I am new to this forum. My 9 year old son has ADHD and is on Concerta. He was diagnosed by our GP in kindergarten. I put him in private school last year because public school was a nightmare- he simply was not learning and we had many behavior issues. since in private school- things are better- we do have some challenging days- but better.
My issue is this, my son tends to be impusive- do any of you other parents find this to be the case? Yesterday he and his dad went to a grocery store in our area- while inside, one of the store workers told my husbad that my som was trying to steal a candy bar and put it in his pocket. My husband didn't see this- and my son denies it.
I am pretty sure he is lying- but he will not come clean. I can't just accuse with out knowing for sure though.
Has anyone else had a similar issue or can share advise with me?
thanks
ellima01

he's not going to come clean about it because he is young and afraid of the consequences...

i did that as a child as well...the only way my mom stopped me because i was stealing things from other kids at school....was to make me write apology letters and give those things back..

STill, to this day, my mom doesn't know if I did it or not...but I always remember that I did and her taking action like that was the best thing to make me learn...sometimes humiliation, although it may seem harsh, works...depending on the situation....

i'm probably way off, but good luck :D

My daughter says she likes to collect things,,,, but when I started finding peoples missing jewelry (they were pretty), money (to give to the school to save the rainforest), candy (because obviously she felt she didn't get enough), little broken things that were shiny (she likes shiney things i guess) and peoples clothes that far from fit her (they felt nice and were pretty) I had to address the issue. She didn't feel like she was stealing, just collecting things but I made her understand that what she was doing was just as bad as going into a store and taking money from the register. She truly didn't connect the two. I don't know if this helps but she doesn't steal any more.

I can't just accuse with out knowing for sure though.
I agree. Probably the best you can do is have a little talk about how "it is wrong to take things that don't belong to you" and "how would you feel if someone took something of yours" without accusing your son. Then I would keep a much closer watch on him when you are shopping.

Yes, ADHD kids are impulsive; one of the criteria for diagnosis. :D