to deal with them."

"You really believe ADD exists!?!"

"Any idiot can read a map -- you're just not trying hard enough"

"Focus!"

Grrrrrr!:mad:
Scattered

okay when I first broke down to tell my mom that I had been dx, her reaction made me sssoo mad. She said she did not know how I could have possibly gotten THAT!!!

okay when I first broke down to tell my mom that I had been dx, her reaction made me sssoo mad. She said she did not know how I could have possibly gotten THAT!!!Yikes! Is it contageous?:eek: Maybe that's why so many people I'm close to have it!:p

Scattered

What not to say to a parent of a hyper adhd/ocd/mood disorder child:

"I can't believe you are going to let him have that. It's full of caffeine and sugar."
(It has been my experience that if non-hyper kids have caffeine/sugar, it could make them hyper off the chart. If hyper kids have caffeine/sugar, it could cause a holistic effect of "like-cures-like" and brings them down to "normal". Just like medications such as Ritalin, etc... The like-cures-like effect is also seen in many vaccines such as the flu vaccine. They inject the flu bug to fight the flu bug. It's a strange concept but it works.)

"Have you tried punishing him when he acts that way?"
(Really? Are you serious? Punishing a child works if they are acting mean, defiant, backtalking, not sharing their toys, etc...? I never knew that. Of all the Doctor Spock books I have read and all of the millions of ADD/ADHD books I checked out from the library, none of them mentioned anything about rules, timeout, the reward system, taking away privledges, etc....WOW. You should write a book on that for all us naive ADD/ADHD parents who never thought to punish our kids.)

"Oh, I forgot to tell you____________-." My personal "worst case scenario" would be to finish that with...I moved your stuff. I thought you wouldn't mind."

"What don't you set all your clocks ahead so that you won't always be late?"
(Why? Because we aren't s-t-u-p-i-d and we will know that we really still have time because we set our clocks ahead. Daaaaaaaaaaaaaa.)

You need to get your head out of the clouds and get motivated. (my ex-husband) :rolleyes:

There is nothing wrong with you except that your a lazy slob. (ex-husband) :eek:

If you gave a d*** about me in the kids you would keep this house straight and stop making excuses. (ex-husband) :confused:

You didn't forget you just didn't want to (grandfather) :eyebrow:

Those Doctors don't know what their talking about,,, they just tell you that you got something so they can make money and then you have an excuse for being such a lazy fat B***** (ex-husband) :mad:

your so d*** stupid cause your momma did so many drugs, you better start paying attention or else. (grandfather) :foot:

You just need to listen better. (ex employer) :soapbox:

(after cleaning up my house to where it looked much better) You know, your home reflects your life so therefore your life leaves much to be desired. (my employer now) :o

There is no excuse for nothing in your life getting done (my employer now)<she believes in tough love lol> :(

You must not care that your house is a mess. (mother in law)<yeah that must be it> :p

My favorite<<<<>>>>>Just 4 days ago

I had ADD once after my boyfriend and I broke up and couldn't even listen to the preacher but God took it away for me and he can for you too. I will pray for you. ;)
(My co-worker Angie)

Ohhh wait then there was the day I had a cold and one of my much older clients told me her Grandaughter was on disablity for ADD because she couldn't keep a job. I asked her how she did that she said that she didn't know but her nose ran all the time (like mine was that day from the cold) and they said her ADD was not sanitary.
(still not picking up on that one) :confused:

Don't you just hate unsanitary ADD? LOL
I'm sorry to laugh Draven.
I just can't believe the things people come up with about ADD.

Why can't you be organized? If I knew that answer I would be organized. The more I try to be organized the less I am.

There are a great many concrete thinking, "kneejerk" reacting people who like to offer sage feedback ranging "blinding flashes of the obvious" that no one but them has figured out in the last 103 years since the first ADHD research was conducted in 1902, to things like "pull yourself up by your boot straps ."

Occasionally, I have the opportunity to "enlighten" them.

Well, I believe God will heal your "ADD" if you would just let him.
Let me guess...a well-minded Christian. As a Christian I hate it when people use that line on me or anyone else regarding ADD or any other problem you might have. Next time they say that ask them if they believe that God gave you "ADD" so that you might perform a special mission for him?? (Think Blues Brothers..."We're on a mission from God!" Guaranteed to blow their concept of "gifts". Then remind them of all the "special" people God used in the Bible, David the murderer/adulterer, Jacob the birthright thief, Moses the doubter, etc...

