I was confronted today about this forum lol. I was told that as part of my weekly case management I need to set a goal to limit my use of this forum. My case Manager told me I am spending too much time learning about my problem and so therefore nothing my Dr. does is gonna help because I know all the side effects of everything and so therefore I am going to be looking for the side effects and I am gonna find them.

I tried to tell her that I hardly had any of the side effects that people get with straterra and she said what about the prozac. Well duhhhh I took that when I was 14 and hated it and i didn't know the side effects then not to mention that this site really doesn't discuss the side effects of prozac that I have seen.

Anyway,,, they say I spend too much time here and I have even cut down alot in the past week. This kind of sucks!! I will be glad when I am out of here with a differant job and a place to live that is not on the same property. I guess I am supposed to be ignorant to my issues like the rest of the people I encounter on a daily basis.

Maybe this job is just not for me or maybe I am just too damn close. Most people can go home at the end of the day and have a seperate life but living here and working here too allows for all the counselors to be all in my life as well as my kids. Turns out my daughter was the topic of discussion at a meeting last night.

I usually would not mind but someone who has never spent 5 minutes with my daughter who is supposed to be working with my daughter told everyone that my daughter is very withdrawn around men. Well go figure dude,,, she does not talk to strangers and you are just a stranger to her.

How dare he say some **** like that when he has not taken a moment to even try to get to know my daughter. It is not her fault he has failed to do his job and so he has to think quick and come up with something. Now it looks to them like maybe there is something more going on. Luckily her regular child advocate was there and came by to see me today.

So I told her that this guy has not spent any time with my kids to know if she is withdrawn from men. Thankfully my daughter will be keeping her current child advocate but my son will be seeing the new one. Wonder what he will have to say about him. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

I am not going to sit here and say that my daughter does not have any issues because she does,,,, she is so extremly emotional that she cannot go even a few hours without crying on some days and well,,, the rest of her issues I have posted else where,,,,, but for somewho who don't even know her to use her to make himself look good really ticked me off.

Everyone here thinks they know what is best for me and my kids and sometimes I am made to feel like I have to live by their rules and raise my kids their way and I just can't do it much longer. I have to find a way out soon. It doesn't matter that I am not a client any more and that I work here now,,,,,,, the rules still apply. So,, I am only going to be online in the early morning and a while in the evening when it is just me here.

Thanks for listening

everyone that my daughter is very withdrawn around men. Well go figure dude,,, she does not talk to strangers and you are just a stranger to her.

It does take time for kids to warm up to people they don't know what kind of though process thinks a child is going to spill guts out five minutes after meeting them.

Even if she is shy or withdrawn around men sooo what!!!!! Where is the big deal here it isn't unusal for this to happen...... :confused:

I have a daughter (NOT the one who post here I have three girls in all)that hated all men except her dad, brother, grandfather,,,it was a phase sort of.....even now as an adult she prefers any counslers or social workers ect to be female. She just prefers to discuss emotional stuff with women it is a preference not an abnormality.!!!! :mad:

I tend to have male friends so what???? It just happens that way nothing wrong with it ....what is the big deal???????? I am just failing to get it... :eyebrow:


Everyone here thinks they know what is best for me and my kids and sometimes I am made to feel like I have to live by their rules and raise my kids their way and I just can't do it much longer.


Can't blame you here....I would already be nuts if not incarcerated, instutionlized ect....Do all employees live "on site"?????...I mean work should be work and home should be home....I know the distinction can be hard as my partner and I live and work together. Things at work can effects our home life causing things to can get mixed up but he doesn't tell me what I can and can not do with my on-line time. He told me I could come here I would tell him to eat a bug!!!!!! :soapbox:



My case Manager told me I am spending too much time learning about my problem

Gee I had to pop over to your public profile and see what profession would encourage ignorance about ones condition!!!! In my nursing profession I have found the more educated a person is about thier condition the better they were in managing the symptoms!!!!! This does NOT compute...surly as patient advocates you do NOT advocate ignorance in your patience!!!!!! This is contrary to medical practice and standards in nursing care!!!

I have seen diabetic children educated in thier condition so they could participate in there own care...That is the optium situation is to have a patient participate in thier own care and education is one of the most important ways patients can care for themselves!!!!!! How can a patient make good decisions about thier medical/mental care if they aren't first educated about their condition!!!! :eek: :soapbox: :faint:

From a medical prespective as well as an adult with ADHD this deterent in self education about ones own condition is down right alarming!!!!!!!
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and so therefore nothing my Dr. does is gonna help because I know all the side effects of everything and so therefore I am going to be looking for the side effects and I am gonna find them.