Sorry it got preachy...the self-righteous chap my hide...

Eric

God gave those people IQ's below 90 as a test of our patience.:)

Tell them to say that to a cancer patient or someone in a wheelchair.

How about: "Nobody else on either side of the family has add/adhd."
(Hmmm? So it really must come from the water then.)

"If you would just apply yourself..."

Not so bad on the face of it, but repeated incessantly throughout youth, sometimes maliciously but mostly out of a misguided desire to help, it can really grind you down. If you don't come out of the educational machine thinking you're a lazy, worthless git after that you're a better person than me.

"You're stupid."
"You're lazy."
"You don't know how to prioritize."
"You're quirky."
"You just don't try."
"Dummy."

Let me guess...a well-minded Christian. As a Christian I hate it when people use that line on me or anyone else regarding ADD or any other problem you might have. Next time they say that ask them if they believe that God gave you "ADD" so that you might perform a special mission for him?? (Think Blues Brothers..."We're on a mission from God!" Guaranteed to blow their concept of "gifts". Then remind them of all the "special" people God used in the Bible, David the murderer/adulterer, Jacob the birthright thief, Moses the doubter, etc...

Sorry it got preachy...the self-righteous chap my hide...

EricMost likely I should put this in spiritual, but it fit here. Ever consider the description of Peter? Impulsive, impetuous, foot in mouth Peter! One of Jesus's best friends as I recall!

Scattered

ADD was invented...
ADD does not exist. You know why? You wanna know why there isn't a cure for cancer yet? It's all about the money. The money from the medications and treatments.

How about....

"You really don't love me. If you loved me, you would care about my feelings and remember to....[fill in blank]" or "If you cared about me, you would listen to me." etc.

My ex-wife made such a good case for why my behavior meant I didn't love her that I eventually came to believe it myself.

Or my favorite....

"Well just sit down and make a list, and then just do it...."

AAARRRRGGHHHH!!!

The (overly shocked reaction) when I've done something they see as too difficult for me.
Even worse the before hand comments of (You won't be able to do that)
Those I only get from relatives you know the people you can't pick. LOL
My friends would never talk to me that way.

The last time I was told I couldn't do something.
Was right before I moved out of state.
I heard repeatedly you can't drive your car that distance.
Not only did I drive the distance I also got Caller ID after I moved in. LOL

That is so funny. I'm telling you, stori813, we need to start that stand up routine.;)

Yep. I hear the "YOU MEAN YOU DID THAT?!" with disbelief in the voice often. I just say "oh ye of little faith."

"No respect." ~ Rodney Dangerfield


~gourmet~

I get the "YOU did THAT???" thing fairly often.

But it actually gives me a sense of satisfaction, because it means I was succesful at my dumb act, which is much easier on me than seeming smart but acting dumb.

Some people think i'm rediculous, and a few look up to me which is all I would ever need in the world. I'm satisfied...that's all.

This made me laugh like crazy.

I"m nonadd but I have a terrible time gettin up in the morning, and so ALL my clocks in the house are set various minutes ahead (well you have to try SOMETHING):D

And I'm never fooled....and I"m ALWAYS late to work.:D :D :D

"What don't you set all your clocks ahead so that you won't always be late?"
(Why? Because we aren't s-t-u-p-i-d and we will know that we really still have time because we set our clocks ahead. Daaaaaaaaaaaaaa.)

I"m nonadd but I have a terrible time gettin up in the morning, and so ALL my clocks in the house are set various minutes ahead (well you have to try SOMETHING):D

That's the trick, really. Set all your clocks ahead, but by different amounts. And have one or two that are slow. That way, you are always kept guessing! :D

"You can do it!"

Thanks for the encouragement, but sometimes I simply can't...

"What don't you set all your clocks ahead so that you won't always be late?"
(Why? Because we aren't s-t-u-p-i-d and we will know that we really still have time because we set our clocks ahead. Daaaaaaaaaaaaaa.)This is a bit embarassing because I used to do this. It actually worked for me, because I'm really would forget I set my clock back. :o It was always such a relief when I arrived someplace late to walk in and find I had actually just made it on time. After a couple of years though, I finally did start to remember and was back to being late again.

Does that mean I'm s-t-u-p-i-d?:eyebrow:

Scattered

okay when I first broke down to tell my mom that I had been dx, her reaction made me sssoo mad. She said she did not know how I could have possibly gotten THAT!!!
Good Lord! It's not a venereal disease! Geez! :mad:

Let me guess...a well-minded Christian. As a Christian I hate it when people use that line on me or anyone else regarding ADD or any other problem you might have. Next time they say that ask them if they believe that God gave you "ADD" so that you might perform a special mission for him?? (Think Blues Brothers..."We're on a mission from God!" Guaranteed to blow their concept of "gifts". Then remind them of all the "special" people God used in the Bible, David the murderer/adulterer, Jacob the birthright thief, Moses the doubter, etc...

Sorry it got preachy...the self-righteous chap my hide...

Eric
Yeah, they chap my hide too. And I tell them to their faces. I usually give them this scripture in the Bible:

Matthew 15:8

For they praise me with their lips yet their hearts are from me
(Said by Jesus when speaking of the Pharisees and all their holier-than-thou B.S..)

Man, if Jesus was put off by the self-righteous, then I think it's OK that we are too!

You can do it!"

Yea but I don't remember wanting to!!!!!!!



I usually get
"That's NOT the way I do_______________(fill in blank)

Probably because YOU haven't thought of it!!!!




"I have been doing ______________longer than you I know things you don't "


yea and I know some things you don't. So I guess that makes us even



You can't do _______________!!!!!

If it isn't illegal or immoral hide and WATCH!!!!



"What makes you think you have ADHD"

What makes you think I don't



"Why do you do the things you do????

This I say out loud Just tp pis$ you off!!!! (To make stupid people ask questions!!!!)



"Why do you procrastinate why don't you just do it?"

Why do some thing I can get others to do for me out of shear fustration



"Why did you say that?????

Because that is what I thought

While growing up, I remember my mom constantly saying "I'm running 7 minutes late"...or "Tell them we'll be there in 7 minutes. We're running late"...

Everything was 7 minutes. (Not 6 minutes. Not 8 minutes. But 7 minutes.)

She used to set the clock ahead so she'd be on time but she was always "running 7 minutes late". She made it sound like she was always on time but this one time she was "running 7 minutes late". She was always 7 minutes late.

And no, you're not stupid for setting your clock ahead. People that think we are too stupid to have tried this technique are s-t-u-p-i-d. :)
A

That is so funny. I'm telling you, stori813, we need to start that stand up routine.;)

Yep. I hear the "YOU MEAN YOU DID THAT?!" with disbelief in the voice often. I just say "oh ye of little faith."

"No respect." ~ Rodney Dangerfield


~gourmet~
I get the "You mean you did that?" line but not after I've done something brilliant. (Which everybody tells me I can accomplish if I "just put my mind to it!") It's usually after I've done something stupid. Same words, different meanings, usually by-products of ADHD...

Eric

"it's an excuse for bad parenting."

"i'll bet you were raised in a single parent family." (i wasn't)

"you just need to apply yourself more." (k, great...how exactly does one do that?)

the stupid add/adhd joke that ends with, oh look a bicycle. I really hate that one.

"you can't be adhd, you can sit at type on the computer/read a book/whatever for long periods of time. adhd ppl all bounce off of the walls."

"you will grow out of it." (keep dreaming...dna doesn't suddenly mutate once we reach adulthood, to my knowledge.)

"my child can't be adhd he/she is very intelligent." (...duh)

"smoking marijuana makes my adhd better." (no it doesn't. and fyi, I'm allergic.)

ALL TIME WORST THING TO ASK SOMEONE WITH ADD/ADHD
"Like, can you sell me some of your meds?" (NO.)