This is asinine to say the least...if knowing side effects is such a bad thing why is it pharmacies are required to include a patient information sheet which tell about common side effect adverse reactions, which foods to avoid ect... these sheets accompany every prescription I recieve from the pharmacy therefore educationing patients about thier medications can NOT be a bad thing.

Knowing about the medications you take and how they effect your system, foods to aviod along with other things that can change inhance/decrease medications effects is also part of the patient education!!!!!! :soapbox:

All this sounds soooo wrong!!!!! :mad: :mad:



So,, I am only going to be online in the early morning and a while in the evening when it is just me here.

Hey we'll take all of you we can get.;) .sorry you are having to go through this.....

You know,,, I want to print this out and hand it to my director but I think if I did, I would be finding a new place to live alott quicker than I can afford lol.

I am the only employee that lives on the property. It is a domestic violence shelter and I was a client at one time and then they asked me to work here as the client advocate. I thought that was great because that is an honor that does not come around every day. There hasn't been a client advocate here for 2 or 3 years. It would have been great, if my life was seperate from my job. I sat down last night and decided that I am spending all of next week out looking for another job. I will save up my money and bide my time here till I can get my own place and get on with my life. After this,, I can get a job in a differant shelter that I am not so involved with. I do love my work when my kids and I are not the topic of discussion.

Maybe I will print this all out and hand it to the director on my last day here lol.

I am thinking I may move to Orlando soon anyway so my kids can be closer to their dad and he won't have an excuse not to come get them any more lol.

Thanks again for your post :D

Maybe he came on too strong.For crying out loud,she dosnt even know him!!! I know this probably really upset you,I would be livid! I couldnt imagine working and home life being mixed together,even though I dont work now.I think your right,looking for another job might be beneficial for you and your bambitos. About the comment about your meds and your time on the forum,sometimes people just have to say something,even when they dont know what they are talking about!!LOL!!!! Its just plain ignorance and I would blow it off.Dont get me wrong though,I would definetely nip it in the bud.Like,"thank you for your thoughts but Ill pass on this discussion."Everyone has opinions but that dosnt mean you should have to endure ignorant comments.You can put them in place very easy.Remember to be graceful about it though.That always works better than blowing up.LOL!!!!!!Feel better Draven.

Draven would it be all right if I pm'd you about this?

Draven would it be all right if I pm'd you about this?

Of course,,, feel free to pm me anytime.

I was confronted today about this forum lol. I was told that as part of my weekly case management I need to set a goal to limit my use of this forum. My case Manager told me I am spending too much time learning about my problem and so therefore nothing my Dr. does is gonna help because I know all the side effects of everything and so therefore I am going to be looking for the side effects and I am gonna find them.



Wow, I can't believe it..........................Someone on the same page as myself.
I also have a case manager and I live relatively on my own and have a job and tranistiioning out of the mental health system as well though im still part of the company in a way. My counselours (i dont like to phrase them as staff anymore) and my case manager and management at the company im a client at says the same thing. I think its ignorant too that they say you shouldnt look at side effects or be on forums or get support as well. And how they make assumptions about things like that. I sure am not walking around and being ignorant and im getting the support i need myself. Theres a lot that they dont understand about needing to connect. Its a part of growing in yourself too and helping yourself. Counselours and mental health professionals freak too much about that stuff if your in a system it seems like. They think you shouldnt be human. Wouldnt they reach out if they suffered? If they didnt there would be something wrong with them in my mind. And they should be commited and put in a system in my opinion.

I just do it anyway........................................Go on the forums and the whole bit. I would rather be educated then stupid about things and have a network of people to turn to since they would be too ignorant to understand anyway.

Finally though, someone in the same boat. I thought I was an alien til I saw this post.

Tips up to you Draven!! :D

Katie

Yeah,, ,I have decided what they do not know,,,, is none of their concern so I am on here when they are not here. It makes it easier since I work here too because there are days that no one comes in or are at the other facility (like today) and I can be here as much as I want then and then there are my regular days that I work when I am the only one here so to heck with it. I just have to learn to keep my mouth shut about the interesting things I learn or anything I talk about on here to (staff) counselors and just play stupid. I can do that pretty easily lol. I figure, I am grown so what is it to them anyway. Good luck in your situation,,,, let them know that support is support no matter where it comes from.

I just can not concieve of people in many type of health care profession encouraging ignorance!!!! It is simply inconcievible!!!! Are these counslers relices from the 1950's?????

Following orders and converting to rules other than my own ..especially when it came to what I KNOW is Best for me was and never will be my strong suit, other than the ADD forums(kissin butt 101...take notes :D) They may wanna put on the illusion they are in control, but I found out a long time ago, the one person in real control of you is you.....you do what you know is best for you;)