"It is all in your head..." (said to me by my well-meaning former boss, and present friend)
Actually, this is true. :D

It's just "all" at the same time, "all" over the place and "all" the time. :D

What not to say to a parent of a hyper adhd/ocd/mood disorder child:

"I can't believe you are going to let him have that. It's full of caffeine and sugar."
(It has been my experience that if non-hyper kids have caffeine/sugar, it could make them hyper off the chart. If hyper kids have caffeine/sugar, it could cause a holistic effect of "like-cures-like" and brings them down to "normal". Just like medications such as Ritalin, etc... The like-cures-like effect is also seen in many vaccines such as the flu vaccine. They inject the flu bug to fight the flu bug. It's a strange concept but it works.)
How true this was for me. After school, I would go to my grandma and grandpa's house. I would down two 16oz. bottles of Pepsi and eat a three pack of frozen Twinkies. Then they would send me out to mow the lawn for a couple hours. I remember that time as "thinking time", a time to gather my thoughts. I was really able to focus and not get bored of mowing the lawn. By the time my mom would pick me up (9:00pm), I'm sure it was wearing off and I would start to get hyper again. ;)

People do say the silliest of things to ADDers ;

"CONCENTRATE!!"
(ffs i wish i could!)

" Is ADHD catching?"
(How stupid are some people?)

"Oh well.. you will grow out of ADHD"
(Doh!...We deal with it...Not grow out of it)

"Oh yes.. i'm Impulsive and can't concentrate..Do you think i've got ADHD?"
(I've heard that a few times... and it getting so tiresome, that i've started to say 'YES' lol)

"Where did you catch ADHD from?"
(Are people really this daft?!!... Did we catch it off a toilet seat? lol)

"Did you get ADHD from bad Parenting?"
(My Mother was/is abusive..*blah blah blah with sad true life story*..But it didn't cause ADHD)

"Ok...so you have ADHD,does that mean you need to have 100% attention from everyone?"
(Good Heavens.. how people twist things around!! Doh! We find it hard to Concentrate!.. not that we want others to concentrate on Us 100%!!)

"awwww.. Does having ADHD mean you will die at an earlier age?"
(*Gobsmacked*... Not that i know of!!!LOL)

"Why are you so dis-organised?"
(Having small piles of papers here and there and everywhere is being organised..isn't it? LOL)

"Does having to see a Psychiatrist for your ADHD, mean you are MAD?"
(Hahahahaha... Oh but of Course....NOT!)

"But how can you have ADHD?...It's a male disorder!"
(Well i guess i must be a male then! LOL)

"Does eating Smarties cause ADHD?"
(Noooooooooo.. but the additives and colourants doesn't help with hyper-activity... So the kids don't get any.. but i do Hahahaha!:D )

I'm sure there are more comments from people,i'll have to think more on the subject :eyebrow:

Karen :D

"Why do you procrastinate why don't you just do it?"

Why do some thing I can get others to do for me out of shear fustration

That's great!

"Does having to see a Psychiatrist for your ADHD, mean you are MAD?"


no but that could change at any second!!! especially the second I get to pay the bill!!!!!

"Why don't you write down the things you have to do in a little book?"

And how exactly am I supposed to remember where the little book is?


Haze

(first post)

"Adhd is not real. It's all a conspiracy made up by the pharmaceutical companies to sell more drugs."

...yeah, that's it EXACTLY. and the fact that it actually changed my life instantly is just a coincidence.

"Adhd is not real. It's all a conspiracy made up by the pharmaceutical companies to sell more drugs."

...yeah, that's it EXACTLY. and the fact that it actually changed my life instantly is just a coincidence. Yep, I'm with you on this one Ms Sunshine. It's like while I'm certainly interested in all the research out there, I did my own little study of one and it was an instant change for the better (okay it actually took 20 minutes - to effect more change than years of therapy:cool: ). How can these people who've never been in my shoes and experienced the difference tell me it's all a big conspiracy?

Scattered

Why are you always the last one to arrive at work???

cronic tardiness is a tough job but hey some one has got to do it


For me it is questions where the answer is obvious like"

Hey what are you going to do with a boat ???(my neighbor with keen observations skills asked while doging a fishing rod)

Push it off the nearest cliff to see if it flies. What do the inhabintants of YOUR planet do with boats....live under them??



Asked by new dude at hardware store...
Hey little lady what do you plan to do with those power tools???

Brain inplants



When I answer the phone:
What you doing???

Answering the phone?????

Oh yeah, fun remarks...

(Some of these are from my parents)

"You never did any homework. You are smart but you were so lazy in school."

"Learn to listen!"

"You're a disgusting slob."

"You didn't forget, you did that on purpose."

"Use a planner! I've already sent you about 15 of them."

"Why is it so hard to______? (pay a bill, not overspend, not procrastinate, send a card, etc.) You just have no consideration."

"You're too old to be living this way."

After being diagnosed:

"I knew something was wrong when you were little. I thought you were just creative and no one understood you."

"Well, if this treatment helps you be more responsible..."

"ADD is a myth. Your problems stem only from abuse and you need to take THAT seriously."

"Having a dirty house isn't a disorder. Most of my friends don't clean all the time."

"Illnesses happen because you must have committed a transgression. Did you do something wrong to cause this?" (That one was my favorite. It was from someone who studies Scientology.)

after my daugher was dx, the psyche and dr, both knowing that i too was adhd, told me that i had to teach my daughter organisational skills!! i told them that i can't organise myself to save my life, their response "just do it"..

oh and another one: ppl don't have adhd, they're just attention seekers!

and final one: you and your kid aren't feral - so you can't have adhd!

Before I was Diagnosed:
Didn't you just have a cup o' joe and a cigarette 10 minutes ago?

(In grade school from a psychiatrist to my parents)

There's nothing wrong with him...you just need to light a fire under his *****!

(adultness)
You've had 20 cups of coffee! How can you be tired!

Why can't you do things like normal people!

After D'xed and on meds (after i quit smoking):

How come your only having one cup of coffee?

How can you not be tired? you haven't had any caffine since this morning.

Why can't you do things like normal people!



And everthing from all the previous posts.

Only a few people know I have it, but I always hate hearing, "Are you sure you're not just imagining that you have ADD? You seem so normal!"

Yeah, I *like* baring my soul to a psychiatrist, writing down little messages on my windshield like "Close Garage Door", losing my way on the way back from a local store I've visited ten times and discovering in the middle of a meeting that I am actually wearing two different shoes. My life is boring and it makes things more lively. It also gets me lots of attention, especially the time with the two different shoes. ;)

I also like to repeat to myself what my psychiatrist told me: "You have ADD, but it does not define you - it's not everything you are. Everyone has their weak points and so do you. You're just getting help for yours."

my all-time favorites, said by my dad all the time as I was growing up,
"Don't be stupid!"
"Quit being a dips**t"
"Why can't you learn how to do anything?!"

note: I understood einstein's theory of relativity when I was six, and discussed advanced psychology with my teachers at 7...

Only a few people know I have it, but I always hate hearing, "Are you sure you're not just imagining that you have ADD? You seem so normal!"I hear you -- just today I was visiting my childhood church and my daughter was dancing around about to pull my arm out of it's socket. I said something about her coming by it honestly and my friend said, "But you seem so quiet!" Wow, you mean I don't act like a 3 year old anymore!:rolleyes:

What people don't get about being diagnosed with ADHD is that who in their right mind would take the time, money, and self revelation of the personal stuff they're least proud of if there weren't pretty significant problems they weren't managing very well themselves.

Scattered

"snap out of it."

Uh huh, it's THAT simple. Like if many of us had an on/off switch, we would deliberately choose to keep it switched to "on." rolling my eyes.

You are too hyper, Just relax
You are too loud or You are to quiet, Why are you so quiet?

Stori, you need to have a few snappy comebacks to those, especially the one about being too quiet. LOL Something along the lines of "I'm contemplating world peace."

Anything that makes the person who asked look surprised, because after all, if they're going to be asking you stuff like that all the time, you have to find a way to make it humorous for yourself. (You could always answer their question with another question. That's always fun.)

hey i love the eeroh pic

(What Not To Say To The ADD Child)

Stepfather in the living room giving out dollar bills for every A grade on my four younger siblings report cards.
Me in the kitchen with my mother screaming.

You have to stop acting slow.
I am tired of being embarrassed by your daydreaming in school.
You can pay attention you just don't want too.
You need to try harder in school.

At that point I stopped paying attention so I don't remember what else was said LOL

The one i HATE most is:

"I can tell you didnt take your medicine today"

that one makes me mad

And also:

"Your way to hyper! Calm down!"

My counsler at school says this:

"I will try to see you earlier when you arent so hyper"

UGH i hate those

"I am sure I said that to you, you just forget.

"You only say you have ADHD as an excuse to not be like everyone else"
(No, dammit! Maybe you're just a jelous little B!***)

Do you think that is going to work????

yea doesn't every one spend time and energry doing things in a way they figure won't

They say I have a disorder!!!!!

Pay attention!

Nope too costly!

My reply to that one, Scattered, is usually: Maybe if you were more interesting, I would be able to pay attention. LOL I've learned to bite my tongue a lot.

"You must not care, otherwise, you'd be getting A's. Mom and I, we KNOW you, we KNOW what you are capable of, but you're just not trying."

"Ritalin stunts a child's growth."

"Maybe you just weren't meant to be a scientist--we all have our natural talents, and science must just not be your 'thing.'"

"Everyone says they have ADD--you just like pop psychology labels."

"You must not care, otherwise, you'd be getting A's. Mom and I, we KNOW you, we KNOW what you are capable of, but you're just not trying."
If I had a dollar for everytime my parents used the "we KNOW you/we KNOW what you are capable of" line, why...I'd be a millionaire!!

Yeah...you KNOW me. Bull! You've never once listened when I tried to explain what was going on in my head. And yes...I AM trying...trying very hard not to scream at the both of you to PAY ATTENTION to what I'M trying to tell YOU! Trying to not feel like ***** when you berate me for getting C's and B' when you KNOW I can get A's!

There...I feel better. Thankyou onemoreyear...

Eric

My boyfriend jokingly called me "Scatterbrain" the other day.

I wanted to strangle him and break down into a fit of sobs at the same time.

I was endlessly called 'Scatterbrain' by my parents when I was a kid....usually with the full force of their anger, impatience, exasperation, and 'fed-up with me" looks and tone of voice. It was usually added to with a chorus of "why can't you just...." or "why don't you just...." or "why can't you do it like _________"....

I feel like I've spent my entire life (before I was diagnosed) trying to prove to them and to everyone else that I am not the 'Scatterbrain' I was as a kid. The effort and stress I put into this (unknowingly) nearly killed me.

Hearing him say it to me the other day (even jokingly) and my emotional reaction to it just made me realize how raw some of these wounds still are.

"hurry up !"
"can't you move any faster ?"
"we're going to be late !"

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"I already told you .... oh, just forget it"

"If you'd just START, you'd be done!"

I can't begin to *count* the times my mom has told me that, ever since I was a kid, and even now. It makes me upset even to read inspirational QUOTES about it!! (like "to begin is half the job" and stuff like that)

I also hate it when non-adders talk about meds. I don't even know why, becuase I'm not on any, but it's just somehow very sensitive for me. I don't mind people asking if I take meds or not, or what I've tried, but the second they start making judgements like "well maybe you should try one," or "I think drugs are bad" i just get SOOOO irretated, because I feel like they have no place to talk about it. My parents are at the top of this list - even though they don't make any judging statements, there is just somthing about the way they discuss my younger brother's "pills" that bothers me. (i.e., when he last took one, if they should give him one on the weekend, etc)

It really shouldn't bother me, becuas eas parents they are supposed to regulate medicine, and he is only in middle school. I don't know why I feel this way, but I JUST DO. Maybe it's the tone my mother uses when saying the word "pill" or "Adderall". It's like she's saying "I don't really want to use this word, or learn anything about it, but I have to say it becuase it's part of the sentance which I'm trying to say."

I'm sure this has been mentioned, but I hate it when I feel strongly about something and someone asks if I've taken my meds. Yes! But I still have feelings!

I also really hate when someone says, "You're not listening, because you don't care!"

Scattered

Why Do you take pills?
Gee, why do you think??

You say you took your meds, but you are still angry and out of control
Perhaps you caused it? Naww....

ADHD doesnt exsist
Oh really? Would you explain why I cant concentrate, am always hyper, and misbehave??

What the heck is wrong with you?? Why are you so out of control?
Gee, I have no idea...NOT

Are/Why are You mental?
Yes/Because i felt like it :D

Those pills aren't working for you
Really? I find my self a much better/nicer person when I take them.

One that my mum is constantly saying:
'You can't be bothered to remember' :mad:
(Yeah, right - she even fines me small amounts of money out of my £1.50 a week for not doing things. I still can't remember.) :(

'If you had ADD, you'd be running up the wall' :mad:

"Why don't you just make a list...."
(yeah... did that, then don't know where I put it... )

"You should make a budget...."
(sure... that's an easy one.. make the obvious more obvious...)

My infamous mom is always trying to offer solutions... refrain from resolutions and doing those wonderful things like offering to watch the kids for the day while I work... then folding and putting away the 10 loads of laundry I washed last week and are now covering my bed that I really meant to do... :o

"Why can't you just DO IT??"
Gotta love her tho... the rest of them... well... personal discretion must be used

Funny... now that after 31 years and a proper diagnosis (I hope) I finally know what's wrong... and she read the book... she laughs a little and sais... "that makes a little sense.. your father has many of the same traits..."

my father, after he read a book about ADD in which they mentioned that SOME ADDers have dyslexia: But you never had problems with reading....

(at 16, I was very anorectic... looked approximately like Ally McBeal, at her worst...
my parents said: you do not have anorexia, cause you do not exercise excessively.????)

You are just perfectionistic... (My boss would see that differently)

No therapy in the world can solve all your problems (I'd be happy about some less)

About not being able to start wth something: No God can help you with that.

(OK, what am I going to do now? Apply for disability?)

My sister, who smokes since her 12th birthday, who is 3 times a week so very drunken she gets problems next morning: I'd never take ritalin. It is so harmful!

(Well, you should have a look at studies about ritalin and about alcohol+cigarettes...
It's sad, she is my younger sister and I love her, but if she continues like that, I'm sure I'll live longer.)

These are all from my parents:
"Have you taken your meds today?"

"Why are you cutting back on your Adderall?" (After I already mentioned that I didn't have to concentrate as much [no homework], it was after 5pm and taking the full 20mg kills my appetite for hours and sometimes makes my heart beat fast)

"You wouldn't be good at [fill in the blank] because you don't move quickly [write papers easily, etc.]" (Gee Mom, what would I be good at that doesn't require these things? Plus, it's a bit demoralizing for someone to tell you that you wouldn't even be able to work at McDonald's because you don't move quickly).

"We don't understand? Do you know just how much we've had to spend on finding help for you?" (Hello, guilt!)

(when I was a teenager on Ritalin and about 90-95 pounds)
"You should try to eat more."
"So and So is on Ritalin/Dexedrine and he/she isn't this skinny."
"Do you want to be like a butterfly flitting through life?"

If you would just apply yourself!
Are you listening to me?! (usually im not :-D )
Thats a stupid idea!

Everyone has a little ADD

No, not everyone does, its a neurochemical thing, seriously... this one ****es me off to no end....

Oh, you dont like me moving your things?

Seriously... if you move my stuff, i have no idea where it was, my mom does this to both me and my dad(who has adhd) and it frusturates us to NO END, im glad im at college now.

You are so disorginized

No im not, your over-orginized


Pay attention

Huh?


How can you have ADHD, you are smart.

Yes... Einsten had ADHD and he wasnt stupid....


So if you cant focus, why dont you just try?

Probably because i cant focus on focusing in the first place....


How come you arnet always unable to focus

Because something is interesting to me... and you dont know what you are talking about


How come you dont take meds for your ADHD

Not only do I react negatively to them, but it also perpetuates the social institutions that uphold your ignorant views of my condition, frankly, there is nothing wrong with me.

Honestly... i hate all the stigmas that are associated with ADHD and how they think its such a disorder, I dont take meds, and frankly, I dont want to, why? because as i said above... there is NOTHING wrong with me. I just hate all of the social baggage that comes along with this and how so many of my teachers are so ignorant of how much this condition affects me for the way their "objective" structure for everything is.

"Have you taken your meds today?"I absolutely HATE that one!!!:mad: I get that all the time from friends when I
am bad and hyper. Thats probably the one I hate most.

You are so disorginized

No im not, your over-orginized


How can you have ADHD, you are smart.

Yes... Einsten had ADHD and he wasnt stupid....


So if you cant focus, why dont you just try?

Probably because i cant focus on focusing in the first place....


How come you arnet always unable to focus

Because something is interesting to me... and you dont know what you are talking aboutI love all those responses to much!!!!!

"Ground control to Major Tom" (My name is Tommie), "Everyone has ADD", "You're memory problems are just passive-aggressiveness. You don't have any trouble remembering things you like doing." (this particular statement was made during the time that my difficulties were thought to be caused by major depression), "Labels like ADD are just excuses to avoid taking responsibility for your character defects." "The symptoms of depression mimic ADD."

Yeah, I hate that one too! I decided the next time I hear it I'm going to say...."yeah, but you're not smart enough to have ADD...but we all like to watch you do stupid things anyway." :D

:D Now, that's funny!!! May I borrow please?

Why are you always the last one to arrive at work???

cronic tardiness is a tough job but hey some one has got to do it


For me it is questions where the answer is obvious like"

Hey what are you going to do with a boat ???(my neighbor with keen observations skills asked while doging a fishing rod)

Push it off the nearest cliff to see if it flies. What do the inhabintants of YOUR planet do with boats....live under them??



Asked by new dude at hardware store...
Hey little lady what do you plan to do with those power tools???

Brain inplants



When I answer the phone:
What you doing???

Answering the phone?????
These struck me as hilarious!!! Thanks for the best laugh I've had in months Tammy. I wish I had your gift for quick answers, because I've sure been asked a few dumb questions in my time. Usually I am struck dumb by the dumbness and it takes me a while to get my voice working again!

I wish I had your gift for quick answers,

Some times my mouth is humorous :D other times it is :foot: :o


Asked by resident man who talks more than I do (until I met him didn't know this was possible)

Him: "How come you keep ignoring me when I am talking"

Me: "If it makes you feel better I also ignore you when you sleep!"

more male frequents"

Him:"Why am I always running around in circles?"

Me:"Because you don't have a tail to chase"

Him:"How come I am always going and going but never getting any thing done?"

Me: "Because you aint no ADHD"

Him: "How come you just won't do_________"

Me: Because I don't want to do ____________ isn't that obvious?"

Him: "Why am I sweating my butt off outside working while you are sitting inside where it is cool playing on the computer?"

Me: "Because I didn't have to go out in it and do work to figure out it is too hot outside . This computer comes complete with weather dot com"

Him: "Why does the computer work for you but not me."

Me: "I am smarter than the computer."

Him: "Why am I sweating my butt off outside working while you are sitting inside where it is cool playing on the computer?"

Me: "Because I didn't have to go out in it and do work to figure out it is too hot outside . This computer comes complete with weather dot com" LOL, I love this one, gotta remember it.

I was visiting my dad once queueing/queuing/queue-ing (<<someone help me here I can't find my dictionary) for something me and my dad got talking to this couple in front of us (I remember now, it was at a amusement park (I think it was cedar point not sure)) anyway, my dad mentioned that I was visiting him from england:

Dad: yeah, this is my son he's come to visit me from england.

women: oh really?, I've always wanted to go to england, whats it like?

Me: It's pretty much the same as america apart from different accent (or no accent depends on the perspective :P), places are alot more closer together and petrol is a rip off.

---convo continues--

women: and what language do you speak in england?, do you know?.

Me: *Completely dumbstruck!*

Dad: *long pause* ....english!

I mean come on!....firstly if you don't know what language english people speak I'll give you a clue ENGLISH!,christ almighty, and for god sake 'do you know?' do I know! you funnily i've only been living in england for 17 years out of 20 and still I can't even begin to pick up the language let alone knowing it's name, I've just been speaking 'american' (i mean what is with that anyway 'I speak american not english') drives me up the wall, maybe I had too much belief in people but I pretty much thought every american knew the answer to that problem.

**for those out there it's spelt queueing, I forgot about using google (I love google) :rolleyes: **

I get
"what planet *are* you on?"
"go take another pill"
"stand still and LISTEN to me"
"Mum, no wonder everyone get's so annoyed with you"

women: and what language do you speak in england?, do you know?.

Me: *Completely dumbstruck!*




ROFL.......I would have told them Portuguese ...


yea goggle has a translator aspect also that works pretty good...now if they would only add the language dyslexic ......I speak English but write gibberish so I have to do the spell checking thing using a dyslexic spell checker so word has a clue what it is I am trying to spell!!!